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Follow-up question
Hello Christopher :)
I recently asked you a question about liking two guys, who are friends..and not knowing which one to like more, to go for..
And you told me to get back to you when I got to know them a bit better.
Granted I haven't really gotten to know them in a week or two, but I still feel the need to ask a follow--up question.
Remember one of the guys was outspoken, popular and wanted, the other one was more good looking, but more shy, and not as charming. (don't worry, I don't judge by looks, just reminding you of the two guys)
Lets call the outspoken one #1 and the shy one #2
Okey, so the first time I met them I hepled them study for like 30 minutes, remember?
Now I met guy #2 at the library the other day, and he was like "HEY, what's up? The test went pretty good actually.." and we talked for like two minutes. And I was like "wow he seems to want to get to know me" BUT 1 hour or so later, he wa walking with his friends, and I nodded and said "hi" (he definitely saw it) but he totally ignored it!! wtf?!
So I was like "whatever, if he doesn't want to get to know me, I don't want to get to know him" I didn't let it get to me.
But like, a while later,I could tell he wanted to come talk to me, he was definitely staring at me, and kind of walking slowly past me..you know?
gaah, guys can be so confusing.
And now, to guy #1, when I smile at him at school, I gues he sortof smiles back..but not really. And the other day on my way home from school, I smiled at him when I saw him, and he smiled back, and then he stopped me and said "hold on, my test went great! Thnk you so much, I got a perfect score!" I was like "Really?That's awsome" congratulations, I'm happy for you" and then we both just kept walking our separte ways..
So I don't know, it seems like at the same time, they both want to get to know me, but still..they don't?
Could it have something to do with my appearence? Like they both want to get to know me because I have a good personlaity, but maybe i not pretty or popular enough?
Though, people usually tell me I'm pretty..but maybe I'm just not pretty ENOUGH?
I don't know, now to my last question, sorry this was so long, haha..
I told my friend that I had gotten to know these guys (not that im interested in more though) and she was like; ohhh they're hot! esp. guy #1" I was like "haha, yeah, want me to hook you up with him?" WHY DID I SAY THAT??? I WANT HIM! I've done this before too!! Liked a guy, and then told my friend that I'd hook them up..
I don't get it!? I guess there's something wrong with me :(
would you please help me?
Wht should I do about all this?
And what do you think about everything?
Thank you for reading this even though it's soo long! :)
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Sorry I am taking so long to answer. I am on exams and stuff.
Alright, I doubt it has to do with your looks. I don't even know how you look, but I believe it is pretty enough.
Strange enough, us guys don't really place too much emphasis on beauty. Once you are not ugly, you qualify, so being pretty might not have to do with it at all. You have the nice personality, and that is what counts.
And popularity, well I am not sure about that one. In my country, we don't realyy have popularity as such, few people know few people, even though it is such a small population. Too many all boys and all girls schools and too strict parents who want thier children to reach home after scholl asap.
NOw this stupidness here. I saw it only happen once before, with this idiot named blue shirt. He liked this girl, so he walked up to her and said, "Your sister is so hot, could you please hook me up with her?" I had so much fun when he said that, we tortured the guy for another two hours because of it.
We thought it was just blue shirt being stupid, but now it sounds like a real condition. (got to apologise to that freak now)
So now, we told him to just stay away from both of em and forget about them, and If he does anymore fool like going back to talk to them, we would kick him.
But here is what you do. tell your friend what is up, she should understand, she may laugh, but it is your friend laughing at you,and that is small price for a guy, cause a friend will forget.
I know it will be hard, teliing your friend that. For some reason or the other it will be hard, but try it.
ANd how did your friend respond to this? was she happy and sprang on oppurtunity, If she did not, that means she is not interested so it is free for you.
And what do I see of the whole thing?
I think #2 guy likes you more, the #1 guy is too busy being popular or something, that half smile gives it away. Guy #2 is showing more "common sense" signs of affection. He is not immature or anything. He is just un experienced in the field, but once you befriend him, he will be worth it.
Another point, two minutes?!? that is indeed no time at all. Anything less than fifteen minutes and nothing really person could be said. Plus it is easy to out up a front for two minutes. After about ten, they let down thier guard, and you get to know the true person.
I say just continue what you are doing with these guys. And not continue doing stupidness like asking your friend to let you hook her up. (I am still trying to see the logic behind this one)
I hope I said enough helpful stuff, cause this thing just has me completely lost.
Oh yeah, and whatever you do, Don't jump to any conclusions. Always just observe the field and see what is the next most logical step and whatever your possibilities may be.
Cj
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