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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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After my boyfriend fingers me, he says his fingers smell like fish for hours afterwards. Is this normal? How can i get it to not smell down there?
A fishy smell usually equals to a yeast infection, however that's not always the case. If it is a yeast infection, try using the Monistat overnight treatment or go to the doctor and get some prescribed medicine. If it isn't a yeast infection, make sure you wash down there really well and remember to shower daily. That not saying you don't, just make sure you do. Try using feminine wipes during the day, or before he comes over. That will make you smell fresh & will make you feel fresh as well.
Fishy smells can be normal, so if he does end up with fishy smelling fingers, tell him to wash his hands. lol.
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I need a good foundation. Which do you all reccomend that wont be cakey and dry out skin? I have combo skin if that helps.
I want one to look like i have NO flaws.
Thanks =]
Dream Matte Mousse.
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I know this is going to sound weird but what is the actuall birds and the bees story, like how does it get told?
Thanks :)
The birds & the bees is a polite way of giving the sex talk to a younger generation; bees have stingers & birds don't. Meaning the boy is a bee and the stinger represents the guys penis. I'm sure you've already gotten plenty of information on the topic so i'm just going to leave it at this.
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hey i know this is a really weird question but i just got over a small yeast infection and i have these little red bumps on my vagina and its still kind of red down there...idk what to do is it part of the infection or what?!! help! i try to wash really well down there!!!
Most likely it's either a reaction to the medicine you took for the yeast infection, or you are still recovering from it. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about.
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Hey. I was looking at someone else's question about shaving "down there" and I was wondering about shaving. A few questions like do guys expect hair or no hair? If you are a guy what do you think/ would want?
Thanks.
Guys don't know what to expect, because all girls are different. My boyfriend said he expected hair because all the other girls he did stuff with didn't shave. I did shave, and he loved it. But he didn't care either way around. Sometimes I shaved, and other times I was simply to lazy to. Either way around, he didn't care because he loved me and as long as I was happy with myself he was happy with me.
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so I recently met this great guy & now he's my boyfriend. it seems like we've known each other forever tho. anyway, i kinda want a schedule of what we should do & when... we've held hands, kissed & made out. we love each other as much as possible for the about of time we've known each other. when would be a good time to do something new? can you point me in the right direction? i'm 15 almost 16, he's 16 almost 17. thanks a lot!
When it comes to being sexual with a boy, you can't have a schedule for what you should do and when. It totally takes away from the specialness of the situation. You can do whatever you want and when you want to. When I met my current boyfriend of 1 year, in the first week I got my first kiss, I made out for the first time, and I gave my first handjob. In the first month I was fingered and I have him oral sex. After we had been dating for about 3 or 4 months, he gave me oral sex and after we dated over 6 months, we had sex. I'm not tellnig you this is what you should go by, i'm just telling you that's how everything happened for me. I didn't plan it like that, it just happened.
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ok last night i woke up at about 3:30 because i heard a creaky noise and i flung up and went OMGSH!! i went to say you scared me to who i thought was my moms girlfriend and my dog but the person just turned around and looked at me like i was insane i stared at them as the faded into my door without opening it am i insane.. do i have some special power? this happened when i was like three.. i was in the bathroom potty training [ bear with me here ] && the door was open and all of the sudden a clown came out of the wall [ im not afraid of them ] and i screamed he looked at me and walked out the door and my uncle came running and looked at him or so i thought.. but i dont think he saw him .. whats wrong with me? am i just seeing this stuff and its not there do i have some power i dont know about im only 13 so it could get stronger
I suggest you watch Montel on Wednesday's. He always has this woman named Sylvia Brown on there. Have you heard of her? If not she's a psychic. Some believe in it, and others don't. I however, do.
This could just be an over active imagination, or it could be something more. Something is bothering me though, how can you remember something from when you were three, if no one was there to witness it but you? You must have one hell of a good memory. I can't remember anything that far back. Then again, I can't remember what I had for breakfast, so yea. Anyways, just read into things you've seen on the internet, and see what you can find.
