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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.

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17/f

gahhhh i'm about to rip this guys head off because he's soooo confusing!!!!!!

so me and this guy had a thing for a while (a few months) while i was dating my boyfriend. ( i know i know.. that was a mistake and its wrong, dont need the lecture) and all of a sudden he stops talking to me... everytime i try to text, he wont answer. he wont pick up my calls. sometimes he even picks up and then hangs up right away. i tried inboxing him on facebook but he wont respond. i checked his wall and he's on sometimes and he talks to his friends. one time i even saw him post this on a girls wall "hey we haven't talked for a while, you should text me sometime" WTH!!! then today i just checked his page and it wont come up on search pages... meaning he deleted his facebook account. i searched his other friends and checked to see if they were still friends with him, and they aren't.

I have NO clue what's going on... its so sudden. I have a slight idea that maybe he's busy with college classes and work and family.. but why would that be an excuse as to treating me this way??

what do i do?? i still really really really REALLY like him... like i can't stop thinking about him and checking my phone to see if he responded. gahhhh he's soooo confusing!!! HELPPPP. thanks

we all hate to admit it, but he's dumped you. in a very rude way, which no "man" in college should be doing, hes being very immature. immature to the point where he deletes his facebook so you cant be in contact with him, not very manly if you ask me. it'll be hard getting over the fact that he wont talk to you anymore, i know the feeling. but, you eventually realize he wasnt worth it. there are plenty of other fish in the sea. did you think he might of dumped you because he found out that you had a thing with him while you were in a relationship with someone else? maybe he realized what you were doing was wrong, and he was adding to the problem? its not worth getting him back if he wont talk to you, or even has the courtesy to tell you its over. you'll find a real man, who will treat you right. just be patient.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much :) you've helped me realize that he really is a jerk and it wouldn't be worth it. Thanks again!

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