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Q: this guy i met a while ago who lives like 30mins away from me really liked me. like alot. he told me he loved me and stuff. we were always texting, IMing, talking on the phone 24/7. we live 30mins away and cant drive yet. but we happen to be going camping with are families the same exact days. last time we went we hooked up. and weve been so excited to see eachother again. last nite he tells me he likes someone from his area. and that he didnt wanna hook up with me at camping. and on his myspace he took pix of us down. and changed his blog that used to say he loves me to he loves nichole now. i havent talked to him since =[. im really upset cause he totally lead me on. and now i have to see him monday for a week..help?

just ignore him and if he talks to you just act like nothings wrong. If he brings it up just dont talk about it..walk away and he'll know that your feeling bad about it.hope i helped :)

Q: I know there have been alot of kissing questions from other people so I'm sorry if this has been asked multiple times. How do I know when I'm ready to french kiss? Me & my boyfriend haven't been dating long but we've known eachother a while & we makeout alot, just without the tongue. Will it just happen? Will we talk about it?

theres no such thing as making out with no toungue...when you both are ready then it'll just happen.you can talk about it if you want to but yea..it just happens

Q: I'm 15/f. Last year I really liked this guy, but we rarely talked and stuff. In like April I stopped liking him. Well, now I think like him again. It's summer now and I haven't seen him since the end of May. I'm going to see him again in a few weeks. I want to be able to talk with him, but I don't want to freak him out or anything. What should I do?

just go up to him and introduce yourself..be friends and then eventually he might start likeing u too.

Q: I get really nervous around my new boyfriend. I know this may sound crazy but he's my first & I get kind of shakey around him, mostly when he's got his arm around me. I'm worried that when we kiss, I'll be super shakey & it will be really noticeable. How can I talk myself out of this?

x's & o's,
lor

i can relate to this because thats how i felt with my first boyfriend. he may not be the one for you. try to calm down and go places with him to make you more comfortable around him.

Q: ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!

call him and say that you wanna see him. make up a day to hang out and stuff or watch a movie or whatever. if u dont like calling then talk to him online or sumthing. call like 1 time a week to see wats going on and stuff. tell me how it works out. :)

Q: I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?

Thanks 15-Female

try calling again and if he doesnt pick up then...ya id say he dumped u so forget about him and move on.

Q: So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help

try talking to him again and if he doesnt understand then hes not good enough for u.

Q: er... well. here goes.

theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.

I talk to him on AIM, we kinda talk at school, and best of all, he doesn't think I'm fat. (long story. Let's just say I wasn't eating anything and my friends are odd)

But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. (again, my friends are odd) But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM (I know its odd, but hey, I guess I blend in with my friends) which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.

The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.

So what I want to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)

I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)

go for it. if you like him soo much then ask him!! he definetly is starting to like you..he'll give you more signs and when he does...then go for it!! ask him out!! if he asks u and u like him then say yes!!

Q: Does anyone know any good websites with heartbreak or love quotes?? Beside firehoquotes.com....

www.lovequotes.com

Q: Hey,
I have a hot boyfriend and i like him a lot! but i just got back from Bermuda and i met a boy there and i kissed him! i liked the kid from bermuda while i was there but now i have no feelings for him and i like my boyfriend but i feel so bad! should i tell him i kissed another boy even though i dont like that kid anymore and really like my boyfriend?

from, worried and confused

well i think you should tell him...but tell him it didnt mean anything to u bc u like him now and thats all that matters

Q: 15/f
okay i moved to a different city about a year ago. there is this guy that is like one of my best friends and everyone knows that he likes me and i like him too((but not alot)). ive gone to dances with him, but im afraid that if he asks me out things will get all weird, and i dont know if i would be able to kiss him without feeling odd.
please help me!

if you're not ready and things feel odd then dont get together with him. feeling odd probly means that you dont like him that much so you shouldnt rush things.if he asks u out and ur ready then defiently go for it but if your not then just tell him that your not ready to be in a relationship right now. tell him that maybe soon you'll like him more. i hope i helped !!

Q: Right heres a run-down. Recently i (16) ended a long distance relationship that had been going on for almost a year, to be with someone closer. But it all went horribly wrong( the closer relationship) and i was single again.I felt terrible not because it had ended but becasue of what i'd given up for it. I loved the person who was living long distance away and was ashamed at myself for what i had done. So i asked the girl from the long distance relationship to give me one more chance and thank the gods she did. My question however. Is i still feel guilty for what i did to this girl..Even though its in the past and seh has given me the second chance. I know what i did was wrong and i know that I hurt her. Because i love her it hurts me so badly inside. I dont know how my present gf feels though i just want to know. And i don't know what to do.. Any help will be appreciated!!
anthony

just talk it out with the girls and they'll help you out.

Q: ok im really confused and i REALLLLY like matt ((hes this guy that i goes to the place where i dance and hes always my partner))...but i kinda like Max and MarC ((which are like my BESTEST guy friends)) and like they all like me and i like dunno what to do..if enyone has adive PLEASE HELP..cuz i dont wanna hurt enyones feelings!

well..go for the guy that you think u like most. they should understand. if it doesnt work out with one of them then you could move on to another. they wont feel bad. if they like you as much as u say they do, then they'll get it.

Q: Ok well the other day i was at a party and this girl i had just met started coming on to me and when she wanted to have oral sex i backed out but i think i regret itt
im seeing her next weekend what should i do

well..i think that you should talk to her about it. tell her how you feel about it.if you wanted to then tell her. if u didnt want to then tell her. whatever you think is right.

Q: theres this guy i like. i like him a lot but i dont even think he notices me. what should i do because i don't exactly want to tell him because im afraid of what he'd say what should i say?

well...i think that you should just be yourself and see if he notices you. If he doesnt it's his loss because your a wonderful girl and hes not good enough for you.

Q: I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help!

well if what your friend sed was true then yes believe her...but you should also make your own decisions. dont let your friend change your mind about how you think of him.