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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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I can see that you really like him, but you don't know for sure that he likes you back, he may only think of you as a friend but there's no harm in asking about it. Maybe you should try to get him alone and hangout just the two of you, I think that your best bet at the moment. Try not to be too straight forward but don't be too shy about it either, not all guys are smart enough to take a hint. Go easy on him though. I'm not sure if he is worth the time though, I say hangout alone with him and see where it goes.
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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Well I know what it's like to end a relationship with someone you believe is your soulmate I've had it happen to me. It took me a year and a half to get over him, I realized he wasn't my soulmate after all, he didn't want to be friends with me after n definitely took advantage of me while I was deep in depression. You were right to not get into a relationship while you have depression. I've done a lot of relying on a guy to help me through my depression and the one thing I've learned is you can only fix urself. He seems like a good guy, but he may only meant to be a friend to you and he could help you out of depression, always surround urself with friends and have goals. Also getting over guys isn't getting into another but it's also keeping your option open for the right guy to come along...hang out with friend girls guys and even invite the guy along....he seems like a good friend for youso don't try to bring the relationship into the friendship because you don't want to lose him as a friend...he could still be in love with you and is just waiting for you to fix urself he could still be upset about it...also don't worry about him being your soulmate he could be and he could not be but if it's meant to be it'll be maybe not right now maybe it's later in life...try not to dwell on things n focus on being happy n your goals in life...good luck n I hope that I have helped you in some way 😊
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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Well candlelight and music usually helps put people in the mood I guess try them. Cracking sexual jokes is another way to do that. U can try to start getting sexual with the other female to get him turned on. Be sure that your husband is going to understand what it is that is going on because you don't want to risk something bad happening. I hope this helps even a little bit sorry I couldn't be more help good luck
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So, I finally got my crush, like I always thought it would be crush, but turns out he is into me, and just woo ! But, we going on a date, having Chinese, just any tips, for if it goes quiet, because I'm one of those people that get so nervous I can't talk, anytips, any good subjects to talk about? (link)
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Fine at least one common interest, and go from there. Try your best not to talk too much or too less. Be completely honest with him and just try to hang out with him without calling it a date. FocDayton being best friends and in sure that the relationship should work out the way its supposed to. Good luck hun and relax.
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Me and this go to boarding school together and we started off as rest friends at a point we both liked it each there but neither of us admitted it. thing is i was with someone when he liked me and i kinda liked him too. We became really close friends but thing is he kissed my best friend on the first day of school in the bus when were coming back and then when i asked him about it he got really defensive saying thins like it didn't mean anything and stuff like that. so the whole night we talked then my best fiend came coming to us and flirt with him and as nice as i am i just let it happen but then he kept on brushing her off. then he got a gf.. a year later... so he asked if we could hang out and i said yes but then i forgot and he waited for me which was really sweet and kept on calling me but i was asleep..
in time i woke up and quickly went to meet him then as i was apologizing i started pecking him everywhere like on the cheek on face cause we always do it but then he pecked me on the lip we both looked at each then we started kissing and stuff .
the next day we were in class and he is like i don't regret last night and I'm like umm me too.. so we've been "hanging" but no sex (thank goodness).
since its summer, i thought let me be bold and tell him i like him but sadly that didn't work out as planned
I LIKE HIM PLEASE HELP ME GET OVER HIM (link)
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If you are serious about getting over the guy, the best way to do so is keep yourself busy with your life, flirt with other guys, spend time with your friends, and most importantly don't talk to him, if you are planning to talk to him then don't do it alone. I hope this is helpful to you and good luck hunt.
