I'm 17/f and recently I've been having feelings towards my basketball coach (He's 26). A couple nights ago the whole team including him went out to go bowling. It was like we weren't even there with the team, there was flirting and you know the whole "bet I can beat your score", and random touches when we passed by each other. And it's not just on his part it's me too. What should I do? Should I talk to him about this?
Thanks
Confused Basketball
Well, it's never really a good idea to mess with teachers [or anyone older if you're still a minor], cause it can ruin a lot of lives, but ultimately it's YOUR life, and I'll be damned if I tell you how to live it when I myself do as I please. Just doesn't seem right. Anyway, there are many ways you can handle this, but only two that I'll go into: you can either get the heck away from him if you find him creepy [when you distance yourself, he's bound to get the hint], OR, you can let this run it's course. If you like him and feel you want it to go somewhere, do NOT talk to him about it. Men don't want to be talked to; that'll just freak him out. Though you didn't describe him much, it sounds like he's definitely interested. Keep in mind his intentions may or may not be good; there's no way to tell. I do have to warn you, there's always a HUGE risk of getting hurt, caught & embarrassed, or that it won't work out. Dating teachers is a big deal and can get you both [mostly him] in oh so much trouble. Good luck with whatever you decide darling.
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like for girls people say gorgous, pretty, beautiful, but what would i say to my boyrfriend. i say he is cute and sweet all the time but what else??
I call a guy gorgeous if he's cute, adorable [favorite], handsome, sexy, even bangin' if you want. The most important thing is to call him whatever you feel he is. If you think he's a dumbass, call him that. If you think he's hot or sexy, compliment him. It's really up to you, what you feel comfortable calling him. Hope this helps.
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I'm a junior in high school. For the past two years, everytime i liked a guy, its always been some random boy ive seen walking down the hall. I never get crushes on guys that I actually know; just guys that I think are really cute that ive never talked to before.
A few days ago I was walking through the halls and saw this guy, and as soon as i made eye contact with him, my little crush started to develope. I know his name, because we use to ride the same bus in middle school and for some strange reason i always remember stuff like that.
I feel like a stalker. Is this normal? My friends make fun of me for liking this random guys. It doesnt feel right to me but i cant help it.
*Also, does anyone have any adivce on how I can talk to this guy and get to know him? I dont have any classes with him, so it would have to be when i see him during lunch.
thanks so much!!
Well, it's not as if the guy was a complete stranger, and most importantly, you didn't follow him home or anything. That's stalking. Anyway, I can see the complication in taking an interest in people you already know. It's like you know too much about them, and they become human, no longer perfect. That's how I am.
I'm MUCH more likely to be attracted to some random guy I see at the mall or on the highway than one who I see everyday at school. It's just the way some of us are.
About your friends, you don't automatically have to tell them when you see some cute guy you see, or make it clear that liking and attraction are two VERY different things.
You can simply go up to the guy, which is of course the most fool-proof approach. You can cut in front of him on the lunch line and smile to show that it was on purpose, get to know his friends, "accidentally" bump into him in the hallways. Always smile, though. Good luck with your crush
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there is a guy, let's call him chris. he liked me in 8th grade and asked me out, and i said no. however, we remained good friends until 9th grade. then, he got a girlfriend, and, assuming that he no longer liked me / wanted to talk to me, i insincerely ignored him for a few months.
little did i know that separately, my female friend (let's call her brianna) from out of town was talking to him on a daily basis. they became friends in 8th grade when he would often ask her for advice regarding asking me out, etc. it was very awkward. even in 9th grade during the timespan of chris and i not talking, brianna would talk to him and then one day chris messaged me and we made up and became friends again. brianna selfishly feels fully responsible for chris and i becoming friends again, although i would have been just fine not being friends with him.
so now, in 10th grade, we are all friends. GOOD, right? NO. it's horrible. i absolutely hate it. i hate how she talks to him and how they talk and IM and say things to each other that i don't know about. both parties have considered dating each other but for obvious purposes (and not-so-obvious) they have not yet. brianna went out with a separate guy from my school, let's call him chester, and i barely even knew about it. the whole time, chris was giving brianna advice about what to do about chester. and it got me so heated.
i always thought that it was me just being my natural jealous, overly sensitive, overreactive self. but recently, i realized why i am so upset about this whole three-way game that brianna, chris and i are playing.
