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I'm 16/f and in year 12 at college.

Theres this girl in my business class...
The thing is she bitches about me and my friends alot in buisness.

At first it was my friend, so what I did was I wrote down all of what she said behind her back and typed it up-I have evidence.

I'm quiet in class, and today she was having a right bitchy session about me with her friend. Bassically, bringing me down to the size of a pea.

I don't give a damn about what she thinks about me, but It's improtant for me to stand up for myself.

Tommorrow I have got a meeting with my personal tutor. Should I tell him about this? Is it just bitchyness not bullying and is it my fault for overhearing? Also I don't know if I should show him the other evidence I have. Help please :)

Hey there,
Okay your definitely right to stand up for yourself. What this girl is doing is petty.
However the problem I see with going to your personal tutor is it really comes down to her word against yours. I know you have evidence as you say but who's to say you didn't make it up?That's what she will more than likely claim.
I think you should definitely tell him you over heard her so maybe he can keep an eye out for it himself.
But perhaps leave the evidence side out of it as it might bring on more trouble than it's worth.
Have you considered confronting the girl herself?
Letting her know you know what she has been saying about you and your friends and you're not going to tolerate it.
I mean what reasons does she have to talk you down like that? It can be viewed as a type of verbal bullying yes. It's definitely not your fault for overhearing its not like you set out to hear those nasty things being said about you. If's she is truly that conniving she probably orchestrated it so that you would hear.
Is there any way you could possibly record it discretely with your phone? that's an option if your set on getting evidence. But yes definitely bring this to the attention of your tutor. In the mean time think about having words with her yourself. You never know she might back off.
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