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I'm female. Okay so I'm in high school right now. My final year. Prom is coming up soon...we'll not really soon but you know how it is. I'm going with a guy I find really attractive. On the night I know it might lead to us getting physical( p.s we're not dating) because he did tell me a lonnnng time prior that he really likes me. He's one of my best friends so I know he won't bullshit me. He confides in me and I know of his past relationships. He's not a virgin(but I am). We talked about a relationship but I that's not going to happen because I dated one of his close friends. The thing is on the night it might lead to us wanting to get physical. And I don't know if I should do it. I want to experience it finally because I'm very curious. He makes it seem so interesting. But should I wait for it to be with someone more special? I don't want to be in a relationship with him but I'm still curious. Any advice (link)
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Have you ever heard the saying, "Curiosity killed the cat"? Well in my opinion, you should not get physical on your Prom night because when you have sex just to have sex, it creates a whirlwind of problems. Just because you like this guy, DOES NOT mean that you have to "put out" to please him. If he genuinely likes you, he WON'T FORCE you to make a decision.
Just like tea, sex is better the longer you wait.
And besides, you said that you don't want a relationship with this guy. So why settle for as one night fling? It almost sounds like he wants a relationship, and you want to bang and dash.
One night stands complicate things because most of the time, you don't know who you're getting into bed with. That's why you need a relationship first. I know the both of you are really good friends, but people change. And they change A LOT. Every guy has a friend that he tells everything to. What if you and him have sex, and then the next week it is all over school that you slept with him? People can be cruel and they will come up with all sorts of names about you, and that's not how you want to remember your Prom.
I know you think that he won't say anything, but how can you know for sure? I had a friend who watched a movie after Prom at a guy's house or something like that and the next day at school, a whole bunch of people knew about it. She didn't even have sex with him and he was telling everyone. And this is a guy that she has known for a while.
Bottom line, I believe that people should wait until marriage to have sex, but if you can't wait that long and the urges are too strong, at least make sure you use protection. Prom is supposed to be the best night of your life, not a night that you will REGRET.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Rating: 5
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Thank you for the reality check. I appreciate it:)
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