Hey, I am Cj from Belize. Some may also call me Christopher. Others call me crazy.
You probably never heard of my country before but that is alright. Check for it on a map, it is right under mexico. And please don't direspect my country. Many of my ancestors have fought to make the country independent. ANd so did my grandparents and my father. And when I am old enough, I shall give back to my country its rightful due.
I will answer your questions according to what I think, not what you want to hear or what others are saying. I think for myself. And If you don't or can't think for yourself....
stop wasting your time in life.
And if you hate my advice, please explain why so that I can improve on it. Don't tell me that I am stupid and that you hate me, because I don't care what you think of me.
E-mail: power_cjwaight@yahoo.com
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Location: Belize
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Age: 16
AIM: my aim is to be # 1
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theres this guy, andrew. i like him a lot. I kind of knew him last year, but i know him a lot better this year. he's the sweetest thing ever.
he always asks me about myself. but recently, he's been acting weird. he'll ask me something and seem genuinely interested, but as soon as i respond, it seems like he loses interest completely. why would he do that?
oh and ps, i saw that in your about me you wrote a lot about your country. I just wanted you to know that i went there last year, and I thought it was absolutely beautiful. I would love to live there, and you're so lucky to. (link)
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Firstly, every one is different, so it is kinda difficult to pin down the exact reason he is doing it. But there can be some causes to this kind of behaviour.
1) he has grown bored with life. He is tired of just talking, and wants to go out there and do do something. So he starts up a conversation with the intention of getting some excitement, but then he just loses that sense for a while.
2) he might like you, I dunno but i found this happening to myself. When i would go out and talk to the girl that I like, I just couldn't pay attention to her. I felt like I knew what she was going to say, so I didn't put in too much effort into actually hearing what she had to say. (Luckily for me, all my guesses as to what she would say matched, so no problems.)
3) It might just be the opposite scenario. He is looking up this other girl right? or was thinking about another one, and then looked at you and you just don't seem good enough. He knows he likes you so he asks you this cool question, but as soon as you start talking he feels like, "dude, this girl is cool, but she lacks something and I do not even know why I am talking to her."
4) or in a scenario related to #3 he knows you and you two are good friends, and he just kind find anything wrong with you, and it starts to bug him. You are kinda perfect in a sense, but that "emotion" for you is not there. So he is doing the cool friend thing and talking to you, but he tunes out because he just can't believe that you are so cool. He is unsure of what is out there in the world, so he feels reluctant to be your friend.
I am not sure, it depends on the type of guy.
You say he is the sweetest thing so I will make an assumption that he is some kind of gentleman. (if he wasn't there would be a whole next pile of reasons). But hey, everyone is different, it could even be something far out like he had a dream that you were the devil.
Hope I helped,
Cj
About Belize, Yeah it is cool, but our rainy season is just finishing. We had rain everyday from October 25th until January 2nd this year. Now it has stopped raining so I can finally go about the place again.
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16/F(me!)-I have a close friend (16/M)who I have strong feelings for.We spend lots of time together and text alot and recently I had no choice but to tell him about the way I felt (he'd heard from one of my so called 'friends'). He told me he just wanted me as a friend.
But then he comes to my house at bizzare hours and says he wants to talk! And if I mention that I want to get out of the house he'll immediately say "me too, meet up with me".
But at school he largely ignores me. And he flirts with just about every girl he sees- constantly!
Also, when we were applying for colleges he convinced me to apply to the same college as him- he said he didn't want to be without me. I got in but now he doesn't mention it and is considering accepting a place at a different college.
What is going on? Does he like me, does he not? Is he using me as some kind of back-up plan? I'm so sick of hankering after him. Sometimes I feel like I just want him out of my life. Then, other times, I think he likes me to and we could have a future together.
I'd just like your opinions on his behaviour please, every observation or piece of advice is welcome!
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You know why?
Because he himself is unsure of his feelings for you.
In his mind, there must be some prettier cooler girl out there.
But at the same time, he cannot deny how cool you are and how fun you are to be around, and how compatible you two are together. But despite your coolness and everything, he does not have that sort of emotion for you, because he kinda knows that you are as perfect as things can get for him, and is afraid that "hey, i fell in love early so now wild parties with a lot of girls in my life".
So There is a part of him that likes you, but it isn't sufficient. This is because he feels there is something more to life "parties!".
That is why he goes around to other girls, they are prettier and might offer that exciting future. but somehow, they are not as friendly as you are. (so that bugs him)
So now he is stuck, and he probably knows he is stuck, but can't help it.
