14/f
Hi! Ok, I am a BIG Christian and I want to stay a virgin until I am married. That's one of my goals. Well, I don't have a boyfriend right now, even though I have had dork ones in the past, and I get... how should I say it... sexual desires. Like I'm afraid that I want to have sex SO bad and that I'll do it before I'm married. I don't want that! TO reduce these, I can't masturbate or any of that shit, and I don't know anyting else. What could I do to reduce sexual desires? Because it seems sooo hard! I mean, come one! It's just aaah! I want to have sex and stuff, but I want to stay a virgin until I'm married (I mentioned that before too many times, lol, sorry!) So, what do you say I do? Anything to reduce sexual desires?
This is a serious question------ please don't delete!
I find it great that you don't want to have sex until your married. Its a a gold star for you in my book b^_o
But the best way to avoid any sort of lust for sex is simply to avoid situations where those desires will show. Such as if a BF tries something or asks. You have to firmly say no and mean it. Pray to God to help you through this if you think praying helps. It helps give you hope and keep you in focus. Plus you can always keep your mind occupied through things like school work or church events. Hobbies and other things like that will also help.
Its understandable that it will be hard, but you have to be determined and work at it. Eventually, it will all come natural to you and you won't even sweat something like this. Because you have a long way to go at your age, and though you want to have sex now, guys are going to push you on more and more as you and they get older. But if you practice abstinence and don't get caught up in any situation that puts you in things that lead you astray, you will find life much easier. And keep praying, if you think it will help. God will always be there to help you if you believe he will.
I still think its great your choosing to wait. Its a choice too many people I know didn't make and now have a lot to deal with...
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i cant really decide between these two guys, i like then alot (i think) but i dont know which one to go for. steve is one of my best friends guys friends and has never had a real girlfriend but he is so funny and adorable, but not overly cute (which i dont mind).i dont know if he likes me, ive been hinting but he never really seems to notice but we have alot of fun together. the secand guy is jeff, he follows me around and likes staring at me in the hallways and talking to whoever is close to me, but never talking to me. hes cute and i think i could like him if hed stop being so creepy. Hes on the basketball team like me and runs track. lilly, age 16 and a girl
You should go with the one you like more, know more about, and are more likely to trust more easily. There's not much to base off of so not much can really be said. But I hope it helps...
BTW if steve really doesn't notice, that doesn't mean you should stop trying. He'll catch on eventually. And Jeff just seems stalker-ish...
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Whenever I'm the center of attention, get called on in class, read in front of the class or I'm talking to a cute boy, I BLUSH, then if someone says "wow your so red!", or "your blushing!" I get even redder! is there anyway for me to control my blushing, or better yet, STOP IT!?
Your answers are very much appreciated :]
You know, its normal to blush when your nervous. Everyone does it.
Though you may not like this option, it can help with your blushing problem. More exposure to the things that make you blush can actually help you stop. By exposing yourself to nervous situations, your body learns tolerance for those events, and soon you'll just involentarily stop.
Others will prolly come up with better choices, but let me at least say that make up and other material methods aren't likely to help...
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hi im 15/usa
and i like two guys. one goes to my school and the other lives far away...way too far away, over a thousand miles.
the one guy at school is really nice, but he isnt as outgoing as i think he is. he's really shy, but is super nice, nice personality. but i'm really talkative...so i dont know. and he knows i like him, but we both dont know each other very well, i guess thts part of the problem. and we dont get to see each other at school that much, and to tell the truth im not sure if he likes me all that much because he doesnt seem to exactly..come to me at school or he doesnt have myspace or aim, so i want to get to know him better, as friends at least. any ideas? and he lives close to me.
and the other guy lives very far away, but ive talked to him on myspace..etc and hes adorable, but i dont think there is even a point to get involved, too far away and long distace relationships dont work, but it's hard to get him off my mind. please help me with these guy problems!
**ohh, and how do you get a guy to shave off his beard?
thanks :]
Stick with the guy at your school, its more likely to work and more likely to last with less problems. Plus, cyber dating is kinda bad, because you can lie on the Internet. Just hang with him often as you can without looking like your forcing him to open up if you can do that. He'll open up in his own time, whether that takes a long time or short time.
BTW To a guys point of view, if he like his beard, he won't shave it unless he gets a girl who want him to do it. Most guys will do anything to keep their girl happy =D
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this girl is really mean to me. & at school she's in my 5th period health class & her and her friends talk abt me.. and she bugs me in the h allways & calls me a bitch & threatens me and i told my teacher but my teacher said there's nothing she can do tht goes on outside of the classroom.. and she harasses me on facebook.. is there any wya i can block on facebook? & wut should i do with her bothering me at school?
If my memory is right, there is a way to block on facebook. If not you can always contact them and report abuse from that user. But that's actually the easy part...
