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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Advice
What are the best condoms out there?
Ones that feel like you have nothing on?
Thanx
I use LifeStyles, they are good. But Trojan are the best.
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Is there anybody on this site who can tell me their story about losing their virginity when they were young(12-15)and not regreting it? It doesn't have to be first hand accounts either, it may be stories you heard from other people too.
Yes. I lost my virginity with my current boyfriend of a year & 23 days when I was 14. I thought and still think I was and am kind of young to be having sex, but I love my boyfriend and I don't regret my decision at all. And even if in the future we do break up for some reason, I still won't regret it because I love him with all of my heart and i'll never forget the feelings we shared for each other. I have no reason to regret losing it to me.
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yeah but its more than i ever have before it like drips outta me im worried is it like an infection or anything i should get checked out
Well, i'm not saying it isn't an infection, but i'm just saying that discharge in general is normal. If it's oddly colored, smells fishy (literally), and/or itches down there, than it could be a yeast infection. If you feel it could be one, than yes. Get it checked out. I think you're fine though.
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i got fingerd a couple of months ago and the guy who finged me could only fit 1 finger up me and i am worried that when i lose my virginity the guy wont be able to fit his penis inside me do u have any advice on how 2 make my self less tight!?!?! thanx xxxx
It's actually a really good thing that you are tight. Guys like that.. to an extent, that is. If you do want to loosen up a little though, the best thing to do is masturbate, or keep on getting fingered. Eventually he will be able to do to. I have been having sex for a while, and it still hurts when my boyfriend uses 2 fingers.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we are both virgins, and today we were making out and things were getting a little "hot and heavy" so to speak and he told me that the wants to lose his virginity to me. I was a little shocked and didn't know what to say in return, so I said something stupid like "Oh? Really?" and he said "Yes, because I love you and I want to experience everything with you" He is the only boy I've done anything with other then french kissing, and I know that I'm not ready to have sex right now. But I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings when I didn't say anything back to him when he told me. I guess I was afraid that if I told him I wanted to lose my virginity to him [which I do....someday] he would want to have sex right then and there. What should I do? Any advice at all would be wonderful.
Thank you
One day when you aren't doing anything sexual, just casually bring it to his attention. Tell him you are glad that he feels that way about you and you feel that way also, you just don't think you are ready to go all the way quite yet. Tell him how much you love him and care for him, and than if one day you guys are still going good, which you hope you will be, you would be more than happy to lose your virginity to him also. You won't hurt is feelings (maybe is ego there for a second) but keep in mind it was probably hard to admit that to you, so break it down to him slowly.
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this is a wierd question.. i know it depends on each girl but do you bleed ALOT ALOT if your still a virgin and the guy is big? like how much blood?
If you haven't had your hymen ripped, you are still a virgin, and the guy is big, most likely you are going to bleed a good amount of blood. But don't worry. It only lasts for a short period of time, and it's not that much. But keep in mind the blood amount varies from girl to girl.
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everytime i masturbate [which isn't often], I feel so much shame.
I'm 14 and I just feel like masturbation is wrong - yet I can't help it when I have hormones. What should I do? Should I keep masturbating and keep it a secret from my mom, or just stop because I feel ashamed?
Usually most girls don't feel a bit of shame while masturbating, but after they reach an orgasm, they feel loads of shame. I guess the shame comes from the old saying "It's so fun it should be a crime" Which some people consider it to be. Your hormones are raging, and masturbating is not wrong. It's a way to alleviate stress and if anyone gives you any trouble over it, just tell them better you than another guy or something. Masturbating isn't something you usually share with your mom, and it's most likely something your mom wouldn't want you to share to begin with. So just do what you feel is right. If you feel you should quit, go for it. But just remember, it being wrong is a personal opinion that everyone needs to make for themselves.
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Last night was my last day of my sugar pill and me and my boyfriend had sex i was still on my period like a little bit. what are my chances of getting pregnant?
Very low. Don't worry, you are fine if you are taking the pill, even if it is just the reminder one. As long as you are taking your pill on a daily basis, you're good.
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I have been sexually active for around 3 months, and ever since then I've had a yeast infection before/during my period every time. The first time I was diagnosed and my doctor wrote me a perscription, but these past few times I just go to Rite Aid and buy whatever to get rid of the itch. Recently, I've been having a severe sharp pain when having sex. This isn't due to lack of lubrication, either. It's not really a tightening pain it's almost as if it were burning. It's completely unbearable. I've bled a little a few times as well. Is this serious? What should I do to get rid of the pain?
Yeast infections are contagious and can be passed back and forth between you and your partner. So most likely this is why the yeast infection keeps coming back. What you need to do if you want this to stop is go back to the doctor and get the medicine he or she prescribes you. Also, you need to be honest with your partner, because there is a chance that he's having the same issues. Make sure he gets the medicine he needs also, and make sure not to have sex until you are both cured.
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i started 2 bleed a very light like light pink and not enough to even cover a corner of a tampon and it lasted about three days and i had my period about 12 days ago why is this happening
It's called spotting. Some women have it before and/or after their periods.
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I'm reading "A Tree Grows in Brooklyn" by Betty Smith and I stumbled across a strange paragraph:
"It so happened that Professor Alegretto had a slight peculiarity concerning his girl pupils. He made them take off their shoes and stockings and stand in their bare feet while they sawed away. Instead of beating time or correcting their fingering, he spent the hour in a revery staring at their feet.