Don't go around telling everyone what you've seen, because to be honest, some aren't quite as open to understanding things they can't explain as I am. They may say some cruel things to you about what you are saying, so just be careful.
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so, i have dark brown eyes, i was wondering what color eyeliner would look good with them? thanks
Amethyst.
Trust me, please.
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Hey. If this helps at all, I'm 13/f. My friend who is a boy likes this other girl. The problem is that he is WAY to shy and he also thinks he's fat (which isn't true because he never eats junk food and he trains for soccer every week 3 times-- Let's just say he's really musculer!!, even though that is kind of weird to say) Do you have any tips, or suggestions to make him more social, because he barely talks to anyone and he's very quiet. He's very nice and kind and I think he deserves this girl :) thanks
It's sweet that you care this much about him. I'm sorry to say there isn't much you can do to make him more social, except introduce him to new people and let him get to know others well. I'm sorry I can't help you any more than that, but if you're shy, you're shy. That's just how it is.
By the way, if this girl likes him, ask her to ask him out. That way he won't have to be as aggressive towards the situation.
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im not sure weather or not to shave below .. i know ill be doing something soon becuase im kidna getting close to this boy and everytime we see each other we make out but it never got any further. but i think hes going to be going down or something and i wanna be ready .. and i dont know if i should shave all of it off.. help please ... rating
Shaving is a personal choice, and this guy won't care if you are shaved or not. A vagina is a vagina and i've said this one hundred times. If you want to shave, then shave. If not, then don't.
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I have thought about having sex with my boyfriend!!! but then it seems like it would hurt really badly!!! so what can I do just to keep it from just being so painful!!!
Plz help me!!!
Signed Helpless!!!
It does hurt really badly, but if you love your boyfriend it shouldn't matter how bad it hurts. The best thing for you to do is wait until you are ready for this. Some are ready physically and not mentally and others are ready mentally but not physically. If you are really ready to have sex, try lubrication. It will help it slip in easier and become less painful. Other than that you just have to suck it up and deal with it.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months now. he means everything to me and vise versa. we have been having sex for a few months now but it got out of control. every time we saw each other we would have sex and we didnt want it to start taking over our realationship and having it be all about sex, so we decided to take a little break until our 1 year anniversary. but when ever we are together he wants to fool around. dont get me wrong, i dont mind, i love being close to him but then sometimes hes like i really wish we had a condom. or later that night he will be pissed that we fooled around again. how can i find out what he really trully wants?
If he agreed to the 1 year anniversary, most likely he wants you, and not for sex. Guys are horny, it's in their nature. So now that you've had sex, it will be harder for him to go without it. Give him a break, just talk to him and tell him you really want to wait. Just don't full around with him. That's the only way to make sure you will know what he's really after.
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So I'm 15 and I have been trying to have sex with my boyfriend for about a month the first time he didn't get in much bc i said it hurt and so he stopped then we tried again and he got like half way in and it bled like quite a bit but nuthin to alarming then we tried about a week later and he got it in all the way i bleed like ALOT!! For like 4 hours!!! I went to the hospital bc I was afraid i was goin to die they said bc i was close to my period it might have been my period came but the bleeding stoppd after like 4hrs they said nuthin to worry bout so i wentto the ob/gyn n she said it was my hymen that broke n thats why i bled so much bc he popped my cherry does that happen to some people they bleed ALOT for a long time when it pops and will it happen again??
If the OB/GYN said it was nothing to worry about, then most likely it isn't. It does happen to some people yes, so don't be alarmed. There is a chance that you will bleed again during or after sexual intercourse, but most likely you won't bleed as much as you did this time.
Don't worry.