(1) the whole reason why i appreciate(d) brianna as a friend so much was because i could say anything about anyone in my school to her and not worry about her telling anyone. it was that she was so separate from all my other friends and i could escape to her when i had drama with my other friends from my school. but now i have to say, "don't tell chris, but..." otherwise she will.
(2) chris is the perfect boyfriend except for one thing, which is why i didn't go out with him. i am almost territorial of him because i want first dibs when that one thing changes. so i really don't like him talking to my friend. i don't care about other girls but it's JUST with her i feel so upset.
(3) i miss having conversations with each of them without the other one's name coming up.
SO ANYWAY. i hate playing this triangular game. i absolutely hate it. except i can't seem to separate myself from them because they were two of my BEST friends and i just miss back when they didn't know each other. i can't talk to them because they'll ask me what my point is, and i pretty much just want them to stop talking to each other. i know that's selfish of me, but that is what i want. i will not try to persue it though, nor will i try to break them up as friends because they "have so much in common" :( :(
but what should i do? believe me, i have TRIED ignoring it. i have TRIED. and i can't. i can't tell them that it's awkward for me because it would come off as though i like chris, which i sort of do except for that one flaw of his. she doesn't like him as more than a friend but she would date him if that one flaw was fixed, just like me.
for the love of god, can someone please help me and supply me with some advice? i absolutely hate this...
I've noticed you've asked this same question at least 3 times, and I guess you haven't found your answer yet. What do you want me to tell you? You're jealous, and unless you plan on cutting all ties with the two of them, or sabotaging their relationship, you're gonna have to get over it. Yeah, it gets weird when two friends you do NOT want together become really close, and believe me, I've tried breaking it up. The only one who ended up loosing was me. You shouldn't be jealous about your friends being friends. You should celebrate it. But if it's truly that unbearable and uncomfortable for you, tell them each what you don't like. Tell the girl that anything spoken between the two of you should remain as such, and tell the guy that you have feelings for him, but there's just that one thing stopping you. It's kinda like an Anne-Mary Boleyn situation. Things hardly ever go our way, and the chances of things magically returning to what they used to be are very, very slim. Just make sure that she doesn't get the guy, cause trust me, you'll just end up loosing them both. Good luck.
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.o.k i really want to move out of my house but i do not know how i should break it to my mom and dad. I want to move becasue i can not stand it anymore at my house i can never be my self. But when i go to my boyfriends house i am a diffrent person and i love that person. Hey makes me so happy. So what should i do?
Well, I guess it depends on how old you are. Don't go moving out if you're only 13 and in love for the first time or something. If you're of an age where you can provide for yourself and help your boyfriend out, assuming you won't be leaving all the bills to him, and the situation at home is really that bad, then maybe it's time to move out. I'd suggest you break it to them very calmy, and try to leave things on good terms with them. Remember that no matter how old we are, we'll always need our parents at some point in life. It's a really big step, and I'm serious about the providing for yourself part, because if your parents don't love the idea, and someday you and your partner break up, you're gonna be the only person you can count on, and you need to understand that and be ready for it to happen. Hope I helped, and good luck with whatever you decide.
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does anyone know the name of the website that lets you say what school your in and then you go to your school's page and you can write comments about all the teachers and usually its really bad stuff. i forgot the name but i really want to go on it. i remember it had a black background hah thats all i remember.
You mean ratemyteacher.com?
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I am 15 years old. I am Catholic and I really need help from other Christians.
I love going to church and I love praying. It just makes me feel so great to see all of the people who have close relationships with Jesus.
I believe in Jesus but the sad thing is is that I never have actually "felt" him like some describe it. I am always wondering, "Am I doing something wrong?"
I need your help. How did you guys get a relationship with Jesus?
And then you wonder why you don't have a true relationship with God. Its basically cause you're too busy being proud of your perfect religion, along with the rest of the saintly catholics. When it comes right down to it, you've got no religion, and none of you know what a real one is like. If you would, you wouldn't be asking for advice, would you? Lol. No doubt about it hunnie. Enjoy!!