This made Evy jump. She knew nothing of Freud, and her scanty knowledge of sex did not include any of its deviations."
Back in the Victorian Age, were men like, sexually attracted to feet?
Some men still are. It's just fetish some guys have, my boyfriend by example, loves feet. When we are doing anything sexual, he tends to stare at them a lot. It's just how some men are.
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Why are guys so embarassed to admit their virgins in like, highschool?
Basically because having sex is cliched as being cool. (:rolls eyes:) And if a guy in a virgin, other guys consider him to be uncool.
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when someone is like tense and stuff or whatever, why do people say "he needs to get layed."?
Being layed is another way of saying having sex. Sex is a good way of relieving stress, so people usually tell them to get layed to relieve it. That's basically it really.
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i kinda want sex now but i want to wait till marige. and i want to not be a freakin virgin
should i have sex or wait till marrage?
No one on this website can tell you what YOU should do. Some will say go ahead and do it if you want, and others (especially christians) will tell you to wait until marriage. From the way you are typing, it seems as if you are somewhat young, so waiting is proably the best thing to do at this standpoint in time. In my personal opinion, I think you should wait until you find someone you love, and can see yourself being with for a very long time. Don't go out have sex with the first guy that will hop in the sack (because trust me, almost all guys are willing to do this) I think that if you are having even the slightest bit of doubt, that the best thing to do is wait. Because you can think about it as long as you want. Unlike if you have sex now, meaning that if you do and then later on down the road decided it was a mistake, what's done is done and there is no changing it. It's all up to you in the long run. This was just basic advice and information to help you decide.
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okay well i got fingered for my first time and it was great and im still a virgin but after it happened maybe a day or so later ive been dripping white chunky discharge and its sick please dont think im a scum but please help me!!!!!!!!!!
It's nothing to worry about. It's just discharge. It happens to all girls, and it really doesn't have anything to do with the fact that you were fingered at all. It's about hormones and growing up. The discharge is a way that your body cleans itself naturally, so it's actually a good thing.
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Well, tonight was my fourth time having sex. It hurt a little at first but then it kinda felt pretty good. It hurt very bad the first 3 times.
It felt like i wanted to like scream [in a good way]
I was wondering if this is normal? cuz i always heard it hurts until the 10th time. But, maybe a myth? hah.
Well, thanks =]
Haha, you can't actually say how long it will take for it to start hurting, because it varies from person to person. I've been having sex for about a year, and it still hurts in the beginning. Especially if I go a long time without having sex.
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I am 16 and I just had lost my virginity to my bf. He and I are in love and I wanted it to be with him. We have used protection, but during my first time I lost a lot of blood, presumably because of his size. It did pain to an extent, but there was just so much blood loss and I wonder is that an issue? Does that mean there is something wrong with me? We tried having sex again after my first time in a couple of days because we didn't finish but I still was bleeding. I’m scared and well the bleeding went away, but I haven’t gotten my period. It’s already like 4 days late and I’m scared. My bf says I probably have not gotten it because I lost a lot of blood during sex and he is positive that I am not pregnant because he didn’t even ejaculate in me and we used a condom. I’m scared because well does this mean I’m pregnant or Is there something wrong with me?
If he didn't ejaculate in you and you used a condom, the chances of you being pregnant are very low, but still possible. So don't rule that possibility out right away. I'm not sure how normal it is to lose as much blood as you say you did, but i'm sure it's nothing to worry about to an extent. If you continue to have sex, and the bleeding doesn't lighten, then I would get that checked out by your OB/GYN or your family doctor. I'm almost positive there is nothing wrong with you. You were probably just really tight, not well lubricated, and in a lot of pain while at the same time his penis size was larger than most. Most likely he just popped your cherry (ripped your hymen) and ripped your skin a little. Don't worry, it's nothing to seriously bad.
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Ok me and my girlfriend plan to have sex soon, the thing is that it is both of are first time and i know that sometimes it can be painful or uncomfortable for the girl. so i need some tips and advice on how to make it less painful/uncomfortable for her so she can enjoy it to the full. i dont like the idea of hurting her
Just so you know, that's very sweet.
Anyways, it is going to hurt her a little, and the best thing for you to do is suggest lubrication (like KY Jelly) and finger her right before. The fingering will loosen her up and make the idea of going up there easier, and the KY Jelly will help with the natural lubrication that is usually not there when a girl first has sex because of the stress of the whole thing. Really, all you can do is go slow, and ask her if you want her to stop. Just let her guide the speed and penetration, because it's a lot more painful on her. Trust me.
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If a gurl is 17 in her boyfriend is in his 30s is it still rape! Dont answer if you are not sure!!
It depends where you live.
Technically speaking as long as the youngest person is at least 18 it doesn't matter. But seeing as how no one pays a bit of attention to these 'laws' it really doesn't matter. If the girl is 17 I think she's old enought to decide what is age appropriate. She'll be 18 soon anyways.
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I am virgin, and i Have not come on my period for nearly 2 months. The boy didnt ejacuate cum on his finger and he didnt have pre-cum.. people said it is normal to miss some months of menstruation as i only started my period in june.. CAn i get pregnant?
People are actually right this time. No you aren't pregnant if 1) you are a virgin and 2) he didn't have any precum or ejaculation on his fingers. Periods can be very irregular for this frist few months, because your body is adjusting to the changes and needs time. And seeing as how you only started in June, you shouldn't worry yourself to much.
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