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I'm 16 and yes I do cut and I don't need a lecture. I'm trying to stop but I have an overwhelming amount of mental disorders. With that out of the way, I have to go to y cottage in 2.5 weeks and it's just me, my mom, younger brother, and aunt. No one except my best friend knows about my cutting and burning. I have a few faint scars from cutting on my arms and thighs and I want them to remove themselves because I have to wear a bathing suit at the cottage most of the time. And I have some very prominent burn scars on the wrist. There are 2 very pinky/red ones and one of them has gone white/ beige. I want the brighter ones to go white or beige so it isn't as noticeable. Does anyone know any remedies I can make at home tha works? I cannot just go out and buy special creams an it need I be fast acting, thanks

Scars don't go away. That's the problem. You probably didn't really think about the embarrassing long-term consequences of what they're doing and if you did, you didn't understand how awful it would really be. You'll stop cutting soon, but many many years from now you'll still have those scars. You'll still have to deal with people questioning them years and years beyond when you could justify having even done it in the first place. Just like you can't make your boobs bigger, you can't get rid of scars. Let this hard truth be what it takes for you to stop. Since you're only 16, your skin is still young and the scars have a chance of fading. Keep cutting and burning for much longer and that won't be the case anymore. Stay out of the sun because getting a tan will make the scars more obvious. Could you pretend that you have your period and not wear a bathing suit as much or put shorts over it because you're feeling uncomfortable? The only thing that you can really do to reduce the appearance of the scars is makeup. Experiment with it over the next 2 weeks and you should be able to find something that makes them less apparent. There are actually makeups specifically made for covering scars and tattoos. I'm not sure how easy it would be for you to get a bunch of makeup unnoticed, but that's really your only option. Unfortunately, there's very little that you can do about this. The next time you go to harm yourself, think about how permanent what you're doing really is. The pain of dealing with the scars all the time is going to be much worse over time than whatever you're dealing with now. Good luck!

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(Rating: 3) I've made bracelets for my arms to cover the dark burns, but my legs I think I'll just wear a long sheer shirt so my thighs are covered. Thanks I guess
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