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What do you do when you're completely, utterly, blindingly, confusingly, mesmerizingly, and inexcusably in love with a man? Do you tell him? Is it a bad idea? What if it's the only person you have ever even had the smallest crush on? How would you get over it if they rudely rejected you? What about if they unexpectedly have admired you from afar forever and you never noticed because you were too busy thinking about when the perfect moment would be? How do you manage something like this? Someone please help, my heart hurts. He's too perfect for me. I want him to know but at the same time I can't get over it! This has been going on for the past 5 months. Please help my heart aches
Everyone is different - you get some people who aren't afraid to speak of their feelings and you get others who shy away.
Personally, I've learnt I prefer to tell people how I feel, I do think "what if I get rejected" but it's a part of life we will all face at some point and it will be a big learning step.
I'll give you an example. About 2 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up after almost 4 years and in that time, I realised I was beginning to develop feelings for a friend who I'd known since I was a young teen. Knowing I could either tell him with the possibility of him feeling the same outweighed the possibility of being rejected and making a good friendship awkward. and I'm glad I did because he's now my boyfriend.
If the man you have these feelings for is available and not in a relationship, I say go for it - the worst that could happen is he will say he doesn't feel the same. It sounds bad and it will hurt you knowing you can't have someone you're in love with but you can go away knowing that you tried and you don't have to think all the annoying "what if" questions. You can just get over it and move on to someone more suited to you.
I'm really interested to know whether you decide to tell him and what happens - let me know in feedback. Best of luck.
(Rating: 5) I will tell you as soon as possible. I'll work up the nerve and talk to him. He's easy to talk to. I mean I should know, I have known him since I was just a foot tall. I just don't want to ruin things. I tend to ruin everything (unintentionally, of course) so Im also afraid that that will happen this time. He might say "I see you as a little sister" so I'm afraid.
Please, since you want to know, check your feedback every few months because I have a feeling this will take a while. He's just too flawless.
Thank you for your answer! I really appreciate your answer. You gave me the little push I needed.
Can I have your email? Instead of making you check your feedback I'd rather email you. Mine is: melanielovesdylanobrien&gmail.com