I am sorry for you, and I hope you understand that he is just kinda in limbo, and hopefully he figures out what's up soon enough.
Cj
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15/f
ok i know this is going to sound very weird, but i am in love with my english teacher. I can't help it, it's not just a silly crush that can go away. But i'm not an idiot, obviously i have a
.000000000000000000000001 % chance of anything happening with her, i understand that. She is a poet, amazing, beautiful. I really like creative writing, like i'm very good at fiction, an I know she realizes that.
I'm just wondering, because i'm even happy just going to class everyday and seeing her, i want to impress her, so i'm just wondering, what can I do? Not to flirt or something like that, just to make her notice me, think highly of me, i don't know, but i am so in love and so desperate to impress her, is that wrong? what should i do? (link)
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Well
I think it is wrong on many levels.
1 it is a teacher
2 it is a chic teacher.
I reccomend you go to your mom and dad and tell them what you think about this teacher. If you don't want to go to mom and dad, ask yourself why.
If you know you are really in love with your teacher, you won't give a damn about what your parents think. And when your finish, tell your best friend your feelings too.
I think you should sit down, and just pretend like nothing ever happened.
Cj
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I am wondering what to get my long distance boyfriend for valentines day. We have been together on and off for a little over a year now and we agreed this valentines day that we would not spend a lot on eachother since that is money we can put towards seeing eachother when we are on breaks from school. Neither one of us is super romantic so I don't really want anything too mushy.
Any ideas of what I could do for him for Valentines day? (link)
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Buy a roll of film, and snap away like crazy. and then send it to him, include some pics of yourself and places you hang out when your together.
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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 months now and going on our 8th, we was so great the first 5 months and then we started fighting over nothing, and i hate it when i fight with her because i love her and i dont want to lose her and i dont know what to do to stop the fighting. so what should i do? (link)
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Take it like a MAN.
and then she will realise she is being silly.
Then everything goes back to normal.
And if it doesn't,
you were the MAN. so it is her loss.
DONE
Cj
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I worked with this guy a while ago, i had a crush on him and we kinda flirted here and there, but then he quit. I didnt talk to him much or see him. But then i found him on facebook and we've been catching up. I didnt think anything of it though. Well yesterday he randomly asked "if your free and intrested do you wanna catch a movie or something on saturday night?" oooh what did he mean by intrested...intrested in him? lol well i said ya and we are going i just dont know what to expect...i havent seen him in a while. thanks for the advice in advance:D (link)
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Duh,
Are you interested in going to watch a movie with him.
It just bad wording, but he just was asking is you wanna go watch a movie together.
thats all.
Cj
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ok so me and this guy have been dating for almost three months. ever since we have dated i have had random blocked phone numbers call me saying i am a dick and not to hurt him... and how much they hate me... so i told my boy and he took care of that.. and latly the people have been spreading rumors that i am cheating on him and saying shit behind his back... and he is starting to double think our relationship... and he says he loves me to much to let me go but i am really scared that he is and i want to keep him cause this is the first boy i have really like this much... so what should i do to have them stop saying stuff to me and make my boy not believe it?? please help thanks (link)
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thats easy
PROVE IT!
prove you are not cheating on him.
How you will do that is another story, but it can be proven with trust.
Just do alot of trusthworthy things, and kinda keep in close contact with him, and kinda tell him how your day went etc.
Simple things go a long way.
Cj
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I was going out with this one guy that I really liked for a little over a month. But then he started wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and all that stuff. He called me a million times a day and when I didn't answer his call he'd keep calling until i'd pick up. or he'd leave messages cussing at me asking why the f*** I wasn't answering my cell. Plus, he wanted all my time and if I was busy, he would just ask to come with me and do it too or come with me and my friends. So, I broke up with him.
Now, he calls me still and leaves a million more messages, wants to be "friends" and now he's bugging me even more now then he did when we were going out. He says, "I love you, babe" and all that crap.
should I take it or call the cops or what??
please help me! (link)
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Ok. Block him on msn or whatever is a step.
two, if he calls just don't answer, and why bother to read his messages or hear voice messages,
and if he knows where you live...........
NEVER GIVE THAT INFORMATION OUT TO PEOPLE YOU JUST MEET!
then the cops are a good thing to do too.
Cj
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im 16 and my bf is 19. we want a baby so badly. but thats only what we want. my mom would kill me and him. but what if it happens soon. (link)
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What on earth do you mean if it happens soon?
Don't you have any form of self control?
