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I apologize if this should be in the Virginity section but to me it doesn't fit in that.

Anyways, this weekend my girlfriend wants to have some "fun" and by this she means a hand job and then me fingering her.

I have never gone past making out with a girl, i'm nervous especially because she has done stuff before but with only one other guy, that is what she said and i believe her. But as i am a guy and have masturbated before i have noticed I can only orgasm when i'm in a certain position..

When i lay down my feet kind of go farther then shoulder length apart.. and i tense up in the legs, more of a flexing of my muscles..
When I am standing up i can only if i get more on the tips of my toes and my muscles in the legs are flexing again..

Now i am very self conscious about this and have low self esteem and stuff.. I was wondering if this is normal.. and if i should tell her that is how i am or what i can do to be more "normal" I have seen porn and those guys just seem to be flat footed and stuff and just shoot it like nothing. I feel very embarrassed for even asking this, what do i do?

I told her it is my first time with this she said it is okay and that i probably would be good but wouldn't give me a reason why she just said that i would be and that she is fine with it.

So any help is appreciated and please reply before this weekend, if it is after i will still look and think about it!

Thank you guys

Hey there,
Okay let me start by saying you are normal. Everyone is different and everyone has a certain way of masturbating. Something that feels good only for them. What works for you might not work for others. That's just the way it is.
I'm a girl and like you when I masturbate I can only do it a certain way. I too tense my leg muscles. I have done some research and quite a lot of people do that too.
Don't compare yourself to the guys in porn. All that is glamorized to make sex LOOK better. It's not how it really is trust me. You need to just relax and trust your girlfriend. Of course she is going to be understanding and that this is your first time with all this stuff. Just relax and clear your head. If you get all stressed and have a million things running around in your head then it's not going to be good anyway. Communication Is key. Tell her what works for you. And likewise she can guide you. It's all about exploring and experimenting until you get it right. It took my boyfriend and I a while to get to know each others bodies.
Good luck and I hope this helps :)
Much

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