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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media
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Problem:
-bullied through elementary and hit highschool more guys joined in, name called , took it to the streets and played niki-niki-nine-door , egged and paintballed my house, tried to run me over , through food at me outside school
-got raped and assaulted different times
-no councelling ever
-gotten more negative toward everything
-im emotionally torn apart
-friends all left me
-everyone bullied me lives around me the rape area is around me everything thats negative is surrounding me and I just cant forget it..
-im getting nightmares almost everynight, stress , anxiety , and emotionally break down almost every day
should I move away? should I get councelling?
any thoughts?

btw im 19

Hey there :)
wow you have certainly been through a lot. :(
Life throws us some horrible blows. Sometimes all at once and it can feel like everything is weighing us down and its just one thing after another. But leaving town won't solve these problems or fix your negative attitude. It's only going to go with you. Think about it.
You have been bottling up many emotions and you need someone to talk to,to let it all out to move on.
My inbox is always open if you ever need anyone to off load on. I would definitely recommend counselling. It would help alot or even talk to a family member. Your mom dad? I find my mom is always the best person to talk about how I'm feeling.
You need support in your life. What your going through at the moment you can't deal with on your own.
You have already made a great step by sharing with us all here..and seeking advice and help. Go that bit further and reach out for real.
don't be afraid to ask for help for someone to listen..its the least you deserve.
Start living and experiencing don't let cruel pathetic bullies get you down and keep you down. Experience the good in life. Focus on the positives even when it feels like there is nothing..find the smallest little thing.
Re discover your passions and interests get out there and make friends. REAL friends ones who care understand you and won't turn their back on you. There are people like that out there. Remember not everyone is bad and not everyone will hurt you.
Little by little and you will get there. Have faith in yourself. Put the past behind and look to the future. I know it's hard just to forget everything but in time it gets easier to accept it and move on. to deal with your problems and not let them haunt you for the rest of your life. If you let all this stuff weigh you down things will never get better trust me.
Think about talking to someone please :) It can't hurt any more than what you have gone through already can it?
Feel free to inbox me any time
I wish you all the best
Much

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much , yeah I know I might just go through councelling thank you though :) I will consider it with your inbox if you want.Thank you so much , im here for you too
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