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Recently i just got a canker sore, i have had it for a day or two or something close to that time frame.
I have a girlfriend and we have kissed everyday even the days i have had it because i would forget about it but now since it hurts a little more i keep thinking i gave her it.. I believe it is a Canker sore not a Cold sore.
Anyways did i give her it? Will she get it soon? Also we perform oral sex.. we were going to this weekend.. should we wait or is it safe to do that? Also should we not kiss ?
I need advice ASAP since it is tuesday and i'm not sure how i tell her this.. (link)
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May I suggest something?
If you aren't 100% certain, and I mean 100% as in have been tested before, and proven it... that this is not a cold sore, then you should get tested.
Cold sores are caused by a form of the herpes virus. Here is the important part: THEY ARE CONTAGIOUS.
While "oral" herpes and genital herpes are different strains, you CAN get oral herpes on your genitals, just like you can get genital herpes on your face.
Imagine having a herpes outbreak on your penis, or penis area? If she has the virus for coldsores, she can give it to you, just as you can give it to her.
More bad news: Condoms do NOT keep herpes from spreading. :-(
So, it may be a canker sore, and that is all well and fine, though you should still let it heal... but if it is a cold sore / fever blister, you don't want to put that anywhere on her, right?
Get tested.
Might as well get tested for everything while you are there. Even if she is your first, it doesn't hurt to have that clean test in your hand for the future. An example of what I mean:
There was a young man on here who wondered how to handle his situation, which would have been greatly helped if he had been tested before he had sex... even though he was a virgin before the girl he gave his virginity to.
You see, he ended up with genital herpes. He knew he was a virgin... but she told her family, and his that SHE was the only virgin in that situation, and that the boy had given this to her.
Over a year later, the truth came out. She had been with dozens of guys before him, but still called herself a virgin because she had done everything, and I mean everything, except lose her hymen.
So, his life was effectively ruined because he believed her and had no way to back up his side of things.
Not saying, in any way, that your girl is like that one... just pointing out that there is NO downside to being tested for everything. It never hurts. Heck, some people have genital herpes just from being born to their mothers who were infected. They never know until it is too late for their loved one. :-(
Anyway, I hope you do the smart thing for her sake as your own.
P.S. Just in case you are tempted to wait until the sore goes away and then go at it... you can transfer herpes even when there is no active outbreak... so be sure, be safe and I hope the best for you both.
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