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I want to get pregnant... I just think pregnant bellies are so cute
Ok so I'm only 15/F and I want to get pregnant. I have a job and I'm pretty sure I could take care of a baby. I have all As in school and I just think pregnant bellies are so cute and baby's are too..sometimes I pretend with my sisters baby dolls but my friend Korey who I want to get pregnant by is black and I'm white and that is just not acceptable in my family...
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The job you have is most likely a minimum wage Job and it won't pay for doctor visits hospital bills drapers baby clothes formula and and many other things . Do you think that you can raise a baby by yourself because since you said that your parents wouldn't like if the father of the baby is black which is the least of my worries they probably won't help you raise the baby they might even throw you out do you know how many parents have kicked their kids out of the how when they came home and told them that they were pregnant and some parents don't care if your only 15 they will still throw you out of the house . Babies tend to cry all night do you think you could go to school and do homework on 2 to 3 hours of sleep. what about STD's did you even think about that because when you have a baby you have to have sex and when you have sex you can get an STd if your not careful and condom's dosn't keep you from getting an STD. not to mention the the big belly will go away and then your stuck with a child to raise and no pregnant belly a baby is not a toy you can't just stuff taking care of the baby when you want to . I hope that I have helped you make the right decision and you will think twice before making the hugest mistake of your life . sorry if I hurt your feelings i am just trying to get through to you .
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Getting pregnant at 15 is a heck of away to ruin your life and not a great start in life for your baby. You have a job making what a dollar or so over minimum wage.
That will barely keep the baby in diapers and baby food. The baby can't live on breast milk alone for to long. Eventually the baby needs real food, clothes and a great deal of other things including medical and dental care. Something your minimum wage job probably doesn't supply.
Where do you intend to live? Who is going to care for the baby while you're in school or at work? You cannot drop out of school just because you had a baby.
Sure pregnant bellies are cute; they also need proper medical care to have a healthy baby. Who is going to pay for that care? Who is going to pay for the hospital & doctors bill when you are ready to have the baby? Then who is going to pay for all those things your parents have given you as you have needed or wanted as you have grown up?
Sure big pregnant bellies are cute. After the big belly is gone there is a real live person to care for. Something you have not given the proper thought too. Something you are not mature enough to do if you are only thinking about what it would be like to be pregnant.
Just in case you're thinking, well I'll get pregnant, have the baby and the big belly and then give the baby up for adoption. Think again. You have 9 months in which you will become very attached to that baby. Even if you do give it up for adoption it will hurt immensely. You will always wonder about your first born and if it is okay. If the adoptive parents were good to him or her. You will never stop worrying about that child.
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Forgive me if I offend you but I'm going to call it like I see it.
This question seemed a bit stupid and ignorant to me. I really try to be nice to everyone on here and give people the benefit of the doubt but this question made you sound ignorant to the fact that it takes more than a job and straight A's to raise a baby. Let me tell you how my parents raised me: First of all I am blessed to have both of my parents raising me. Second, they both are adults and I was not born when they were teenagers. They both have jobs, but because they're raising me and my four other siblings we barely manage to do and get alot of things.
Now you tell me, you're 1 GIRL who wants to get pregnant by a guy who probably doesn't know you want to have his child and will probably not stick around to raise it and you think that straight A's and a job will help raise a baby? As soon as you have that baby, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR IT! You can't just hand the responsibility to someone else and you can't just stop playing with it when you get bored. A baby is A LIVING CREATURE that demands attention and love. And when you have children, you don't know what will happen. Let's say you have the baby and he or she is crawling around happily on the ground and he or she decides to push himself or herself up off the ground and as he's raising his head he hits the coffee table. Now babies heads aren't fully formed and your worried what might happen so you take him to the emergency room. Long story short your baby survives but your left with a huge hospital bill and you have no insurance to pay for it and your paycheck won't cover it. What do you do? You're still a child yourself. But because you wanted to have a baby while you're still a child, you are now forced to grow up.
If you can't pay that hospital bill or if they found out that your baby hit its head because you were neglectful, then they could take your baby and you would probably be sent to jail. And that's just one scenario on how this situation WON'T WORK OUT.
