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I was with this guy for almost three months. Things seemed to be going perfectly as far as I knew. There are a few years between us, but we established from the start that that didn't bother either of us. We'd already said 'I love you's but I hadn't force him into it, by any means. Every time he wanted me to come over, I did. (He worked a lot and I wanted to make sure he still had guy time without me, so we saw each other like, an afternoon during the week, and I came over late on Friday and spent the night and left in the afternoon on Saturday. )

We never argued or fought. His friends all like me and think I'm good for him as far as I know because I calm him down. His friends girlfriends all like me, too. (He likes to rant. Haha) and its as important that everyone likes me because they're always together. We aren't exactly alike, but I feel like we compliment each other. We keep each other in check.

So here's the thing: last week he asked me if I wanted to go to dinner with him, just the two of us to be special cause we're always with his friends. We made plans, but some how we both ended up kind of sick, so we just grabbed some food and went back to his apartment and watched a movie. That night went really well, and even though nothing amazing happened, he said he was really happy that I was there to kind of baby him when he was sick. On Saturday, we kind of had a general conversation about the future. We were on the same page about not like, getting engaged or anything anytime soon because we're both young and don't want and couldn't afford anything big or major anytime soon, so that was fine. That was Saturday afternoon.

On Monday he seems all freaked out about something, but tells me he'd rather talk to me about it in person, so we do on Tuesday.

On Tuesday he tells me he's really unsure about his future (he graduated from college and he's working at a dead end job applying everywhere possible for a job that is actually in his field) and doesn't know if he wants me in it or not. He said that right now he just can't seem to manage his time very well. He said that he doesnt know if we'd be compatible enough to last. (Although I'm not sure why. )

He and his friends play a lot of video games and card games (magic) and he said that even though I say I don't mind, he doesn't just want me to sit and watch and tolerate (which I don't. I told him I like it.). He also said he felt like he HAD to choose between me and his friends, (which I don't know why. I have no problems with his friends.) And that sometimes he just wants to get wasted with them, then just watch a movie or someething with me. (Which I don't mind boys nights.) He and his friends drink a lot, and although I don't see anything wrong with that, I don't drink much so I don't feel comfortable getting drunk around some of his friends that I don't know very well yet.

So what I'm asking is... do you think he'll come back? I really, really want him to and he fits in with my friends as well as I do with his, so I don't know what happened. It just doesn't make sense that on Saturday I woke up to forehead kisses and an 'I love yoooou!' And on Tuesday we broke up.

Plz help? :/

I think that he's just overwhelmed with all that's going on. Perhaps he just panicked about his life and doesn't know what to do.

I also think that he just needs time to think. Meanwhile, maybe you can let him know you're there for him.

I'm sure he'll come back if he feels comfortable again. He probably broke up with you because he thinks that way you don't have to worry about him or he doesn't want to ignore you while he's busy. Don't take it too hard and give him time. He's just stressed.

I hope that helped :)

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