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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Okay so heres the deal.
Im f/18 virgin and im leaving for college this sunday. Anyhow it just dawned on me that i should probly get on the pill before i leave seeing as things could happen.
*i know i dont have to go to the gyno to get the pill and i know you should.
*i know that your family doctor can give it to you.
*****BUT can you go to a walk in clinic to get the pill????*****
I would rather go see my family doctor but hes on holidays for the next 2 weeks. And i want is as soon as possible caus my school is out of town and making doctor app is gonna be hard.
THANK YOU!
Family doctor, Health clinic, Gynocologist, it doesn't matter. Any of these places is fine to go to, but it will be cheaper to go to a clinic.
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In exactly one week, I will be going back to school. I want to go back exuding confidence. Right now I am very confident, however, a little more confidence never hurt anyone :D. So basically, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to be more confident. Thank you!
Even though the answer below me was a well thought out, good answer, I don't think the bottom answer was terrible.
Assuming you want to be confident in every aspect of your life, here is some tips in lamen's terms:
1. Always smile at people. Talk to people that look lonely or sad, and make as many friends as possible. Not only will it make you a generally more happy person, but it will also make other people notice your confidence in yourself.
2. Study and do well in school. I know when I get good grades, I feel great about myself. That is a really wonderful feeling, because nothing is better than being proud of yourself.
3. Understand that no one is perfect. You are going to make mistakes, but that shouldn't make you any less confident in yourself.
Never forget every person on the planet is special and has great features about them. Find out what yours are, and be proud of them! =]
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Usually on pornos the guy eats the girl out before having sex as foreplay, but do a lot of people actually do this or is it just for the movie?
It usually depends on the couple.
You don't have to have any foreplay before sex at all, but it usually makes it easier.
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I really need to get on birth control. is there somewhere i can buy it just like over the counter? or do i have to go to the gynecologist? i am scared to go to gyno because i definitely don't want to be checked out. if i go to a local health clinic would they have to tell my parents? i'm 18 but i'm still under their insurance.
Going to the Gynecologist will make your parents more likely to find out, seeing as how they bill you, you usually pay with checks, and if you are under their insurance, they aren't obligated to keep it a secret from them.
You can't buy birthcontrol over the counter though, so you should go to your local health clinic. If you ask them not to tell, they can't. It's also much less expensive, if it costs anything at all. Some clinics don't charge anything.
No matter where you go though, you will have to have a physical examination done. It is just a part of life, and something every woman has to go through. You might as well get it over with. It's really not that bad, promise. =]
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okay so this is kinda embarrassing but... it always feels like i have to pee during sex and i get so scared that im going to that it no longer feels good and thats all i think about and i cant just relax.. so i no it could be he is hitting my g spot because it has happened before and i did orgasm but then another time when i was just masturbating it happened and i actually peed to.. and ever since then i cant enjoy sex for the fear im going to.. .what should i do???
You've gotten good answers, but I figured I would answer still.
Do remeber to pee before and after sex. Not only will it rid you of the fear of peeing on your boyfriend, but it will also lower the chances of you getting a UTI or yeast infection. =]
Certain sexual positions could be pushing on your bladder. If that's the case, try different positions.
If that's not the case, then you are just really going to "squirt". Disgusting word I know, I hate it. But that's really what you are experincing, so just go with it! ;]
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Me and my boyfriend were "trying out" sex, as we were both virgins and we've talked about it for awhile. I went on top and he went in about half an inch and then pulled out because I was scared. We tried again today, except he went just a SMIDGEN further, and it felt like something was breaking, so I told him to stop, so he did. I felt fine after that up until an hour ago when I peed and it started to hurt. Now it's totally fine, but it hurt a lot when I peed.
Also, we did that without condoms and I missed a pill three days ago, but took it the next day with my other one. I could be pregnant right?
16/f
Yes. But you probably aren't.
