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Okay well first off, we aren't dating yet. We dated for a while and broke up. We worked out our differences and are almost 100% sure we are getting back together, just not yet because we wanna be friends for a little while. But we still kiss. We both have never done more than that. He wants to have sex but I don't feel like I am ready for that because of a few reasons. First off we are both 15, I am almost 16. Second, I don't want to risk getting pregnant, I have my whole life left to live! Third, we aren't dating yet, I don't want to have sex with someone unless I love them and they feel the same. I REALLY like him but idk if I love him yet. I feel like sometimes I do but I am 15 I don't know what love feels like. I feel like if I did end up having a kid, I would be able to take care of it but I don't want one now. Most of my and his friends have had sex and he feels like we are both missing out on it. But anyways my question is, what should I do? I don't think I am ready and I told him that but I feel bad because he really wants to. But that's also my choice to make, not his. Help!
Let me tell you this, you are very smart to realize all those consequences of having sex. At fifteen, you are not ready. DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM! You don't want to risk getting pregnant at such a young age, and the minute you open your legs, you need to be prepared for every possibility. Getting pregnant is a real possibility.
Remember that sex is never the answer. Sex is the question and yes is the answer. Your answer is no, and he should respect that. Wait until you are older and the right guy comes along, and you'll be so happy and proud of yourself that you waited. Having sex at fifteen is always something you regret later on in life.
I know that in today's world it's hard to resist, but remember that being a virgin shows that you're the one in control. That's something to be immensely proud of!
Just as a side note, the fact that he wants sex before you two are even back together shows that something is wrong with him. I wouldn't date such a guy. Where's his dignity?
Good luck :)
(Rating: 4) Thanks (: I am proud that I haven't had sex and that I am still a virgin. Expescically now a day that's hard to find in teens