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what is the hymen? where is it located in or on a womens body? and how do you pronounce hymen? plz help me 13/f/MD
The hymen is a thin, elastic membrane stretched partly or completely across the entrance of the vagina. It has no known biological function. An intact hymen has long been considered the best way of telling if a female is a virgin. The presence or absence of the hymen is no factor in determining a female's virginity though. The hymen can be broken in the normal course of physical activities when the body is stretched, as in athletics, sports, or exercises. It may be absent, small, thin, or more rarely, tough and dense, completely blocking the vaginal entrance. It varies in size, shape and thickness from woman to woman. If it is too resistant to tearing it may require a small surgical incision before vaginal intercourse can take place. It's pronounces HI-MEN. You may have also heard this being a woman's cherry. As in "I just popped my girlfriend's cherry." In other words he just ripped her hymen.
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Okay so here is the deal. My dad is a very strick parent, especially when it comes to me and boys. 15/f Many of the boys in my grade are scared to call and come over my house for that reason. Also, a lot of boys have said to me that they would go out with me if my dad was not as tough. It bothers me that my dad is interfearing with my sexual and social life with boys. Not to be cocky but i am a beautiful thin girl who many guys would love to be in a relationship with. I dont know if there is anything i can do to help the situation. My dad will not give in. Do you guys have any helpful words for me? oh and its not like on the level of sex or anything. just holding hands is not in the question. I really need help and have been dealing with this problem for the past 3 years of my life. I just need some comforting words
XOXOXOXOX Alicia
Dads are always overprotective of their baby girls. And guys are always evil in their eyes. My boyfriend & I have been dating for a year, and he still gets nervous and scared around my stepdad. [he's pretty much like my real dad, so yea.]
Anyways, the only advice I can give you, is that if a guy really likes you, it won't matter how strict your dad is. That's how it was for me.
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i took a pg test and it said i was pregnant but then i started to bleed a couple of days later and then i took another test and it said negative but my periods are shorter and my mom says i am gaining weight and i have been feeling bad
If you've started your period, you most likely aren't pregnant.
As for the positive pregnancy test, the home test aren't accurate all the time. That's why they suggest you take more than one.
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why did i bleed having sex with my bf even though its not my 1st time?
It could be that your hymen wasn't broken the other times you've had sex, or if it's been awhile since the last time, you could have tightened up, meaning he could have ripped you during sex. It happens, I hadn't had sex in like 3 weeks, and I did last night. It bled, and it sucked. But it happens and it's not big deal really.
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so i put a tampon in for the first time .. i got it in real easy like it didnt hurt or anything. but like when i took it out it felt so weird.. it didnt like hurt but it felt like an "ah that felt weird" kidna feeling. like i dont know if its suppose to feel that way or if the tampon is supose to just gently slide on out or if u have to pull it out with some strength
If it didn't hurt when you took it out, then most likely everything was ok with the way you put it in. If you had to use some strengh and it felt weird, it probably didn't absorb enough blood, i.e you didn't wear it long enough. It's impossible to actually lose a tampon up in you, but it is possible for the string to get up in you, and not be visible. It's unlikely but it happens. It's happened to me before. If you get unlucky and this happens to you, you just have to go digging for it. And yes, i'm aware of how gross that sounds.
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15/f I am not a very sexually active person and have never gone past 1st base. My question is if while masturbating you break you own hymen are you no longer a virgin? Like if a guy asked you if you were or does it not really count?
It usually depends on your personal preference. Some people tear their hymen by doing every day activities. Like running, jumping, gymnastics, or whatever. And it would be weird to have never done anything sexual and to call yourself a virgin. I was being fingered when my hymen broke. I still considered myself a virgin until I had actual intercourse. So yea, it's all up to what you want to think.
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can you get pregnant if you have sex on your period when you dont use a condom? what are some of the consequenses? Also how long does a sperm stay alive when it is out of the penis?
Can you get pregnant while you are on your period? Yes, but the chances are very low.
There aren't any consequences, except you are more sensitive down there, and it can get kind of messy at times depending on how long you've been on it.
And after sperm hits the air, it stays alive only for a few minutes. But it doesn't die as soon as it leaves the penis, anyone that says that is just dumb. lol, kidding. But it really doesn't.
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