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Hey guys, I'm Maddie. Yes, my advicenators name is ridiculously dorky.ask anything :-)
I'm fifteen and as far as I know, I give pretty good advice, to anyone, about mostly anything.
So ask, and rate, if you don't mind :-D.
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I love your answer to the girl who asked if it's okay to feel jealous if her boyfriend watches porn. I whole-heartedly agree with you that if it is hurting her, he should respect that.
That being said, my boyfriend said I could use his computer to edit photos of the two of us. While I was doing so, I threw one away accidently and went to the recycle bin to retrieve it. I found all kinds of porn movies that he had downloaded. It literally made me sick: especially since he and I took dirty pictures and made dirty movies that he has on his computer. Why would he want to watch other girls and not me? It makes me extremely jealous.
My question is: how do I bring this up to him? I was by no means snooping, but I think it might come of that way. I have a feeling he'll get defensive as well. I just need a place to start from. Do I tell him the story of how I found it? Do I just come out and say "You looking at porn is hurtful to me"? Since you share my opinion about this, I thought it would be best to ask you. Thank you for the advice in advance.
First of all, it's totally justifiable for you to feel this way, and i hope for your sake that he isn't difficult about it, as many guys would be in this position.
I would definitely tell him the story of how you found it, because if not he will without a doubt think you were snooping. Tell him that it hurts you to see him looking at other girls in that way, but also be sure to understand where he's coming from. It's natural for guys to go looking for "visual aids", often outside of their real-life relationship. Listen to where he's coming from, and in the end ask him to stop looking at other women. If he respects you AND you approach the topic in an understanding way, things will go smoothly for both of you.
Good luck!
love, maddie
can anyone think of any reason why a bf wouldnt be happy for his gf if she found a job that she really liked?
I'll right anyone who answers with a 5. Thanks!
It could be that he's afraid you won't spend as much time with him...
Dear Advicegiving people,
Yeah.. that subject was REALLY retarded. But yeah.. ok.. my LOVING boyfriend and I have been going out since July 8th & he's really sweet & all & I know he loves me because he tells me all the time & like.. I just DONT want that right now. I DONT want a serious relationship. And he's not the cutest thing ever, but he IS sweet & would give me the moon if I asked, like he's like the perfect boyfriend, but I dont WANT that. I want there to be rough times & I actually want him to disagree with me from time to time, but he treats me like a princess & thats just not what i want, but i dont want to be treated like crap either.. I just dont know right now. I want to break up with him, but i dont want to hurt him! HOW can I? Is it even possible? He's 15 by the way & so am I.
**Sorry it's soo long**
It sounds to me that this guy isn't the perfect boyfriend for you, but he sounds like he would make a really really good friend, just because he sounds so kind and generous. So if you do end it with him, it's probably in your best interest to make a real effort to stay close. That way, if you realize that he really was right for you, then you have a chance at making it work again.
good luck
xo maddie
ok,
this guy asked me out over myspace.
i said yes.
now he dosnt talk to me.
i have to start everything and he dosnt reply.
i met him once before i even found him on myspace.
and i asked if he wanted to hangout
he didnt reply.
then i left a bulletin asking for peoples advice.
and i was like.
now the guy i like dosnt like me.
he replyed.
the guy you like better be me.
so now i left one HOPEING he will see it saying how this guy dosnt talk to me.
so now what do i do.
is he playing me?
i mean.
if he dosnt reply to hanging out.
PLEASE HELP ME I RATE HIGH
this sounds like a pretty sketchy relationship... you can never really trust anything with people you don't hang out with in person... it sounds like he's kind of uninterested, maybe just becuse its an internet relationship. Maybe make an effort to see him outside of myspace, as long as you're sure that you're not in danger or anything. But if this continues, just tell him you're better off as friends... or nothing.
good luck
xo maddie
I have no idea what to do. There is this guy named Nick that I am totally crazy for. And me and him have gotten so close. He comes over now and then and hangs out. He HATES talking on the phone but with only me, he is on it for about 5 hours a day. He flirts with my hardcore and everyone thinks he likes me but I just can`t tell. He tells me a lot of stuff I am surprised he trusts me with and everytime we talk about me liking him, (yes he knows), he changes the subject. But when we are together...he acts like he likes me too. His mom and I get along and she told me that Nick gets shy around girls he likes. Nick isn`t relaly shy around me. Cuz we flirt non-stop. I mean, he was shy at first...but now we can flirt and not be embarrassed. What are some clues/ways I can tell if he truly does like me?
