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So, theres this guy.. he is only in one of my classes this semester, but i've known him forever. I don't have a crush on him or anything, but hes a cool guy to just hang out with. He is the kind of person who would pick up my binder if I dropped it, make a joke to make someone smile, or help me with an assignment if I asked him. Otherwise, he is pretty quiet at school. Whenever I see him at least. I don't know what he does on the weekends, besides avoiding his parents and hanging out with his buddies.

He sits at the back of the class, and he tends to keep to himself unless he is with his few guy friends then he shows his real personality. We tend to get along well when we do talk. If anything, he would be like a fun brother to me.

Around the beggining of the year, about two months into school he decided to ask me, when I am sitting alone on the bench with no one around, if I wanted to be his escort for Grad. I said yes :) I was kind of surprised he would ask me and so early in the year, but I was thinking he would be a fun guy to go with (plus hes one of the actual nice guys). He smiled and then we talked about what color of tux he would get and what I was going to wear that would match.

Basically I am wondering if the reason he asked me is because he likes me or he asked me when we were alone for he didn't want his guy friends to know, and/or he wanted to ask me before someone else did. Or if he just asked me for some other reason.

This is now three months since then, but should I sit beside him next semester if we are in more classes together? I don't want grad to come and all of a sudden it is a little awkward. Actually, I think it should work out for we both have good personalities. How do I know if he does likes me? We are both 17.

I was thinking when it gets real close to grad I should smile and ask him 'so why did you want me to be your escort?' :) Hmm, please answer all my questions and tell me what you think about him asking me :p

Hey there
Okay I think this guy sounds awesome your very lucky to have a guy friend like that :)
and I can relate to this somewhat because my best guy friend asked me to his Debs (Prom) next august.
Its hard to read the guys mind but what you need to do is figure out his intentions and your own.
youve already said you just see him as like a brother are you 100% sure about that?
I wouldnt worry about it being awkward if you get on well itl be a blast.
you should definately sit beside him I mean why not?
hes a friend right?
you figure out how he likes you roughly by reading his body lanuage towards you doe she flirt in a subtle way? smile at you alot touch you alot?
go out of his way to talk to you?
I think the question you came up with at the end is the perfect one :) and you should definately ask him,but that comes with risks too you dont want him confessing to you he really likes you and you saying then you just wanna be friends then it would look like youve led him on so you should deal with it early on and say ok are we going as friends then (after youve come to a fairly solid estimation as to whether he likes you and your truely sure about your feelings)
because then its going to get awkward.
Its hard at times trying to figure out guys me and my bestfriend decided were just going as friends because I found out he liked me as more for a while but I didnt feel the same way.
I hope I made some sense and you understand where im coming from lol and that everything works out and you guys have a great time
much

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(Rating: 5) That is exactly what I meant, that I don't want to sound like I want him to be 'up front' with his feelings and then have things be kinda weird, but hes a nice guy and so I don't think he would take it personally or anything. Yes, you did make sense and thanks :p I think we will have fun

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