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I have a huge crush on my teacher, but I know he has a wife, so I wouldn't do anything inappropriate, but I'm pretty sure he knows I like him, I always giggle when I talk to him, I ask him for help outside of class, and just harmless flirting stuff, but obvious enough for him to know I like him, most teachers I've heard about, whenever they know a student likes them, they make it clear that they aren't interested, but mine sure doesn't. Whenever he sees me, he starts grinning a lot, when he helps me, if he's sitting beside me, he puts his knee against mine, or if he's leaning over my desk, he puts his face REALLY close to mine, like it's hard to keep eye contact I'm so intimidated, and he just grins like he knows what it's doing to me. We laugh and joke around a lot and he touches my arms sometimes. There's other stuff that he does too that makes me think he's flirting back, and since I know he's not interested in me since he has a wife, why is he totally leading me on? and in case you're wondering I'm 16 and he's 30. Like if this were a boy my age I would totally know he likes me, I just would love to know what he's thinking, does he just love toying with me, or is he actually flirting back?

It's possible that he's a perv like the others have alluded to, but unlikely. What's more possible is that because you're interested, you're simply misinterpreting every little thing. We girls do this alllll the time. In all probability, he does like you, just not romantically. There is nothing wrong with a teacher liking a student as a kid. I'm sure you're interesting and fun. The thing is, just because your knees touched one time, because he smiles at you, or because he touched your arm doesn't mean it's romantic in the slightest. Your raging hormones could very well be taking over your brain to the point where you can't think through the situation. It sounds kind of sick, but that's what really happens and there's nothing you can do about having a natural reaction. Nothing has happened here to show that he has any interest in you besides thinking you're a good kid, liking you as a kid, and caring about you as a student and person. A teacher being kind to a student and the actions that you've described are not behavior that is meant to lead you on or flirt with you in any way. That's just what you want it to be and what you're feeling, so that's what you're seeing. It's a fun fantasy to have, but under no circumstances should you take it any farther than where it is now. Simply asking him if he were interested in you or flirting could cost him his job, so don't. He does not deserve to be fired and have his life ruined because a silly teenage girl has a crush on him. All that being said, if HE takes it any farther, like actually touching you inappropriately or saying things that are clearly inappropriate, make sure that you do not participate and that you report him. Unfortunately, while it may feel good, it's really wrong. It's fine as a fantasy, but it can be a very scary reality that might feel good at the time, but would most definitely ruin YOUR life down the line. Be careful, for his sake and for yours. As it stands, as long as everything continues the way it is, there's nothing to worry about and you can continue to secretly enjoy it. Just be on the lookout to make sure he doesn't progress and you don't either. Good luck! :)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks yeah I kind of thought maybe I was just making a big deal about nothing but I wasn't sure
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