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Long story short, I have this uncle who has done everybody in his life wrong big time at one time or another, but I'm here because he did something to me eight years ago that hurt more than he knows. It devastated me and was the most unfair thing that's ever happened to me. I've never told him how terrible it made me feel, but now I'm having new problems in my life now because of it and the anger's coming back. I think I might tell him how I feel soon just so I can get my feelings out. The thing is, he thinks everything's fine between us and he's probably forgotten all about it. I don't want to damage our relationship, but I also don't want to have all of these feelings bottled up inside of me for the rest of my life. What should I do? (link)
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Is it something you can foresee getting over? Since it still bothers you this much, I would guess it isn't. In that case, I would tell him.
But I wouldn't come at him in an accusative manner. I wouldn't say, "You did this... It's because of you..." I would just put out how these things made you feel. "It made me feel... I feel that..." It may seem less hostile that way, it might make it easier for him to hear, and it might be easier to understand.
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Rating: 5
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Thanks, I think that's the perfect way to handle things.
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