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Last night I had a terrible argument with my boyfriend,I insulted him, I treated him really bad and practically sent him to hell.The thing is that I'm sure that he's cheating on me.He told me he was in bed but I could hear the sound of a car passing by,so I immediately figured he was actually in his car pretending to be in his room,why does he do that to me?We made a promise some time ago and he just can't keep his f&$&& word!I'm so mad but at the same time I'm missing him a lot,it's driving me mad,even though I know I should dump him and try to forget all about him I just can't,and I'm eager to receive his call cause I cannot stand being alone without knowing anything about him.What can I do?Shall I call him,text him?or shall I try to think about nothing but me from now on and what to do tomorrow all by myself now?Thanks,I'm so sad...

Hey there,
You may not like this at all but anyway..
Okay how do you know he was cheating on you? Do you have any actual proof? Did it occur to you that he may have actually been in bed?and that car you heard was just one passing outside?There are loads of possibilities and explanations to this.
I think you may have over reacted just a little bit.
Did you give him a chance to explain?
I understand you may be feeling insecure and are afraid of getting hurt and this leads you to act a little paranoid and accusative. But this will only drive him further away.
You said it yourself you are not sure he is actually cheating on you?
It seems like you have some genuine trust issues. And if that's the case perhaps you should take a break from him and work on that yourself.
Has he ever showed signs before that he may be cheating? has he a history of it?
The fact is you can't assume these things unless he has been acting genuinely suspicious.
Example lying to you all the time sneaking behind your back not coming home etc.
I think you need to sit down with him and explain your fears and worries. Maybe you just need reassurance.
Otherwise you are going to drive yourself absolutely crazy. You don't want to become the jealous paranoid type trust me.
I really think you are jumping to conclusions. Just talk to him okay?
try not to worry.
Good luck and much

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