From the way you're describing it, it sounds to me that you're pretty confident that he likes you. It sounds about right to me... to check just talk to his friends and see if he's said anything about you. If it turns out he hasn't, just keep flirting.. he's gotta come around sometime soon!
good luck
xo maddie
Ok. I'm going to this party tongith and the guy I like is gonna be there. My friend likes him to...we are definetly gonna play spin the bottle.
What the heck should I do!!!!!!
Just go, looking cute, feeling confident, and ready to hook him! When it comes to the whole spin the bottle thing, just go with the flow. Chances are he'll end up kissing other girls, so make sure you're prepared for that. But make sure you get your turn with him too!
Have fun!
ok to guys out there plese help, would it sound all clingy and stuff if i asked my boyfriend if he loves me more than he loved his ex?
please help
rate high
xxx
It's probably not the greatest idea. I've seen firsthand that this is the kind of stuff that gets a relationship into trouble... of course i dont know the guy, but generally, guys arent big on uncomfortable questions about exes, etc.
He loves you! Definitely be grateful for that. Don't worry about his past relationships, because you have him now and you're a lucky girl for it.
good luck
me nd my bf have broken up at least 5times nd gotten bak 2gether..nd this last time wen i broke up w/ him(which will def. be the last)..it jst seemed like he didnt care at all..nd he was acting suspicious before i broke up w/ him..now hes not talking to me..idk wats goin on..or wat 2 do..wat do u think?
not too sound meanly insensitive, but this guy sounds like a jackass. obviously I don't know either of you, but it sounds like maybe he just lost interest. Sorry, and good luck with this kid.
xxx
I really like this guy but I cant tell if he likes me. Can a guy or someone tell me how to know if some one likes you!PLZ. hes always flirting with me and stuff but i cant tell!!!!
As a general rule, "always flirting"=crush of some description
=)
xo Me
ok i havent gotten my period yet this month but it seems like i never have a regular period cycle..and my boyfriend and me were like messing around at his house but i was just giving him a handjob but he cumed but not on me....and i dont think it was any whree near me...and i was expecting my period around the 13 or 14 or around there and me and my boyfriend just recently did this stuff like a few days before the 13...is it possible to be pregnant? but i didnt get morning sickness or anything..
As long as nothing got near you (meaning inside you) it's impossible to be pregnant.
There's this boy I like and we've been through a lot together and he's acted SO much like he likes me but now he's telling me that he only likes me as a friend. He even said he thinks of me as a sister and his best friend. But he acts so much like he likes me but then, people constantly tell him that he needs/should go out with me/ask me out/etc. He cares about what people think and he's tired of everyone pressuring him to go out with me and it contradicts how he acts around me. We talk a lot and he initiates it a lot and we flirt at times(not nearly as much as before, we used to flirt 24/7) but sometimes he's also kind of mean to me. And when I confront him about being mean to me, he's always really sorry and feels bad about it genuinely. But I'm tired of all these mixed messages and signals and the changes in behavior. I just don't know what to do. If anyone could give me some advice about my situation, I'd be really thankful and also, if anyone could tell me any and all signs that a guy likes you, I'd be doubly thankful. Thanks so much.
Mixed signals, but it sounds, just from that short description, that he likes you but is nervous and tired of other people telling him what to do. So drop hints... or just ask him out, if you are a little daring. Good luck.
xO Maddie
Ok so I love my boyfriend very much ..like alot..I mean really I do..but my friend who is a girl adn is seriously attracted to me and I like her kinda really wants to make out with me and I kinda wanna make out with her to..but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend..what should I do..and I already talked to him and he goes "I love you and I trust you and it takes alot to hurt me" sooo im sooooo lost..please help me!
I think the fact that you're bisexual (just fine) just makes the situation look more complicated than it really is. Think, if you only liked guys, would you just go off and make out with some other guy? Just putting the situation in perspective... I personally wouldn't cause technically this is 'cheating', but if all of you are truly okay with it, than it's all you. (Also, your boyfriend may be hurt but not be showing it, so be careful.)
good luck
xo Maddie
Well, I'm a little unsure if I should be upset or not.
Okay. Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now and I found out a few months ago that I was not his "first" (talking about making out.) He was mine without a doubt. But it's not just that i'm not his first that upsets me, it's with who. It's this girl from another school named elena. She's a slut and she knows it. My boyfriend "didn't even like her" he claims. But, what concerns me is that if he didn't like her, what if he made out with me and he "doesn't even like me." Am I upset over a stupid thing? Because if I am I want to not ruin our relationship over something so stupid.