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i go to a reeally small school and im new this yr and i have a lot of friends and i know people like me but i heard that some kids think im conceited. I will be honest i do think im pretty but i know others are prettier than me. i joke around a lot but im not serious. this one girl in particular makes comments about it all the time and shes the only girl i know of that thinks im conceited but a girl told me more people do too. but im just kidding when i make comments and i mean i do think im pretty and i have self confidence but im not going to be like every other girl and be like oh no i think im fat or no im so ugly! cause thats stupid. i guess i could be more humble but its not like i try to be conceited! i just want them to know who i really am and see the real me and understand that im NOT. the girl who thinks im conceited is nice to like everyone except me-she always makes comments and i think its mean. what should i do? just write her a note or sumthing explaining that im just kidding when i make comments and i know im not like the prettiest girl ever or w/e. also i think she is jealous of my self confidence but i wish she couldnt be mean instead. thanks so much and your advice would be greatly appreciated! and i will rate :]
*always glad to help=] anything else just hit me up*
Trust me, its a compliment, no matter how 'mean' it may sound. It just means that everyone acknowledges how above them you are, whether it be looks or just confidence. No matter how much you kid around, deep down you know:if you got it, flaunt it. Don't ever let people get you down because you know how good you are, and don't ever apologize for it, cause that would be giving them what they've wanted all along. When you get right down to it, its highschool. In other words, its bullshit. No one, not even you, will give importance to any of it in a couple years. And if this girl (who obviously has no life and a lack of self esteem) persists, why not play her game? After all, the adjetive "conceited" needs the attitude to back it up. You ARE yourself, and as soon as you're not, you're simply one of the rest. Hope this helps
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this girl is really mean to me. & at school she's in my 5th period health class & her and her friends talk abt me.. and she bugs me in the h allways & calls me a bitch & threatens me and i told my teacher but my teacher said there's nothing she can do tht goes on outside of the classroom.. and she harasses me on facebook.. is there any wya i can block on facebook? & wut should i do with her bothering me at school?
I hate bullies, I swear. I know everyone's not the same, but I'd beat the crap outta her. Find out WHY it is she dislikes you. Could it be jealousy, or a rumor? Have you ever talked to her? Not that you should care what other people think anyway. Talking to your counselor and switching classes is also a good idea. Your teacher, by the way, is being stupid. Don't turn to her for anymore advice. I think it is important to get to the bottom of it though, and if she refuses to talk, just ignore her. Now, if she lays a hand on you, that's something else. You have a right to defend yourself you know. Talking to your parents, or hers, can also help. My mom would mess anyone up for me. I can't think of one who wouldn't. I hope I helped.
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theres this little kid at school. maybe 4 years younger than me, im 16. Now this guy keeps gettin into our faces at lunch and laughin, proper being cheeky. from far, he laughs, and when we walk over to him, runs. His little friends are stupid aswell. now ive tried talking to him to him and tell him to shut his mouth, but he was "ok!" and once i let go of the guy, runs away doing some stupid laugh. im so close from hurting the guy, but he's so small and im proabably twice his size, what should i so? dont tell me to "tell the teacher's" because im not going to tell off a little kid who's annoying me. should i just smack the guy across the face or something? or what? its getting really bloody stupid as every lunch he's outside the shop we go to get lunch! any help?
smacking him would be more useless than talking to someone about it...at least you wouldn't get in trouble. he's a stupid little kid! why are you letting him get to you?! if ignoring him doesn't work, i guess another option would be to get just as annoying as him. just don't show him he's getting to you. i think he has a crush on you or something. no matter what age they are, boys just never learn the proper way to show their feelings...but seriously, never get concerned over non important people, its not worth it. hope i helped.
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17/F
So yeah. I'm friends with a lot of boys in my school. Girls have never really liked me, so I surround myself with boys. I have about 20 good guy friends. All of my guy friends and even some guys that I'm not really friends with always make sexual references towards me. Anything that has to do with anything sexual, they'll bring me into it. They call me a slut, a whore, a hooker, whatever. I know they're joking around, but why do they do it? It's always me. It's always been me thats been called the slut or the whore.
