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so I need advice about my boyfriend. He's 21m and I'm 19f. We both have been dating for two years. I love him and like who he is but I have a problem. I don't really think he takes me seriously when I told him to wait on have sex. He's nice and acts like he'll wait but when all of a sudden something seems sexual in the conversation he make it into one not intended to be one and says he was joking about it. He knows that I still get embarrassed about sexual stuff he says to me. Another thing he gets confused about things easily. He irritates me but I keep it to myself because I have no friends sometimes and he proves he's there for me. I feel like I always have to guide him because he doesn't have any idea on how to do many things, I like being there to help him but he has to have mind of his own right?. I feel bad talking like that about him he's nice but his actions speak louder. I need any advice I can get thanks!
Go back and look at all of the questions that you've asked on this site before. Do you see a pattern? It can be powerful to see all of the words that you've written over the course of several years all at once. It seems like you've been trying to talk yourself out of being with this guy for a long time. Sex has always been an issue with him. Not knowing what you're feeling or if you're really invested in the relationship has been an issue for a long time too. He is not the guy for you. It has never felt right and it never will. You're not compatible. It seems like you're just staying with him because you'd rather be with him than not and because he's "nice". This isn't good for you and it isn't good for him either. It's time to break up with him. The longer you stay with him, the longer you will be away from the guy who is actually right for you. It's going to be a hard thing to do because you've held on for no reason for so long. You can do this. Gather your courage and finally do the right thing.
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