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fantisies.
i have fantasies of my tennis coach who is about 35.
i'm only 15.
but i have no idea how to not think about it.
i mean hes attractive, but is there anything i can do to stop thinking about him in a sex related way.
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Well, me and my friend have fantasies about an English teacher in our school =P
There's nothing wrong with having a sexual attraction to somebody, what matters is whether you act on that attraction or not.
In this case, I suggest that you keep it as a fun fantasy ;) lol
Don't worry, EVERYBODY has this
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A note before I begin
95% of guys do not have enough ego that they ever get used to girls expressing direct interest in them. We're hard wired to think you dont like us until proven otherwise.
That makes us weak when interest is expressed. Its the reason that so many teachers and students get in trouble these days. A young, attractive girl expressing interest (especially sexual, because all older men want to feel like they still have sex appeal) is very tempting regardless of whatever surrounds it.
As such, you need to be aware of how you act around him. Avoid flirting like the plauge. Avoid being alone with him whenever possible. Actively try to dress less attractively around him.
Another strategy that works beautifully for most people. When I was younger, there was this guy who was the track coach named Mr. Tames. He was a cool guy, about 25, relatively immature for his age.
One of his track girls fell in love with him. She wanted him, he wanted her, they skirted the danger line, and she wanted to wait until she graduated and then throw herself at him. But it was hard.
She was a friend of mine (former girlfriend's best friend, the girlfriend and i parted amicably) and I sat her down. I gave her this weapon.
"Every time you're around him. Every time you see him smile and blush, every time you want to flirt with or touch him, imagine him in prison. Imagine his life ruined, his name plastered across newspapers all over the US saying 'pedo teacher! pedo teacher' and imagine the damage to his life, friends, and family if you keep this up"
It worked. She left him alone. They ended up married at some point later or so I heard, but they waited until after she graduated and went to college to do anything.
I guarantee that if she had walked up to him and told him she wanted him, he would have given in.
You probably can't stop the fantasies. Girls have been fantasizing about their teachers (boys do it too) since the beginning of time. Just always keep in mind how badly you can ruin his life if you let yourself act on any of it. Thats usually enough to kill those giddy feelings like you slid a knife in their side and twisted.
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You shouldn't try to force yourself into not thinking about him. That's not healthy and it most likely won't work. Just let the crush run it's course. As long as you (or he) isn't acting on these impulses, then it's completely normal and fine.
And even still, no one can help who they find attractive. If he's a good looking man, i'm sure you aren't the only person thinking about him in a sexual manner.
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really its normal....
many gurlz have fantasies
about much older guys...
but really the only way to
stop think about him is to
put sumbody else in that space
*think about sum1 else maybe
a celeb. or a cute neighbor*
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I think if you focus your attention on someone else you will be fine!Don't feel bad When i was fourteen i had fantisies about my uncles friend and everytime i saw him i got all embarrassed and i would find excuses to talk to him...
hope i helped
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I know a lot of my girlfriends and I have had weird fantasies about older guys, or guys we shouldn't have fantasies about. It's normal.
I think as long as you don't act on these fantasies, you'll do fine =]
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I'm not exactly sure if you'll get over those thoughts about your tennis coach. So, I don't know if I can offer you advice like that. I've had alot crushes that I shouldn't have had, I eventually got over them but it wasn't like I was like, "let's forget about this guy." That's not the way that it worked.
However, it's okay, because lots of girls have crushes on older men like that. Just remember that he's your tennis coach, and that it's more than likely, illegal for him to pursue you in that way. So do your best in order to not follow through with those fantasies.
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