How long have you known this dude, long enough to know how he would respond to most situations?
And you are 16, you get pregnant now, wait, THATS ILLEGAL! because the dude is over 18.
SO like, if you love this dude, and don't want your mom to sentence him to jail time, don't be sexually active.
look up "statutatory rape" thats ONE of the things he would be charged with.
Cj
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ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and sometimes i think about breaking up with him .. i love him more than anything .. i guess its just because im young and i kind of want to experience other things. but i cant picture not being with him. hes my everything my best friend im not sure what i should do! (link)
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Well, why do you want to break up with him? There must be some reason. And then you decide if that reason is messing you enough that you want to leave him.
And figure out how long you can live with the reason if you decide to keep him. And if you plan to keep him for life and what kind of husband he would make etc.
If your dating him for no reason at all, then thats just weird.
And still go around and do more things, what is stopping you? If he is, then ask him if he would deprive you of something you want. If he answers he won't explain how you would like to do more stuff with the world. If he is cool with it, stick with him. If not, well work something out in your head.
Or, you can make your relationship slowly grow apart if anything.
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Hi,
okay so my boyfriend is 3 years older than me and we've been going out for 4 months. He keeps pushing me into doing things. About 3 or 4 weeks ago he pushed me into having sex and i didnt want to because of pregency and stuff. He made me and all of a sudden i was having sex with him. i keep trying to talk to him telling him that im not ready to have sex and stuff but he wont listen. we used protection but im scared of becoming pregnant. I really need help to talk to him and having him listen to me. please. thanks. (link)
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Why do you love him? Why do you stick with him if you are not happy with him? And if he did not listen to you in the past, what makes you think he will listen to you in the future?
Cj
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I'm in the 8th grade...
Well I've never had a boyfriend before. And I really want to get one around this time of age... but the problem is I have seen so many cute guys in my school that I have a crush on (5 or 6 to be exact). I really dont know who I like better. They are all wonderful guys. I need advice on what to do... I really want to flirt with my top crush (the guy I like best) but all of my crushes are almost the same... So basically I'm saying that I have alot of crushes and don't know how to choose one... :/
somebody help me?! (link)
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Number of things.
but basically, I reccomend you wait a while.
Guys will change when they enter high school, plus it will give you a chance to see which one will remain the best.
And you don't need a boyfriend ok?
It ain't worth it. Trust me. Not right now, wait two more years or so.
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Ok i've been trying not to call my boyfriend and see if he would ever call me,but he never had except once. But that was awhile back
So does he still like me are not????
How can I get him to like me more to????
6th grader (link)
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ok, so we are dealing with a sixth grade relationship here. interesting.
ok, so he does not call you.(wonder why?) Guys don't like calling girls. They don't like using the phone at all.
He probably he still likes you, but you do not have any details in this question. like "age, brief history of relationship, why you want him to call?" A guy will not call unless he has a purpose, a motive or a reason to call.(no, to call you because it is you is not a reason) see guys won't call just to chat, that is kinda hard to materailise in a dude's brain, especially at that age. See I am sixteen, and I use my cell phone almost never, I text my mom when I travel on the bus to tell her i reached safely otherwise, Screw my phone.
Don't call him. Tomorrow is school, see if he walks over to you or even looks at you. Your questions will all be solved with time.
How do you get him to like you more? Well, you gotta know what he likes about you in the first place, then work on that. Just look really pretty. Believe it or not, guys don't like girls such as yourselves using make-up, they like gils like you in thier natural look (without make-up!)And dudes dig smart girls too.
I would reccomend the following. try to get to talk to him alone (o-o). It won't be easy but don't push it, let it come naturally, it will happen sooner or later. And ask him why he does not call. There will be no damn way of making him understand why he should call, but if he calls, that means he really likes you.
But see, you are set. Nothing to worry about, he still likes you.
Ps. This situation is brilliant. You have a lot to learn my lickle friend.
Cj
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Okay, so theres this boy in my school 'steve', hes a senior...and hes like a god {well u know what i mean} and we hang out sometimes and i really really like him, His cousin 'rob' is my age and he's best friends with steve. Rob tells steve to back off and not like me. Steve does sense they are best friends. I don't know if steve likes me..because he can have almost any girl he wants, and hes usually into blondes {i'm brunette} but i still think i have a chance. He's the kind of boy who expects BJ's after like a week though. and i'm NOT into that...any advice?! Should i ask him to hang out more or something? (link)
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Ok, here is attempt #2
You like this guy Steve. You claim he is like a god or like a celebrity. I believe you are saying so because he is hot or good looking or whatever.
