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can't get over it!!!
okay so there is this girl that my boyfriend and his friends used to be obsessed with. they always talked about her and thought she was the hottest thing alive. well now i have been dating my boyfriend for a verrry long time and he hasn't talked about her at all ever since we first started going out. but i can't help but feel upset whenever i think about how he used to talk and stuff. especially when we see her at school. i always think he is going to look at her and be intrigued or whatever. he always says that no one is prettier than me but i think he might think that she is. it doesn't seem like it should be a big deal.. but for some reason it is to me. i don't know how to get over these feelings. please help
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i can't really give you advice on this, but i will give you my opinion:
me & my boyfriend go to different schools, and we have been together for 6 months or so. before me he dated this girl for 2 years, and they go to the same school.
i always stress & worry & get jealous over this girl for no apparent reason.
i worry because they're at the same school & i picture the fact that what if he's thinking about her, or what if she looks pretty today, or what if he wants her back.
i mean the smallest things bother me. i hate seeing her name & i hate hearing people talk about her because it makes me think that maybe he's thinking about her too.
the best advice that i can give you, is the fact that he is YOUR boyfriend - not hers. & if he didn't want to be with you, then he wouldn't be.
at one point in time, your boyfriend was attracted to that girl, but now he has you & he is attracted to you. & i understand how hard it is to be jealous & worry, because i do it daily, but sometimes you just have to accept the fact that he loves you & wants to be with you, and if he still wanted to be with her or anything of the sort, then he would.
& sometimes it is good to talk to him about her. let him know how much you stress over it. although everytime my boyfriend & i talk about his ex we always fight, and maybe you & your boyfriend would have better luck.
buuut i wish you the best & just try not to think about it.
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honestly come out with him and just tell him how you feel. make sure he realizes you have a minor problem with the whole thing. i'm sure he thinks you're gorgeous, listen to me. if he wanted her, then why is he with you? :)
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