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Ok so I'm only 15/F and I want to get pregnant. I have a job and I'm pretty sure I could take care of a baby. I have all As in school and I just think pregnant bellies are so cute and baby's are too..sometimes I pretend with my sisters baby dolls but my friend Korey who I want to get pregnant by is black and I'm white and that is just not acceptable in my family... (link)
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Forgive me if I offend you but I'm going to call it like I see it.
This question seemed a bit stupid and ignorant to me. I really try to be nice to everyone on here and give people the benefit of the doubt but this question made you sound ignorant to the fact that it takes more than a job and straight A's to raise a baby. Let me tell you how my parents raised me: First of all I am blessed to have both of my parents raising me. Second, they both are adults and I was not born when they were teenagers. They both have jobs, but because they're raising me and my four other siblings we barely manage to do and get alot of things.
Now you tell me, you're 1 GIRL who wants to get pregnant by a guy who probably doesn't know you want to have his child and will probably not stick around to raise it and you think that straight A's and a job will help raise a baby? As soon as you have that baby, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR IT! You can't just hand the responsibility to someone else and you can't just stop playing with it when you get bored. A baby is A LIVING CREATURE that demands attention and love. And when you have children, you don't know what will happen. Let's say you have the baby and he or she is crawling around happily on the ground and he or she decides to push himself or herself up off the ground and as he's raising his head he hits the coffee table. Now babies heads aren't fully formed and your worried what might happen so you take him to the emergency room. Long story short your baby survives but your left with a huge hospital bill and you have no insurance to pay for it and your paycheck won't cover it. What do you do? You're still a child yourself. But because you wanted to have a baby while you're still a child, you are now forced to grow up.
If you can't pay that hospital bill or if they found out that your baby hit its head because you were neglectful, then they could take your baby and you would probably be sent to jail. And that's just one scenario on how this situation WON'T WORK OUT.
I know you think you got it all figured out but in all reality, you don't. If you decide to get pregnant at your age, what chance will that baby have at a good life? You will be responsible for that baby 24/7. Say goodbye to dating, prom, graduating high school, going to college, having a great career, etc. As soon as you have a child, all your hopes and dreams automatically go on hold. All your time would have to be dedicated to your child's hopes and dreams. It's possible that you would have to drop out of high school and get another job. I know this is not what you want to hear but it is the TRUTH.
I speak for all teenagers when I say, WE ARE NOT MENTALLY READY TO HAVE KIDS. And when teenage girls do get pregnant, THEY WEREN'T TRYING TO ON PURPOSE.
What I'm trying to get through your head is that...
YOU CAN NOT HAVE A BABY AT YOUR AGE AND EXPECT TO GIVE IT A GOOD LIFE!
If you were to have a baby, it would be the worst thing to happen to both of you because your life would be over and his/hers wouldn't even have a chance.
That's all I have to say. Again I'm sorry if I sounded rude but I get very angry when I see questions like this. It is upsetting to me for somebody to consider taking on motherhood, the biggest responsibility of them all, because they think a pregnant belly is cute. There are single women out there raising kids all by themselves and are breaking themselves to make sure that baby gets everything it needs, wants, and then some. Most mothers take their motherly duties seriously and would do anything for their children including laying down their own lives for their children if it came to it. A real mother protects her baby AT ALL COSTS! And seeing you say that you want to have a baby at 15 because you like pregnant bellies is like you saying you can do anything that these real women can do. That is a slap in the face to a REAL MOTHER.
YOU'RE NOT READY. You have all the time in the world to decide if you want kids.
I hope I was able to get through to you.
~Andrew~
P.S: I just want to say if I made you feel like crap or if I hurt your feelings, that was not the intent of me writing this. I just wanted you to realize how real the situation is. I wanted you to take the blind fold off and look at the path you were about to travel on. I'm not trying to hurt you in any way. I just want you to wake up and pay attention to your life. Be smart and BE BLESSED.
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Thank you for making sense when I was being REALLY stupid. I see the things you said are true and wanted to come back here and thank you for saving me from a HUGE mistake! THANK YOU!
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