However, your crush on him seems to be solely on his looks, which is a little vain on your part. You should not just like a guy because he has a pretty face, there should be some substance to him which makes him a real man.
You claim that if you become his girlfriend, you do not want to give him BJs (I don't know what that is, but it sounds promiscous to me). And If that is all he wants, he is pretty low too.
As a warning, if you do get him, he has the power to get any other girl, so it would be easy come easy go for you.
I would say you do not get to be his gf but there is no reason not to become his close friend. In fact, I would reccomend becoming his close friend. then plan out your next move.
This guy sounds a little promiscous. see, guys don't gid slutty girls, so why should you dig a guy like that? you better than that, come on.
And as for asking him to hang out more...
don't bow down to a dude like that. Beg no-one, follow your own rules and your rules alone. If you have to ask to be closer to him, then odds are he does not naturally want to hang out more. Let him see things your way first.
Ps. I am just trying to say the same thing as I said before, just in different words. Thanks for not spranging at me for getting it wrong, if I am still wrong well, thanks for being polite.
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ok so i have a boyfriend
who goes to another school
and like i really like him and stuff
but on friday we had this dance
and like it was like this huge grindfest
and like i grinded w/ other guys
and like it wasnt that big of a deal
is that considered like cheating on my bf?
xox thanks (link)
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It is not really cheating, but he will get pissed when he finds out.
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I have been spending alot of time with this guy. We have both told eachother that we like eachother and we kiss and last night we held eachother. Basicly Its obvious to everyone that we like eachother. Well, yesterday my friend was talking to him and she asked him "If she asked you out what would you say." and he said that he would say yes! So now my problem is, how do I ask? I want it to be sweet and cute but not over done. Just simple and easy but still cute. any suggestions? please help! (link)
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simple thing,
"Things are boring now-a-days, aren't they?"
"yeah,"
"hey, if you are free this friday, maybe we can hang out?"
"sure"
and that basically it. Of course, you can make it al lot more fancier. "Things are boring nowadays, but you keep them interesting for me." "Would you want to make other days intersting for me, on a date?'
And if he already kissed you, its pretty obvious he likes you. And he told you himself! what else could you have possibly been waiting for?
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Hi. My name is Molly. I have experience with guys, I do. But I was wondering whether there was anything I could do to make my guy feel better while we are making out or something. Is there any place that they like to be touch or like tickled, other than the obvious. If you could answer this fast, that'd be great. and Im not weird. (link)
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Truth is, I have never made out with a chic before (anyone for that matter). And kissing, only on the cheek. And i would think the guy would be happy if he is making out with you.
I am afraid you will have to ask another guy.
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First question is: Aren't oppinions the same as advice? Is an opinion just an indirect way of giving advice?
Second question:
I am considering a career in law as a defense attorney. My Xgirlfriend (XGF) said that defense attorneys cannot ethically do their job in the event that their client is in fact guilty if they know that their client is guilty.
She then said that it is incorrect for me, as a personal trainer, to give unsolicited advice to someone who is performing an exercise improperly(assuming that I know the correct exercise).
My XGF says that advice should only be given when asked for.
But she seems to think that a proactive approach is the only ethical solution to an obvious injustice.
My XGF thinks that the attorney example is somehow different from the exercise example. Is she right?
I feel like she has to be wrong since it is not possible to be proactive and wait for a solicitation for advice.
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An opinion is what you have to say about something, and it does not a fact. It is a conclusion drawn from non-scientific data.
Advice is a hint that you give people to make thier life better. advice is usually given based upon ones opinions.
Why would you not correct someone who is doing an exercise improperly? Go ahead and correct them, by doing so you are helping them. Totally ethical and stuff.
And yes you can be an attorney and be ethical if you know your client is guilty. It is just a matter of "how" you present your case.
you should give advice to who-ever needs it.
Dude, thier is a reason you dumped that chic. (its obvious) Move on with your life and erase that R*** she put into your head.
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Okay, so theres this boy.
And hes really awesome. And I like him as more than a friend. We are going to the dinner dance together but I was talking to him yesterday and he told me I was his friend, yet whenever my friend talks to him about me he blushes-alot! Hes really nice and is always talking to me- we talked on the fone for 3 hours yesterday! Do you think he likes me too? (link)
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I would say yes. He does like you. He just does not want to admit it too openly for reasons x y z...
