Erinn_the_bamf's advice column

Hello, so about a year ago on my 19 birthday my sister took me out to eat at a restaurant that her boyfriend works at. so i notice theres a guy that works there that kept looking at me and smiled at me everytime he passed by my table and he would look at me from far away. later on i learned that the guy is the manager of the restuarant and he was asking about me and my sisters boyfriend told me that he looked excited. then months later i go back to that restuarant with my sister and her boyfriend introduces me to all his coworkers except for that one guy. oh yeah this guy is like 28 years old. he is HOT. but yeah he made it obvious that he wanted to be introduced to me but my sisters boyfriend didn't on purpose. so i add him on facebook and he mentions it to my sisters boyfriend and he told me that the guy didn't looked freaked out but kinda happy about it. so now im wondering if i should start a conversation with him, he has commented on my facebook statuses. one said "you know you want to" and he comments "i really do". what should i do? i plan on going back to the restaurant again soon. should i send him a message or talk to him in person first?

I'd talk to him in person first. I also find it really weird when people Facebook message me if I don't really know him. He seems interested, but just play it say by speaking to him face to face first.

Of course, be cautious about his age and experience. It will be easy for a 28 year old man to take advantage of a 19 year old girl. I mean this both sexually and emotionally. Even if you are sexually experienced, your emotions can get tied up in a new way you might not be ready for.

That being said, you're young. Make mistakes before you're paying a mortgage.

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(Rating: 4) Thank you for the insight! :)

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