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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depending on how long ago she had pass...if she had died a while ago then maybe its time for him to move on you know let go. but if this was pretty recent then is say give his some grieving space. sooner or later he will have togo on with his life without her one way or another. try to help him any way you possibly can. try to make him feel less alone. perhaps he hooked up with you shortly after she had passed maybe he just needed someone to be around someone. honestly you should tell him that he needs to get over her a little bit and start focusing on u more. i think it was wrong for him to change his relationship status over and ex death especially if they broke up a while ago. maybe he'll come to the realization that he is gonna lose you if he doesn't stop this. i think he sboukd have told about this asap instead of trying to hide it from till now. i hope that he will get over this but some relationships are only temporary. i hope for the best and i send all my love towards the two of you and good luck, and stay positive.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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I think people do it to show that they are both taken and they are madly in love. some people chose only to make some people jealous, either to get someone else they are eying (cheating), or to prove to others that what other people say or do to split them up aren't working and that they are still together going strong. I think if it makes you uncomfortable than I think you should tell them that it does. Also they shouldn't be going that kind of stuff while children are around, because they don't need to be exposed to that kind of stuff while they are young like that. Another idea is to go to the manager of the food place and mention it to them and they will probably talk to the couple, most likely saying something along the lines of "You guys can't be doing that kind of stuff in this place. It make other costumers uncomfortable and I don't want to lose business because you two don't want to keep it PG, especially in front of the young children." I remember when I was little my mom almost sued the place because someone was showing PDA in a kid friendly place. I honestly don't think that food place wants to be sued of something silly. Good Luck! :)
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I made out with this guy who happens to be my crush, we are not going out tho( dating) I just found out recently that he is going out with so many other girls in my class and that's how he started with them so I guess I am the next victim what do I do? After we made out I realised I didn't like him after all tho and now he is all over me as if he likes me just pretence. (18. female) (link)
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If you don't like him that way anymore, then try to tell him to back off a little bit, tell him you only want to be friends. If he does accept that, maybe he only wanted you for sex. If hes dating, or dated most of the girls in your class then hes probably just a player. If you really don't know what his intentions are then get to know him a little bit better, don't get sexually involved with him because most likely he is gonna use you and break your heart and sometimes it can even ruin your reputation. He could say that all you wanted from him was sex or even post nudes of you all over the internet. Be careful with what you do, my best answer would be to stay away from him, if you have no real feelings for him its no loss for you right, and you shouldn't get involved with someone you don't know that well. Get to know but keep a safe distance that you won't get hurt. Good Luck!
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hi! im 19 years of age and i am a girl.I truly love my boyfriend more than anything else in this world.i love spending time with him.i spend most of my time everyday with him.we are always together.is it healthy to spend too much time with your boyfriend making love and etc? should I give him some space? (link)
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I think that you should ask him what he thinks about how much time you spend together. I have a similar relationship, we live together, I'm 17 while he is 19. I'm a very independent person while he is extremely dependent on me, we both understand that in each other. We find things we enjoy and have some time a part every day. You have to ask yourself if you feel like spending too much time with your boyfriend is a problem for you. Just remember during your relationship don't ignore your friends and family spend time with them just as well as your boyfriend. Also I do thing spending every waking moment with someone can make a person sick of being around them and they end up getting in lots of fights and they end up breaking up. I don't knowe how long you guys have been together but we have been together for over 6 months. Give him a little bit of space and hang out with some friends it'll be good for the both of you. Good luck!
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hey, so I met this girl a few months ago, and we've been dating. the only problem is, we live about 2 hours away. I love making her happy, so I was wondering something I could text her to make her day, that would make us love each other even more (kind of impossible though) I'm 14 and I'm a guy, so i would mind a girl around my age's advice please :) (link)
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I'm 17. I think that you should just tell her how much you love her. Send her cute pictures, and poems, best if you are the creating them but any will work. To be honest, you are fourteen and you met this girl a few months ago and even though you may think that she is your soul mate, if she breaks up with you don't take it so hard because there will be plenty of heartbreaks to come, I think the best thing, with a guy your age is to keep the girl as a friend and maybe you can rekindle the relationship later down the road. I know this was more than you asked for but I hope that I have made some sort of a difference in your life, Good luck with you girlfriend and I hope that you guys will stay together through all of the rough times!
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My girlfriend wants me to finger her, but I don't know how to transition from kissing to start touching her. (link)
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I think you should ask yourself if you really want to do this. Then ask her if you guys can take thinks slow. Start off small and work your way to the bigger things. If you are feel uncomfortable with something then stop and go to a smaller thing or stop and try again later. Being honest with you girlfriend is the key to your relationship, so you should talk to her about it. Ask her how she feels about things as well. A relationship is for two people not just one you have to meet them half way. Try your best to do what she wants without feeling too uncomfortable. Start to kiss her in other places, and while you kiss her caress her face and arm, ect. I hope I have helped you, and if not I tried my best to do so. I wish you goodluck!
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I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my school. He asked out my best friend and he asked her out twice. I really want him to ask me out instead even though she is my besty. what should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
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I think you should get to know him better as a friend before you actually get into a relationship with him or ask him out. Find out if he likes you, and who he likes. Also try to get to know his friends, because if you guys are going to be dating you will have to get along with their friend as well as yours. Make sure he is a trust worthy guy that isn't going to flirt with your best friend while you guys are dating. If you are a shy person most likely you will have to make a bold statement, try to impress him and get his attention. Also, find things in common with the guy first. Even if he doesn't see you as girlfriend material at first, later down the road he might, if you keep the guy close to you in your life. I hope that my advice will help you, and I hope for the best, good luck!
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