If you only missed on pill, and the penis was only in for a short time, the chances of you being pregnant are microscopic. Don't stress out because you aren't pregnant, I can ALMOST guarentee. =]
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Okay, so I don't have a boyfriend nor do I want one, but I want to lose my virginity anyway. Please, don't tell me wait until you're with the one that you love, because I really don't want to.
I don't have any guys that I'm hooking up with at the moment, but I was hooking up with two guys, let's call them N and C, the other night. They all left for basic training. I'm tired of highschool boys (I'm almost a senior in highschool) all of the ones that I know are too immature for me.
Anyway, six months from now one of the guys N (the guy that I really want to do) that I was hooking up is going to be back. I got the other guy C (who I like more as a friend) to give him my address, and we're going to meet up and try things again. I really want to have sex with N, but... I'm really tight.
I know this because C couldn't get it in. Any ideas for becoming a little bit looser? That way, I won't have any problems in the future?
Since apparently you aren't going to listen to anyone telling you that it's a bad idea to lose your virginity on a one night stand, i'll skip the whole lecture; But do remember to use condoms please. You have no clue where those penises have been.
Though I do think you will regret this decision hugely one day..
Every virgin is "tight" in a sense. There is really no way of changing that until you have sex. Though masturbating may help you get used to having at least something up there. Make sure when you have sex that you are well lubricated, and that should make the penis slide in easier.
FYI: When you are on your period, the penis should actually slip in easier. I'm not sure why it didn't go in with C, but it was probably because he wasn't erect enough. It takes practice before it finally goes in. But if I were you, take it as a sign and save your virginity for someone who cares about you.
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i have fantasies of my tennis coach who is about 35.
i'm only 15.
but i have no idea how to not think about it.
i mean hes attractive, but is there anything i can do to stop thinking about him in a sex related way.
You shouldn't try to force yourself into not thinking about him. That's not healthy and it most likely won't work. Just let the crush run it's course. As long as you (or he) isn't acting on these impulses, then it's completely normal and fine.
And even still, no one can help who they find attractive. If he's a good looking man, i'm sure you aren't the only person thinking about him in a sexual manner.
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ok me and my bf got into a little fight but were all better now. but now he wants to give me oral to make up for pissing me off...i want to but idk how ike wat do i do while hes...ya..eating me lol i need serious help and he wants to do it tommorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with xlovexx463 up to a certain extent. You shouldn't let him bribe you into forgiving him by any means, especially not sexually.
But if you have already forgiven him for the fight, and you are comfortable (as can be in a situation like this) then go ahead and do it. He's basically doing all the work. You just have to sit back and enjoy. =]
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I've masturbated before, but i only cum when i rub my clit. I've tried to finger myself but that just feels weird. I know that if I ever really have sex that's what's going to happen but i don't really like the feeling. is there something that I'm doing wrong?
No.
That's how a lot of women masturbate, and it's the only way some women can get off. But being fingered and having sex are two completely different sensations. So i'm sure you will still enjoy sex. If you do have a hard time orgasming just by intercourse, your boyfriend (or you) can always just rub your clitoris during sex.
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my bf says it's really hot when i finger myself, && i've heard it from a few guys..
i was just wondering. why is this so hot?
First off, I don't think it's sick.
I see nothing wrong with a woman pleasuring herself. It's not like 90-95% of guys don't do it. And I also don't see anything wrong with a partner wanting to watch the one they love pleasuring themselves. Personally, I think it's sweet.
The people below have given pretty thorough answers about why a guy likes watching a girl. But honestly, everyone probably likes/dislikes it for their own reasons. You'll have to ask him.
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Is it bad to have sex everytime you're with your boyfriend? I'm 17 and he's 18. We've been dating for almost 1 year now and people say it's bad becuase they think that's all we do, But is it really so terrible?
No. And I don't see why it's any else's business but you are your boyfriend.
