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I have hit rock bottom, I hate myself to the point where sometmes I just look in the mirror and cry, I can't figure out why my boyfriend loves me and I dont even love myself, I'm 5'6 , 110lbs and skinny..its hard being a tall skinny teen girl.. especialy when a "real" woman has curves..how to I learn to love myself?

A real woman is a woman with confidence whether you're short of tall, skinny or curvy. All you need is confidence.

I have to tell you, I know exactly how you feel. From early childhood to about four years ago I thought I was ugly and didn't think I was that great. I was always told about features that were odd about me even when they weren't. And if you hear it enough you start to believe it. I would cry almost every night. It wasn't until I met this guy that I started to think I was actually pretty. It took me a long time, but eventually with the help of my boyfriend I started to realize I wasn't ugly at all. And I started to be more confident.

You know why your boyfriend loves you? Because he sees the real you. You are an attractive wonderful person and he can see that. You have to try to see it too. Ask him what he loves the most about you and know that he wouldn't lie to you about it. Understand that what he's saying is right.

I'm not going to lie, it's hard and it is going to take time. It took me a long time to believe the things my bf would say about me. He was always telling me I was beautiful. I guess he said it so much that I started to believe it. Of course I also made changes to make myself feel better as well. Like I started working out because it made me feel more healthy which made me feel good about myself. I found clothes that really suited my figure which let me feel good in what I wore. I started taking better care of my hair because if my hair looked nice, I felt better. I don't really wear make up and I don't plan on it, but if putting a little up of lipstick will help you then go for it. I'm not saying you have to do what I did. But for me, those small changes helped me realize that I really was beautiful. They helped me see that I was wrong about my self image. I wasn't changing anything about me, but I was taking actions that helped me SEE what was right in front of me.

Basically, what I'm saying is, think about what you don't like about yourself and what you can do to accept it and love it. You are a great height and believe me there are so many girls that would do anything to have your frame. Teenage years are always awkward for everyone. Trust me when I say that you'll realize that you are beautiful and there is nothing wrong with what you look like or who you are.

It will take time, but you have to want it. And when you get to the end of your journey, you will feel so amazing. It's really worth it.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you much, that is honestly the best advice I have ever recieved in my life :)

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