Now for school, it can take a long time to do it even if you do everything corretly. So bare with. You should try to avoid eye contact with her and avoid her as much as possible. Ignoring her comments and stuff is what most will say, but its really hard. So I suggest a book or doodling or writing something. Anything that keeps you busy and your mind off her. After sometime, things should die down to not so often. But if she continues and nothing anyone else suggests works, get some friends who will back you up but won't resort to violence. You have to confront her and speak your mind. Avoid a fight at all costs. Violence is never the answer. If something happens in class, tell the teacher. Outside, talk to a hall monitor, security officer, couselor, dean, principal, or whoever you can.
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I have a co-worker with bad body odor. The entire staff has noticed it and it's been mentioned it to our managers who don't know what to do either. Hints (even major ones) just haven't worked ... what can we do?
Personally I would straight up tell it. Offended or not, he should be profesional and atleast find something that will mask the B-O if not rid it. And if he is offended, he can go ahead and write a complaint to the General Manager.
If that doesn't get through, get sticks of deodorant and put them on his desk or something. Like, tons of them. Get anything that can get rid of the smell, even if you have to spray Frebreeze on him to "eliminate odors from the air". Even some body wash can help a little...
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I'm gonna try and give as many details as possible. And no he's not a player. Not a flirt-with-everyone type of guy either.
So here are some facts.
-We both go to a french school, so if you see your friends, you do the air cheek kissing thing. Usually you do it in the morning when you first see them, and then after school, when saying bye. Me and him do it whenever we see each other.
-Today I was walking next to him when we went to our lockers and we were laughing and flirting a bit. I was on the left and he was on the right, but my lockers were to the right so I started pushing him that way, but he just grabbed me and was hugging me really tightly for a bit.
-He always comes over to talk if he sees me around
-We have English together and we always mess around together.
-We flirt..quite a lot.
-I always catch him looking at me during lessons or at breaks or whatever.
-My friend, who I sit next to in English tends to be absent a lot, so I'm left on my own. He sometimes leaves his friends and comes to sit next to me, or he won't let me pass, and makes me sit next to him.
Yeah, I'm French, but more English based. and He's German.
We speak English together...he can speak it decently...but it's incredibly sexy when he talks it :D
So do you think he's interested in me or just casual flirting?
Also, I'd appreciate answers in English, because I haven't read properly in French for 4 years now.
Heck yea hes interested! Shows all the signs, you both like eachother, hangs with you a lot, etc. No doubt about it.
But the next question is, will you wait for him to take it further, or will you do it...
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Okay this dude flipping got my number (i dont know how!) and he thinks i like him but i DONT!!!! He is really making me mad and said "you know you want me and im gonna pimp you next"...What does pimp mean?? this guy rides my bus and he touches me on the shoulder and my hair and i tell him to stop but he is just in my face even more!! How do i get this freaking wacko job to stop!? Thanks
That is disturbing. Seems like ignoring him would just make him feel full of himself so that's not an option...
Telling him to stop won't work...
Which means its best not to be alone at this, what you need is friends with you at the time. And by "friends" I mean those that will support you and help you get rid of this guy and discourage him from doing things to you. Keep his number and give it to your friends, when that's all done and said, you can contact your friends to tell them he's bothering you and get help into getting him off your back. After awhile, you'll want to probably ask your service provider(cell phone company) on how to block phone numbers.
Don't use violence unless you have to. Try to find a Judo class or martial arts class incase something(use your imagination) does happen. If you can, avoid taking the bus. If you can't try sitting where he can't. If you can't even do that, get some pepper spray and give him a warning, again, don't use it unless you have to, cause I know you'll want to really badly. If that doesn't help, use the buddy system. Continues, find a couple of guy friends. Its best to discourage him as much as possible.
BTW, "pimp you" might imply having sex
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Okay pretty normal story I guess I like this guy we go to school together well we go to the same school. I don't have any classes with him but some of the people he talks to are in some of my classes (so I guess they hang out or something) every once in a while he will like stare at me and when ever I see him in the hallway he will look at me then start talking to the closest person near him I don't know how I should talk to him I am pretty much the shyest person ever I have no clue how to ralk to anybody so what should I do???
Your problem isn't uncommon, its actually the most common. so what you want to do, is start out small and slowly build up. Begin with notes and stuff to lockers or via friend. Usually that will get communication going. If all goes well, two things will happen. Number/email exchange or meeting place to talk. If number/email exchange happens, it'll most likely be the same as note sending, just much faster. Now when you reach a place to meet and talk, that's when you'll most likely want to back out. Cause talking via text/note/email is easy, talking face to face is hard.
So when you meet the guy and he says "Hi" in some form or matter, don't faint on him. I've got to admit, being nervous is normal and a good thing. It usually doesn't allow you to hide anything that you feel you should hide. It shows your you. And when you talk, don't prepare what you want to say, cause the topic can change in seconds and you'll spend too much time on what to say instead of saying it. So just go with what's on your mind at that moment. If you feel uncomfortable about saying anything, say your uncomfortable or don't want to talk about it. Be yourself and express yourself your way.
And shyness takes gradual increase in expanding your comfort zone or even leaving it for a time. Take it all slow and small and work your way up. b(^_o)
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So i am starting to like this guy i work with! He just started working at my store... I am not sure if he likes me or not.. but i was just wondering if it is weird or not to date someone you work with?? and if we ever dated should we keep it a secret from everyone we work with?