Unless you guys think you are having too much sex, you aren't. You are in a loving relationship and like to express yourselves. There is nothing wrong with that.
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well im new at my school and thanks to my friend (at another school) i started talking to this girl whos cool and popular and stuff. now i have the chance to be friends with her and be cool and popular but i dont want to do bad stuff. like she and i were talking about parties and how shes going partying this weekend and how some of her friends do drugs and how everyone at the parties drink and stuff. now i want to be cool and popular and be friends with these people but is that possible to do without partying, doing drugs, and drinking? or will they think im a loser if i dont do these things. i want to be friends with everyone and be nice and just not do the bad stuff but is that like a requirement lol and i wont do them even if it means not being "cool" cause that stuff isnt cool to me so please dont lecture...i just need some advice. i want to be friends with her and her friends and i want to be considered cool and popular (in the good way) so should i hang with these people and talk to them and stuff and just not go to the parties or drink and stuff? thanks so much :):)
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I admire that.
You're a teenager so you are going to be exposed to these kinds of things. It's really only to be expected. If you really like this girl, then hang out with her. You can party without getting trashed. From my personal experience, it's a lot funner just to watch other people get wasted. Quite entertaining. Just be warned that once you are in a situation like that, giving into temptation and peer pressure is easy. I doubt that they will call you uncool if you choose not to do these things. Just tell them something like, "My parents are really weird about this stuff. I could get in serious trouble for it." Or if you work, "I get drug tested at work, so I can't" Or you can keep it simple and just say "No, thanks" or "Not tonight"
Also, if there is going to be a lot of people, the police may get involoved. If they see there are underage drinking and drug abuse, everyone could get in serious trouble. So if I were you, beat it if there is excessive use of any of these things, or a lot of people there. If your parents are very strict about letting you out of the house, or about these kinds of situations, it's best not to get yourself in a bad one. So stay clean.
You can hang out with her regardless of what kind of lifestyle she's into. Just don't let her pressure you into something you aren't okay with.
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Ok,
So hi its sayah again,
uhm, so i am not pregnant
but i kinda want a baby now.
I am sad and disapointed
evern though im only 14
but still, i was thinking
and should i try and prego again ?
No. I do not think you should try again. I do understand your urges, because they are normal believe it or not.
I love babies so much, and there is nothing in this world that I want more than starting a family. But you know what? I'm only seventeen years old. Though I may think I can take care of a child now, the truth is I probably couldn't. Not without the help of my parents and boyfriend; And I don't want to put that kind of burden on my family. I'm graduating this year and plan on going to college and making something of myself. It's hard knowing that I still have 4+ more years of school left before I can start a family, but I think of it this way: I am making a good life for my FUTURE children. I want my babies to be happy. I want them to have their own home, and I want to be able to provide for them without the help of my parents. Don't you want that for your kids too?
I know it's hard, I do. I get jealous as can be when my friends (which seems to be happening more frequently) get pregnant. But I just use my head and say "You know what? I'm not ready for a baby. My boyfriend certainly isn't ready for a baby; And my kids are going to have a great life." That's my goal. And it should be yours too.
One day before you know it, you will be pregnant. You will get to enjoy the wonders of having a baby and being pregnant and you will be able to give them a GOOD life. Since you want children so badly, do what I do. Push and motivate yourself to do well in school, start a good life, find a great guy who will make a fabulous father and husband someday, and start preparing yourself for a baby now. Before you know it, you'll be starting a family =]
You know you aren't ready at fourteen I think. Please, don't be selfish. I know having a baby sounds great, and one day it will be. But not now.
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14/f.
