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14/f.
Me, my mom, my 31yr old half sister, and 2 nephews live in a two bedroom apartment because my mom finally left my dad. To me I think my mom is always taking my half sister side all the time. Let's call my half sis Nancy. So me and Nancy got in a fight because supposibly I didn't vacum and I said will can you please wash the dishes she said no, because she was going to put the kids to sleep so the dishes weren't washed. Then 2hrs later my mom comes back from work and all of a sudden Nancy comes downstairs and complaining how lazy I am even though I vacumed. So I told her why didn't you wash the dishes she said because she was going to sleep then I said I don't see you sleeping then she was telling all this stuff in font of my mom so I didn't want to listen so I put my headphones on and blocked her out. Out of no where she runs up tries to grab my iPod I tell her stop its my iPod and she still has a hold of it. She could of easily gave me a concusion because she's like 256pounds. She didn't hit me but she wanted to. And my mom was just staring. After all this I went upstairs and she came after me then she was just giving me attitude and said all this stuff. I never felt so low in my life. So I cut my wrist, but didn't cut that deep. The next day in the morning Nancy wakes me up saying that I'm stupid and that I want attention then she was all telling my mom you want me to miss work in a annoyed way. And my mom and her were telling all this stuff. Do you think that Nancy should be like this to me and talk to me this way?? My let's her talk to me like however and Nancy tells my mom that I'm an ungrateful little spoiled brat. But today I had a hair appointment and my mom told her to take me she kept taking along time to get ready so I told her hurry up come on I'm gonna be late not in all of a rude way I swear. So she took me when I was getting out of the car I said thanx but I guess she didn't hear me when I get situatedcin the hairsalon my mom calls me she was yellingvat me saying that Nancy was crying and shaking saying that i didn't say thank u to her. By the way I was 16mins late because of her. My mom said that I owe her an apology. I just hung up because I knew I said thanx and she dropped me off really late. Then my mom was saying that I was ungrateful. I knew I wasnt giving her attitude. My mom and Nancy always hang out and have a good time. I feel that I should be put in a foster home for the better for me. Right now there in the other room laughing while I'm in another room just txting. I feel like I should leave and never come back. I hate everything. Do you think this is right at all? Should my mom be like this? And Nancy is 31yrs old with two kids. I'm barely 14. Please help me. I don't know what to do. I'm so sorry this is so long. But please tell me all your feelings and opinions on this. Thank you.
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Is cutting your wrists something you do often? If it is, that's definitely not something you should continue doing to make yourself feel better. If this isn't something you usually do, don't start doing it. It's a very bad habit to get into. Below is a question a girl asked about cutting. My answer, along with others, is there so if you do cut, I think you should read it:
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Let's start with your mom. Leaving a husband isn't an easy thing to do. You should think about that, and understand this isn't an easy time for her. I'm sure she is stressed out, so you & your sister yelling and fighting isn't making the situation any better. Talk to her about what's bothering you in a calm and rational way. Tell her you feel unappreciated and left out. Be honest with her, and she'll be honest with you. I'm sure she loves you just as much as she loves your sister, but she just isn't showing it well. Let her know that.
As for your sister, she needs to grow up in a bad kind of way. She's THIRTY ONE, she has TWO kids and she's LIVING with you guys. She needs to take your mother's feelings into account as well and help out around the house more. Sisters hardly ever get along, but at her age, it's time to get some maturity and stop fighting with you. The best thing to do about your sister, is to ignore her. Wash the dishes, clean the house, and do what needs to be done. You'll get self satisfaction knowing she is the one being lazy, and you are being the adult.
You do not need to go into foster care. That's being a little dramatic. Just because your family isn't getting along, doesn't mean they don't love you. You aren't going to get into foster care unless you are being abused, which you aren't. You have a loving family whether they show it or not. How do I know? Did you not go to a hair salon? If your family didn't love you, you wouldn't have went to get a hair cut.
I don't think you are brat. I think you may have done some bratty things, but you know what? You are fourteen. It happens. Every teenager does bratty things every once in a while. The best thing for you to do is talk to your mom and take responsibility around the house.
Good LUck.
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