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Ok so 13/f and my boyfriend is 14. At my school, we have 2 recesses and he usually hangs out with me at both of them. He's going to high school next year so I understand why he wants to spend so much time with me as he can but my friends dont really get along with him and I havent hung out with my friends for a long time. I asked my boyfriend if I can spend time with my friends and he said "Yea sure we can hang out with them for a recess" and I seriously banged my head against the wall. Like what do I do?

Hey there,
Okay you need to sit him down and tell that as much as you care for him you need time for yourself also.
It's not healthy to spend ALL your time with your boyfriend. You become withdrawn and isolated from your friends. It's already starting to happen as you are seeing them less.
You need to explain to him that you need "you" time especially with your friends on your own.
In the meantime explain to your friends how you're feeling so they don't think you are ditching them intentionally.
Maybe organize to see them outside school when your boyfriend isn't around?Invite them to your house or go to the mall etc.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand then you really need to rethink the relationship. You don't want someone who is going to cling to you and suffocate you. And literally cannot go anywhere without you. That's just exhausting. Does he see his own friends much? maybe suggest he does something with them.
Boyfriends and girlfriends need time apart from each other and time to themselves. It also allows time to miss one another so the next time you see each other will be extra special.
Talk to him. It's really the only way.
Good luck and I hope I helped.
Much

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(Rating: 5) Thanx, this helped a ton :)
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