The thing is, I am in no way a slut. I've kissed two boys in my life. They know that. I know I'm not skanky. But why do they say all these things to me? They all always watch me eat at lunch too, especially if I have a banana or something haha. Does this mean that they like me? That they think of me in that way a lot? What does it mean because its been confusing me for a year. Any input would help. Just so you know, it doesn't bother me emotionally. They're not taunting me or anything, it can just get annoying.
what it means is, you've let them get too comfortable with you. the thing is, yeah, girls can be bitchy, but if you only surround yourself with guys, who will you go to when guys are being jerks, like so? of course, it is in no way your fault if girls are negative to you, its nature. its also nature for guys to be guys, but even though it may be kidding, its disrespectful. you wouldn't want anyone else to overhear and take them seriously, and even worse, partake? its basically come to the point where they've accepted you as one of them, and have forgotten that you're a girl and have feelings, which is what you need to make them realize. make sure to be firm when doing so, otherwise they might just react to your "girly emotions". best of luck
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ok this is embarrassing, but there's a teacher in my school who i have every day. He's young and REALLY good looking. haha. every girl thinks so. I'm like nervous to talk to him and stuff (im 14/f) but i don't want this to affect my grade. how can i move past this and focus on the schoolwork and not him?
this is comical =], its basically the same thing that happened to me, with multiple professors actually, and here i thought i was weird and alone. i kept asking for advice on how i should forget the whole thing and focus more on my school work, but like Romance said, its something that's always dormant in you. it's really difficult because though they are teachers, they're still men, and its no different from any other crush, and also the fact that chances of you ever being with him are slim make it more of a fixation. the way im getting over mine, is because over time, you don't see them as perfect, but instead take them for what the really are [human], and then you finally begin to see the flaws. you can also ask your counselor to switch your class so you wouldn't have to see him everyday. just make sure you don't act too shy, or too nice like the rest of the girls, but try not to be too hostile or indifferent like i am with my teacher. it'll take some time though, that i can assure. best of luck
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I started working at this place, and gave one of my co-workers my number. we text everyday & he calls me, we talk online, etc. & at work we're always flirting. the only thing he is he's 5 years older then I am (making it illegal) he turns 21 about two months before I turn 17. We're of different cultures & religions, but I can't help falling for him.
advice? =/
**sure, anytime=]**
i've always believed this quote:
age is an issue of mind over matter; if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
-Mark Twain
i would hate to ever point anyone in the wrong direction, but it's basically all about what your hearts wants, and that's something you can do nothing about. as an example, i have a 16 year old friend who dates a 39 year old, and they're very happily in love. i myself have dated 20 year olds ever since i was 13 (i developed prematurely). i can understand where it turns into a taboo, but life is about what makes you happy, not anyone else. just make sure he's sane and normal above all else. Good luck.
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I'm 15/f a sophmore. Ok, I'm not here to complain how I don't have a boyfriend (though it would be nice) However all the relationships I see in school are mostly based on if the girl "puts out" or not. I'm friends with mostly guys and I hear them talk about girls as if they are only sex toys it's disgusting. I think I'm decent looking and I wear jeans and a t-shirt everyday, but... is that the reason I don't have a guy, because I don't put out my body for everyone to touch and see?
Thanks in advance,
JJ
To be honest, in our times, it kinda is. Of course it's nothing to be ashamed of, and it's no excuse to fall into their category of "normal". This is why i myself chose not to have a boyfriend, but rather go to school to do what i was put there to do, and i walk around proud of being different. And yes, it does make you unique, no matter what others say. Think about it, if in any case you do put out, or start wearing over the top clothing, you'll just be one more for the guys to snicker and talk about your "attributes" at lunch. Keep in mind that even though you demand respect, you are also young and have a right to dress as sexy as you want to, and leave some to the imagination, as long as you're comfortable. Hope this helped
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i was at school today and in latin, these boys behind me were talking with me and then one of them asked me if i would ever snob his knob. nob? i have no ideaaa...what does that mean!?!?
lol yea it means a blowjob, get it "slob" as in slobber with saliva
if it helps, download that sonq "Slob On My Knob" by Three-Six Mafia, thats where they got it from. even the girls in my school sing that.
hope i clarified =]
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