Actually, its okay to date a co-worker. There really is no law that states otherwise, but your boss may have set up a rule against it. So be aware.
And if you two ever do start dating, its really up to you whether you keep it a secret or not. If you feel its too embarrassing to share, then compromise.
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okay im a 16/f and there's this really mean girl at my school who won't leave me alone. i had problems with her over the summer and before that. like over the summer she started saying shit to me on myspace and i said shit back to her. and over Christmas break i added her on facebook and on myspace. because well i forgot about what happened between us and i don't hold grudges against people. well on myspace she messaged me and was like don't send me a friend's request because i don't want to be your friend or whatever. and i cussed her out and got mad and then i told her i didn't care if she wanted to be my friend and she needed to leave me alone. and then i blocked her and then after that i sent her another message telling not to ever start shit with me over the internet and if she had something to say to say it to my face. well she said she will at school the nest day and i assumed that she didn't go to my school anymore because she stopped going. well the next day she was at school! and to make things worse she's in my health class 5th period!! and she saw me and when she did she turned to a bunch of other girls and was like omg nikita is in this class ugh i hate her and she and the other girls said a bunch of shit about me.. and now all she does in that class is talk about me and stare at me and give me mean looks. and then she started calling me a bitch in the hallway but i took i as a comliment and then after tht like today after school i walked passed and she was like you better watch youself bitch and i didn't say anything. well i was wondering i man i ignore but she still says mean things to me. and im not sure if i should tell the school what happened since i message her last time.. so what should i do? sorry its really long but please help me!!
Shes picking on you because your a target that fights back. And the more you fight back, the more of a reason she feels it gives her to continues. Just ignore her, and don't do anything about it. If she tries to talk to you, walk past her like she wasn't even there. If she messages you, you leave it alone like its nothing. One of several result may occur though.
Shell forget
Shell feel bad
Or she will resort to violence. And that is when you need to take into action. If there is something that suggests she is going to do something that will hurt you physically, tell a counselor, dean, principle, security guard, hall monitor, whatever. Make sure you hang out with friends a lot too. If you have numbers, she is more likely to avoid confronting you. But the number one thing to do is not fight back. If you have to, only imagine what you want to say, but dont say out loud. And dont confront her either. If she goes one route to class, find another. The best idea to resolve this conflict is distance and patience.
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Hello, all.
A few years ago I tried contacts, but had a hard time getting them out.
Now, three years later, I feel like I want to try them again, but I feel kinda iffy because this year I've gotten A LOT of compliments on how I look (over the summer I resolved to swallow my shyness and be outgoing so I could show people who I really am instead of hiding it away).
I know if I get contacts, I'm going to look weird, because people aren't used to me without glasses. Also, my crush has seemed to be showing more interest in me (I've been hanging out with him more lately, a rarity this school year because of our busy schedules...I've been so happy!)
I've asked some friends whether or not I should get contacts, and some of them say I look adorable in my glasses. Basically I'm afraid of losing my compliments and possibly my friend's increased interest in me if I get contacts...so any advice would be WONDERFUL!
Thanks so much, and sorry it's so long!
Getting contacts actually help a lot over time. Everything takes time. I wore glasses way back when and nowadays I love to wear my contacts because I feel I look better in them. Plus, glasses tend to rub around and spread acne. Getting contacts can also lower that problem over time. Eventually, you can get them in and out with ease and look you best everyday XD
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13/f
Well I like this guy && he likes me too.
But he hardly goes on msn, he used to but hes grounded. I'm really scared we're going to loose our relationship, cause hes also in a different class then me. He only talks to me at like Break/recess & Lunch. But I'm in his Math class, I cant sit near him since his friend always sit there, and then one day, I finally found a spot that is KINDA near him... Something like this.
F= his friends BF = my friends K= always hated this girl H= Him M=Me
F H K BF
f f BF M
Sorry if that was confuesing. Anyways. It was like that, and then I dont really see him talking to me in math. But when "K" was talking to him since he was kinda right beside her, he started to laugh. I can't really find any other time to talk to him. && the valentine dance is coming up. But our school rule isnt ask people before the dance. Its actually you ask the person AT the dance. I want to dance with him, but I'm afraid of the relationship ending. =\
Any advice would do! Thanks. (:
The best thing to do is find ways to hang out after school in real life. If you cant, find ways in school. Stay with him in lunch and recess. Try to ask him if he could sit next to you in Math class(unless you get assigned seats XP) Get him to sit by you instead of you trying to sit by him. Like, ask him to help you understand something in class(even if you already understand it). Its kind of like the saying "the frog does not go to the fly, the fly goes to the frog." Be patient and slowly ease him to sit by you. Eventually, itll become a habit of his, and he'll do it more often(unless the relationship breaks which I pray does not happen). And if your worried about "K" hang out with him more, dont be. Unless you know for a fact that something is going on between them, dont interfere. You could just possibly make thing worse. Just slowly push forward to him and it should all work out.
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