Once again,
Retro_Romance
This is a common problem... it's pretty normal to be worrying about this, even though it doesn't matter much. You've heard this a zillion times, don't think about who he's kissed before, he's kissing you now. As for 'not really liking you' its unlikely, darling, althought I don't know the situation in its entirety. So do your best to put the past behind you, and enjoy what you have now.
xo Maddie
heyy everyone. ok i was wondering if a guy is 18 years old and your 15 is it illegal to go out as boyfriend and girlfriend? because theres this really hott college guy and i really like him a lot but hes like i cant ask her out because its illegal. thanks yall!
Well you can "go out" because there's nothing legally or physically binding about that... but he can't have sex with you because that is statutory rape.
So have fun i guess..
xo ask_me
i really liked this guy and he asked me out again last night, but i'm not as happy as i thought i would be. does that mean i dont like him?
Sorry this answer is so late... I haven't been advicing in a while...
Meh. This sort of happened to me. A first impression, or in this case reaction, does not always tell all. Maybe you are'nt really all that interested, but you could just have been in a bad mood that day, or something like that.
Well, of course I'm sure this problem is over with, so sorry...
xo Ask_ME
Do you neciserrily have to think a guy is cute to like them? Like can you be attracted to just there personality and still have a crush on them?
Oh yes! Nice ugly (sort of) guys make the world go round!
is it ok to flirt with guys if ur goin out with someone?
As a general rule, suble, cute flirting is ok, as long as you know your bf wont gopsycho about it. Just don't make it too obvious, and it's harmless, assuming that you're not thinking of goin anywhere with this guy. Good luck
xo Ask_Me
Sorry this is long, i rate high though! :)
The guy i used to date over the summer on and off started REALLY hitting on me last night. He practically offered for me to have sex with him (dont worry, i wouldnt have sex, but i could tell he wanted to do something with me) Then he told off this person for me that was pissing me off. And he said i owed him one. And I asked what he wanted from me. And he said he wanted to make out with me. (Keep in mind this was online so we couldnt have made out right then and there) So i said ok, because i still have feelings for him. Then a little later i asked if he liked me, or just wanted to make out with me. And he said "I dunno, never thought about it..." What do you think about all of this? Should i go for it?
Hmmmm this is a toughie. It's probably not the best idea, expecially if you want to end up being his girlfriend. Because most relationships that start out as a hook-up type of thing arent that great and dont last very long. But if you know that you're not going to want to go out with him, then I suppose you have nothing to lose right? I just wouldnt get my hopes up, since he "never thought about" liking you. Hope I helped... ;)
xo Ask_Me
I am a 13 year old girl. I have a really good guy friend who is also 13. i am starting to develop stronger feelings for him everyday. I drop hints alot, but he just acts like nothing happened most of time. Other times he will flirt back. A few days ago he put his arm around my waist but I don't know if it was a friendly gesture, or if its because he likes me. We have a really close friendship and don't want to ruin that. Should I keep on flirting, or just be firends? If he does like me, what are the hints I should be looking for?
I would say keep on flirting, it can't really hurt you. It seems like he is sending you hints too, so just go with the flow. Be really nice to him and show him you care a little extra. But make sure not to be too forceful about it, cause then it could get weird. Good luck, dahling.
xo Ask_Me
Okay, I'm 13 years old and so is my friend. We're both girls. There's this guy who likes me and my best friend. He like both of us too. He was really sweet and funny at first. But then we talked to him on the phone this one night and found out part of the real him. He's just like every other guy out there, perverted!! He led BOTHof us n a bunch, he told us that he would end up asking one of us out after he brok up with his present girlfriend. The time came and we waited forlike three weeks. Then, som people told us that he had asked out a totally different person! We called him that night and he really seemed to care that we were mad but not why we were. We think he is palying us and our friends told us he was. He always ignores us when he's around his girlfriend, and doesn't really seem like he wants to be friends at some points. But then at other points, it seems like he does. We both can't stop liking him. I want to move on but don't know how to. How should I handle this problem? Should I continue trying to be friends, or just completely drop him?
He's an effing retard. I dont usually use language like this (in my column anyway) but just tell him to go fuck himself. Seriously, youll never get a chance with him, since it looks like he's playing EVERY GIRL! And even if you do, he won't seriously care about you. "he told us that he would end up asking one of us out after he brok up with his present girlfriend."? if he treats this girl like that, he WILL treat you like that. Don't try to be friends. It's not worth it.
Good luck...
xo Ask_Me