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*happy
*employed
*married
*large extended family
*bisexual
*advanced college degree
*no kids (yet)

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So I met this guy a year ago and we dated for 2 months and then one day he randomly stopped talking to me. I was so infaturated with him so I was completely heartbroken. As pathetic as it sounds it took me 11 months and I'm still not completely over him. He was never a sexual person when we dated and so when he texted me on his birthday asking for sex I freaked out on him and told him off. We hadn't talked for 5 months exactly and he texted me yesterday and apologized for the way things went last time and we had a good conversation thennnnn he turned it sexual again, I've missed him so much that I jumped at the opportunity to get with him. I don't doubt he won't talk to me again and he knows i'm not usually easy but I just feel so disappointed in myself. How could I be with someone who didn't even remember anything about me or likes me when I'm in love with him. What should I do from here? SHoud I text him? By the way we are both 20 years old!

Thanks so much in advanced for any help!

Lose his number, seriously. You mean nothing to him - you're just a booty call. What he is doing to you is completely disrespectful. Have some respect for yourself. He doesn't view your past relationship the way that you view it. You may have liked him before, but he is not the person he was before, or at least, he's not hiding his true self anymore. He's treating you like trash and you can't stand for that. What you should do is tell him never to contact you again. Tell him how disappointed you are in his behavior and it may even help to let him know how much you still care about the person that you once knew. You need to be the one to end it for good because he's just going to keep trying to get sex from you with the intent of disrespecting both your body and your soul. You have to remember that you're in love with a memory of him, not him himself. You mind is holding onto something that you remember. A thought that you created about him and something that he actually is not. All that we know is created inside of our own heads. You have to realize this in order to let him go. He isn't all that you know him to be because all that you know him to be was created by your emotions and your interpretations of his actions long ago. You can't let him continue to treat you like this because of a false memory. You created this dream guy so only you can destroy him. He never has and never will live up to what you believe him to be. You're holding onto a perception, not a reality. What he is doing is horribly wrong and he knows it. Don't give him a pass because he doesn't deserve it. You have to demand much more of yourself. Good luck.

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(Rating: 5) This was extremely helpful! Thank you so much! (:
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