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Hey everyone!

So I'm talking to this guy I met through an app called kik messenger. I'm really starting to like him, and he likes me ever since he met me, says he. We were talking about what we would do when we meet, and I told him Id like to cuddle with him on the couch while we watch a Kevin Hart movie or one of his stand-ups (really anything that involves Kevin Hart lol) and he said "yeah I'd love to do that!" and I said "really?" and he said "I love you..." then 2 seconds later, before I could even respond, he said "OH MY GOD IM SO SORRY THAT SLIPPED OUT! OH MY GOD!" and I wasn't sure how to respond. Then 2 days ago he said it again when I told him I could video chat with him. This time I said "?" after he said "I love you" and he said, more calmly this time, "oh I'm sorry I didn't mean to say that..." or something of that nature and again I had no idea how to respond.

I'm afraid that when we actually get to talk on oovoo that he'll say it again, and I really don't want to have an awkward silence. Does anyone know what I can say to him that won't make him uncomfortable? If you do that would be amazing.

Thanks to everyone in advance!

Tell him he's moving way too fast for you.

You should feel uncomfortable if someone you've never really met in person is confessing their love for you. That's not normal. Honestly, I'd have my guard up if I were you. It's likely he's either A) a weirdo or B) does this to every girl. Despite how well you might think you know this character, love has a whole lot to do with pheromones and all that good stuff that only comes into place when in person. He's neglecting that.

And on that note, do yourself a favor and avoid cuddling on a couch or doing anything in private the first time you meet him. The first few meetings you have with a stranger from the internet should be in a neutral, public space.

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(Rating: 5) Ok thanks and lol I forgot to add that I said that to see what he would say. I know very well not to trust him right away. When we meet, I'll tell him to meet me at some kind of a place where there's a LOT of people. From then on, I'll see if he tries to get me away from the crowd. I'll figure a way to get away from him then lol and thank you very much for the answer

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