I know you think you got it all figured out but in all reality, you don't. If you decide to get pregnant at your age, what chance will that baby have at a good life? You will be responsible for that baby 24/7. Say goodbye to dating, prom, graduating high school, going to college, having a great career, etc. As soon as you have a child, all your hopes and dreams automatically go on hold. All your time would have to be dedicated to your child's hopes and dreams. It's possible that you would have to drop out of high school and get another job. I know this is not what you want to hear but it is the TRUTH.
I speak for all teenagers when I say, WE ARE NOT MENTALLY READY TO HAVE KIDS. And when teenage girls do get pregnant, THEY WEREN'T TRYING TO ON PURPOSE.
What I'm trying to get through your head is that...
YOU CAN NOT HAVE A BABY AT YOUR AGE AND EXPECT TO GIVE IT A GOOD LIFE!
If you were to have a baby, it would be the worst thing to happen to both of you because your life would be over and his/hers wouldn't even have a chance.
That's all I have to say. Again I'm sorry if I sounded rude but I get very angry when I see questions like this. It is upsetting to me for somebody to consider taking on motherhood, the biggest responsibility of them all, because they think a pregnant belly is cute. There are single women out there raising kids all by themselves and are breaking themselves to make sure that baby gets everything it needs, wants, and then some. Most mothers take their motherly duties seriously and would do anything for their children including laying down their own lives for their children if it came to it. A real mother protects her baby AT ALL COSTS! And seeing you say that you want to have a baby at 15 because you like pregnant bellies is like you saying you can do anything that these real women can do. That is a slap in the face to a REAL MOTHER.
YOU'RE NOT READY. You have all the time in the world to decide if you want kids.
I hope I was able to get through to you.
~Andrew~
P.S: I just want to say if I made you feel like crap or if I hurt your feelings, that was not the intent of me writing this. I just wanted you to realize how real the situation is. I wanted you to take the blind fold off and look at the path you were about to travel on. I'm not trying to hurt you in any way. I just want you to wake up and pay attention to your life. Be smart and BE BLESSED.
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Yes, babies are cute. But you are really young and will be making a mistake.
First of all, you should be older and in love when you decide to get pregnant. Your child would deserve to have loving parents who love each other. You will be in pain from pregnancy, you will be throwing up, you will be up all night.
How much do you make from your job? I'm almost positive it won't be enough for a child. A lot of adults have to put money aside to have a baby even when they have a good job. You know 500 diapers will only cover the first month of the child. I mean only 90 diapers will probably only cover 9 days. Good luck with that..
You are still in school, are you planning on going to college? This will effect your finances and you can't expect your parents to help raise and take care of your child.
Either way, you will not be having a baby for the right reasons. A right reason to have a child is not because you think they are cute.
Just wait until you are older and you're married.
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There is no reason for you to get pregnant at 15, you have your whole life ahead of you to get pregnant. Having a baby will prevent you from doing so many fun things, especially with your friends. If your friends want to go out to a party or something you won't be able to go out with them because you will have a baby. They are a huge responsibility and you are still a child, which means that you are not ready to take care of a child yourself.
I agree babies are so cute, but they will keep you up all night and you have to be with them constantly and they also cost a lot of money, probably more money than you are making at your job. Also getting pregnant by your friend and not someone that you are married to and in love with is not a good idea either because they may say that they will be there for you, but who knows if they really will be once the baby is born, they will want to have their own life and not have to worry about a baby, especially with someone who they are not in love with.
I do not know if you will listen to me or not, but I am just letting you know that this is not a good idea. You can't say you weren't warned. Just one more thing, why should you have to grow up so fast, enjoy being a teenager and have fun because once you have that baby that won't be an option anymore. Once you have a baby you cannot be selfish for the rest of your life because you have to take care of another human being. Don't waste your youth and just have fun with your friends, while you still can.
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Believe me the black-white thing is the least of your worries. I dont mean to be condescending, but when a question like this comes along I think first and foremost about the future child rather than the person asking. Thing is, if someone is contemplating getting pregnant on the basis that "pregnant bellies are so cute and babies* are too" massive warning bells go off.
Not to mention that you are 15 and in school. Do you have any idea how much time and money is needed to raise a child? Girls a lot older than you have had their whole lives turned upside down because they underestimated what it takes.
This is a horribly bad idea. Do not do it.
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