Me, my mom, my 31yr old half sister, and 2 nephews live in a two bedroom apartment because my mom finally left my dad. To me I think my mom is always taking my half sister side all the time. Let's call my half sis Nancy. So me and Nancy got in a fight because supposibly I didn't vacum and I said will can you please wash the dishes she said no, because she was going to put the kids to sleep so the dishes weren't washed. Then 2hrs later my mom comes back from work and all of a sudden Nancy comes downstairs and complaining how lazy I am even though I vacumed. So I told her why didn't you wash the dishes she said because she was going to sleep then I said I don't see you sleeping then she was telling all this stuff in font of my mom so I didn't want to listen so I put my headphones on and blocked her out. Out of no where she runs up tries to grab my iPod I tell her stop its my iPod and she still has a hold of it. She could of easily gave me a concusion because she's like 256pounds. She didn't hit me but she wanted to. And my mom was just staring. After all this I went upstairs and she came after me then she was just giving me attitude and said all this stuff. I never felt so low in my life. So I cut my wrist, but didn't cut that deep. The next day in the morning Nancy wakes me up saying that I'm stupid and that I want attention then she was all telling my mom you want me to miss work in a annoyed way. And my mom and her were telling all this stuff. Do you think that Nancy should be like this to me and talk to me this way?? My let's her talk to me like however and Nancy tells my mom that I'm an ungrateful little spoiled brat. But today I had a hair appointment and my mom told her to take me she kept taking along time to get ready so I told her hurry up come on I'm gonna be late not in all of a rude way I swear. So she took me when I was getting out of the car I said thanx but I guess she didn't hear me when I get situatedcin the hairsalon my mom calls me she was yellingvat me saying that Nancy was crying and shaking saying that i didn't say thank u to her. By the way I was 16mins late because of her. My mom said that I owe her an apology. I just hung up because I knew I said thanx and she dropped me off really late. Then my mom was saying that I was ungrateful. I knew I wasnt giving her attitude. My mom and Nancy always hang out and have a good time. I feel that I should be put in a foster home for the better for me. Right now there in the other room laughing while I'm in another room just txting. I feel like I should leave and never come back. I hate everything. Do you think this is right at all? Should my mom be like this? And Nancy is 31yrs old with two kids. I'm barely 14. Please help me. I don't know what to do. I'm so sorry this is so long. But please tell me all your feelings and opinions on this. Thank you.
Is cutting your wrists something you do often? If it is, that's definitely not something you should continue doing to make yourself feel better. If this isn't something you usually do, don't start doing it. It's a very bad habit to get into. Below is a question a girl asked about cutting. My answer, along with others, is there so if you do cut, I think you should read it:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536093
Let's start with your mom. Leaving a husband isn't an easy thing to do. You should think about that, and understand this isn't an easy time for her. I'm sure she is stressed out, so you & your sister yelling and fighting isn't making the situation any better. Talk to her about what's bothering you in a calm and rational way. Tell her you feel unappreciated and left out. Be honest with her, and she'll be honest with you. I'm sure she loves you just as much as she loves your sister, but she just isn't showing it well. Let her know that.
As for your sister, she needs to grow up in a bad kind of way. She's THIRTY ONE, she has TWO kids and she's LIVING with you guys. She needs to take your mother's feelings into account as well and help out around the house more. Sisters hardly ever get along, but at her age, it's time to get some maturity and stop fighting with you. The best thing to do about your sister, is to ignore her. Wash the dishes, clean the house, and do what needs to be done. You'll get self satisfaction knowing she is the one being lazy, and you are being the adult.
You do not need to go into foster care. That's being a little dramatic. Just because your family isn't getting along, doesn't mean they don't love you. You aren't going to get into foster care unless you are being abused, which you aren't. You have a loving family whether they show it or not. How do I know? Did you not go to a hair salon? If your family didn't love you, you wouldn't have went to get a hair cut.
I don't think you are brat. I think you may have done some bratty things, but you know what? You are fourteen. It happens. Every teenager does bratty things every once in a while. The best thing for you to do is talk to your mom and take responsibility around the house.
Good LUck.
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14/f. I'm going to start high school and I'm kinda nervous. Can you give me advice for what can I expect and how to be more open to make new friends? Please. And how's highschool different from middle school. I don't want to be popular but I at least want to friends with everyone/friendly. And advice would help Thanx.
