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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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Okay, so. I have always had paranoia and hypochondria. But recently, every time I get so excited for something, my mind wanders and I start to think something negative will happen. I'm going to miss life if this doesn't stop, so how can I make this stop?
Hey there,
I went through a phase of this a few months ago when I had a lot going on in life. I just couldn't allow myself to become excited or motivated about anything.
I Would come up with the most irrational possibilities to arise in a situation.
You need to just take a deep breath calm down and think for a second. Be realistic. Every time you have a negative thought counter act it with a positive one. I developed a technique where I literally talked myself out of it. I would get anxious and paranoid over the most smallest of tasks. Like seeing my friends for example became a struggle because I developed this fear that we would have nothing to talk about and it would be awkward. So I just had to keep reminding myself and reassuring myself that things would be Okay. That we had plenty to talk about and we would have a great time.
If you're beginning to psych yourself out too much it really helps to talk to someone about your fears and negative thoughts. My mum was the person I confided in and she really helped me see things in a positive and clear light. She calmed me down lots and reassured me.
Another example would be back in October my sister who lived in England at the time invited me and my boyfriend over to stay for two weeks. At first I was so excited but then all the negativity crept into my mind. First it was what if the plane crashes..Next it was what if they loose my luggage? Then it was what If we miss our stop on the bus?Or get on the wrong tube? Any time I had one of those thoughts that I couldn't counter act I would talk to someone.
If you keep it bottled up it's just going to eat away at you to the point where you can't enjoy life. I am also a hypochondriac. If I learn someone is ill I automatically worry I might get it too.
But I have learned to think differently. If you worry about that kind of stuff then you are never really going to live or experience life.
There are SOO many bad things that can happen to us of course but there are also SOO many good things.
Sometimes it doesn't always seem that way but good is always around the corner. I firmly believe that after having an ordeal of a year things have finally started to look up.
Definitely confide in someone. Reassurance can really help! Why not think about counselling either? A good counseller can really change your outlook on life. They can help you combat your feelings of paranoia hypochondria and negativity.
Its just about being brave and facing your fears and life head on.
The only way to do it is to get through it head on.
Whenever you have a negative thought think of a positive straight away and remind yourself of that. Reiterate it again and again until it sticks. Think what's the worst that can happen?What is the probability of such a thing actually happening? I am probably ten times more likely to really enjoy myself.
:) Best of luck and I hope I helped.
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