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If I have sex before marriage, even if it's with the man I love and no I will marry and spend the rest of my life with.. where would that leave me with god?
Hell?
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A sin is a sin.
All sin is equal in the eyes of God.
As humans with minds of our own, we do sin every day.
Sometimes people forget that. It's true though. If you go out and murder someone it is no greater a sin than if you stole a candy bar from your mother's purse. A sin is still a sin.
Thankfully, God gave us freewill. He gave us the ability to choose. He gave us minds that can think great thoughts and ideas. He knows sometimes we don't make the best of decisions. So, He sent us His word in the Bible.
If you pray and sincerely want forgiveness from God then you can be forgiven. Jesus died for our sins so that none of us have to go to Hell because we made a few wrong choices in life. If you sincerely are sorry, and you sincerely want to be forgiven, then you still have a chance to make it into Heaven.
Sex outside of marriage just isn't right. It goes against our societal rules set in place. It goes away Biblical scripture about fornication. Love doesn't necessarily equal marriage.
So, yes, sins will send you straight to Hell...but only if you don't want to be forgiven for them. If you pray for forgiveness and then keep doing the sin then it's pretty good odds that your prayers are not sincere.
God loves us. He doesn't want us to go to Hell. He does want us to be loyal though so that we can go to His kingdom when we pass from this Earthly world. He is forgiving though so that we always do have a chance to redeem ourselves in His eyes.
Think of it this way:
You have a wonderful house. It's the best house anyone has ever created. It's nice and spacious and you even have a world's supply of food on one floor of it. You play great music all day. Everyone who ever steps in the door is automatically joyed. Everything you would ever need to feel fulfilled is right there. Would you let your neighbor in after he murdered a child in a fit of rage? Probably not! What if he dropped to his knees in front of you and promised he'd never do that sort of thing again? You still probably wouldn't let him in.
God knows when we're being honest though. He'd let the guy into Heaven if he was truly sorry for what he had done. God knows we're just human. We're not Godly. We're not supernatural. We don't have special powers or abilities. He knows that. He also knows that we have minds about us that allow us to make emotional decisions--do we REALLY feel sorry or are we just saying it, right?
So, you can, most definitely, ask for forgiveness and change your ways. If you want to continue having sexual relations with the guy then you have a talk with him about getting married and hold off on the sex until the wedding date. Honestly, you don't have to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars to get married. Not at all. And you can always have your "dream wedding" a few years later when you DO have the money for that. In that way, you've avoided that sort of sin. Of course, at some point it would be wise to pray to God, explain you thought processes at the time, ask for forgiveness, and be truly sorry for those mistakes.
We sin every day. We do lots of things that go against God. We tell those little white lies. We take those candy bars from Mom's purse. We think about having sex with celebrities and have other, various impure thoughts. We're human though. God knows that. He gives us the opportunity to make a decision whether or not we want to ask Him for forgiveness. He lets us make that decision. It's up to us. If we don't want His forgiveness then we can choose that path.
Sin sends us to Hell. Yes. There is time to pray though. You can pray in your last hours and ask for forgiveness and God will still listen to those prayers. We have every opportunity to say, "I am sorry!" It's up to us to decide when--or if--we want to do that.
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