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Hello Christopher :)
I recently asked you a question about liking two guys, who are friends..and not knowing which one to like more, to go for..
And you told me to get back to you when I got to know them a bit better.
Granted I haven't really gotten to know them in a week or two, but I still feel the need to ask a follow--up question.
Remember one of the guys was outspoken, popular and wanted, the other one was more good looking, but more shy, and not as charming. (don't worry, I don't judge by looks, just reminding you of the two guys)
Lets call the outspoken one #1 and the shy one #2
Okey, so the first time I met them I hepled them study for like 30 minutes, remember?
Now I met guy #2 at the library the other day, and he was like "HEY, what's up? The test went pretty good actually.." and we talked for like two minutes. And I was like "wow he seems to want to get to know me" BUT 1 hour or so later, he wa walking with his friends, and I nodded and said "hi" (he definitely saw it) but he totally ignored it!! wtf?!
So I was like "whatever, if he doesn't want to get to know me, I don't want to get to know him" I didn't let it get to me.
But like, a while later,I could tell he wanted to come talk to me, he was definitely staring at me, and kind of walking slowly past me..you know?
gaah, guys can be so confusing.
And now, to guy #1, when I smile at him at school, I gues he sortof smiles back..but not really. And the other day on my way home from school, I smiled at him when I saw him, and he smiled back, and then he stopped me and said "hold on, my test went great! Thnk you so much, I got a perfect score!" I was like "Really?That's awsome" congratulations, I'm happy for you" and then we both just kept walking our separte ways..
So I don't know, it seems like at the same time, they both want to get to know me, but still..they don't?
Could it have something to do with my appearence? Like they both want to get to know me because I have a good personlaity, but maybe i not pretty or popular enough?
Though, people usually tell me I'm pretty..but maybe I'm just not pretty ENOUGH?
I don't know, now to my last question, sorry this was so long, haha..
I told my friend that I had gotten to know these guys (not that im interested in more though) and she was like; ohhh they're hot! esp. guy #1" I was like "haha, yeah, want me to hook you up with him?" WHY DID I SAY THAT??? I WANT HIM! I've done this before too!! Liked a guy, and then told my friend that I'd hook them up..
I don't get it!? I guess there's something wrong with me :(
would you please help me?
Wht should I do about all this?
And what do you think about everything?
Thank you for reading this even though it's soo long! :)
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Sorry I am taking so long to answer. I am on exams and stuff.
Alright, I doubt it has to do with your looks. I don't even know how you look, but I believe it is pretty enough.
Strange enough, us guys don't really place too much emphasis on beauty. Once you are not ugly, you qualify, so being pretty might not have to do with it at all. You have the nice personality, and that is what counts.
And popularity, well I am not sure about that one. In my country, we don't realyy have popularity as such, few people know few people, even though it is such a small population. Too many all boys and all girls schools and too strict parents who want thier children to reach home after scholl asap.
NOw this stupidness here. I saw it only happen once before, with this idiot named blue shirt. He liked this girl, so he walked up to her and said, "Your sister is so hot, could you please hook me up with her?" I had so much fun when he said that, we tortured the guy for another two hours because of it.
We thought it was just blue shirt being stupid, but now it sounds like a real condition. (got to apologise to that freak now)
So now, we told him to just stay away from both of em and forget about them, and If he does anymore fool like going back to talk to them, we would kick him.
But here is what you do. tell your friend what is up, she should understand, she may laugh, but it is your friend laughing at you,and that is small price for a guy, cause a friend will forget.
I know it will be hard, teliing your friend that. For some reason or the other it will be hard, but try it.
ANd how did your friend respond to this? was she happy and sprang on oppurtunity, If she did not, that means she is not interested so it is free for you.
And what do I see of the whole thing?
I think #2 guy likes you more, the #1 guy is too busy being popular or something, that half smile gives it away. Guy #2 is showing more "common sense" signs of affection. He is not immature or anything. He is just un experienced in the field, but once you befriend him, he will be worth it.
Another point, two minutes?!? that is indeed no time at all. Anything less than fifteen minutes and nothing really person could be said. Plus it is easy to out up a front for two minutes. After about ten, they let down thier guard, and you get to know the true person.
I say just continue what you are doing with these guys. And not continue doing stupidness like asking your friend to let you hook her up. (I am still trying to see the logic behind this one)
I hope I said enough helpful stuff, cause this thing just has me completely lost.
Oh yeah, and whatever you do, Don't jump to any conclusions. Always just observe the field and see what is the next most logical step and whatever your possibilities may be.
Cj
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