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I agree with the answer below. When a guy tells you they're not looking for anything serious, you need to take it at face value. He was honest about what he was looking for, and you agreed to it out of attraction to him. But sometimes emotions get caught up and we develop feelings. It happens. You probably didn't intend for it to work out that way, but you can't fight how you feel. He, on the other hand, did not develop feelings. In my experience, men are usually either a) upfront about what they want- and he was, or b) send you signs early on, even if they are not direct. They are not hard to read, for the most part. Sometimes women overanalyze or keep their hopes up high...but there is no reason to, because he already told you he isn't looking for a relationship. If a man really wants you, he will make it known through his actions.
You are fortunate enough that he is being honest with you from the start. Some people lead women on or make them believe there is something there when there really isn't (only to conveniently keep them around as backup).. My take on it is that his telling you he wants to take a break is a gentler way of breaking it off. He knows that you developed feelings for him, while he still only wants to have a fling. You need to see eye-to-eye with the men you date. If you want potential for a relationship, then you need to date men who by their words and more importantly, their actions, show you that they are looking for the same. Try to let go of this guy, even though it's easier said than done. The age difference alone leads me to believe he is simply not ready for anything serious-- please try to date men around your own age (higher likelihood of wanting something more serious, and being on your level in terms of emotional maturity). When you feel ready, date other men. Keep your options open, because he is not interested in having a relationship with you. When you are with a guy, take what they say and how they act as clues into how they really feel. If a (mature) man really wants to be with you, he WILL make it known.
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