I live in a small town & go to a small school, so highschool wasn't all that different from middle school to me. But i'm sure it's all basically the same.
You shouldn't be nervous. It's always scary and nerve wrecking for every freshman, but it's never that bad.
Highschool is different from middle school in a few ways though. First of all, you have a lot more freedom, but along with that, you have a lot more responsibility too. Teachers don't stay on your back as much about turning in work, which can be nice. But at the same time, if you don't turn in your work on your own, you get a 0.
You have a lot more options in which classes you take too. You have so many choices to make, and you need to be wise in those decisions. In highschool, getting good grades isn't so much about impressing your parents, but about doing well for yourself and your future. So highchool is definitely the time to buckle down on getting good grades. Be wise in the classes you choose to take, because it will effect you getting into a good college.
As for friends, just be friendly. Smile at people and talk to people. Don't be a snob, and don't be shy. Just get out there and talk to people. That's really all you can do.
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I don't know know what birds and bees means, I know it has to do with sex, but I don't get it... Does anybody know a site WITHOUT many pictures, please? I can't find one with helpful pictures... And appropriate ones. 0o; In other words, I have never had the sex talk. Anybody know a site that can do it for me? My parents yell at me when I ask, so I can't ask them...
www.coolnurse.com
Has all the information you could possibly need for sexual education and other things you may be interested in =]
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I am thirty years old and have never made anything higher than 13 an hour. I am currently going to school and I have also been married for 8 years. My wife is unhappy with her job, and so I am helping her get a better one. I am facing foreclosure, possible job loss, and was recently in an accident where I may be getting sued. Unless I finish school or get a higher paying job, I face divorce and worse. I have been contemplating suicide, and would like to know what would be the most painless, and easiest way to go about doing it. I don't want any religious answers because I am so far from God right now, he couldnt find me if he had a compass. I am tired of struggling, I just want rest.
I'm 17. I have never been in a problem that wasn't easily fixed with a little help from my parents. I've never been out in the real world, and i've been spoiled sick in the past.
But the truth is, I KNOW that suicide is never the answer. < That's about as generic of an answer you can get, but it's also the truth. Someone below me mentioned something about how things will get worse before they get better, and that is true.
Losing your wife and not having a good job? About to lose your house? All your possesions? That's terrible. But you know what? You always have your life and your dignity. As long as you have that, you should be happy. You have the rest of your existence to figure out life and get it straight. Don't throw it all away because things are tough rightn now.
See a therapist. Talk it through.
Then watch the Pursuit of Happiness.
It's a good pick me up =]
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everybody thinks im a techers pet even though i asked to help my teacher everyday and i get awards everyday and i listen in every lesson in school doenst make me a teachers pet does it?
If it's to the point that you are a brown noser & a tattletale, then you are a teacher's pet. And no one likes a teacher's pet.
But there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a good student or getting awards. If someone picks on you about it, tell them to shove it. =]
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One of my friends in 6th grade, when he lived in Texas, said he faked a sickness which I forget and he skipped a whole school year and was home schooled. Don't really know how true it was though, but It was a contagious sickness of some kind...
Anyway, does anyone know any sickness that can work like this? The reason why is sort of personal, but I only want to skip one year of school, and come back the next... Its sort of a long story why...
Any ideas would help. Thanks.
Regardless of the reason, it's not a good idea to skip a whole year of school, and it probably wouldn't work anyway. I'm sure your friend probably fabricated a story, because that would be pretty much impossible to pull off.
If something is going on at school that is so bad you find it neccessary to fall behind in school, you need to talk to someone about it. And honestly, would you really want to keep up a charade like that for a year? You would have to sit in bed and do nothing for 365 days. NOT fun.
Mono (mononucleosis) is a contagious disease that can keep you out of school though. But really, don't try it.
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