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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!advice
k so today i was with my bf and he was saying all these nice things about me.like he was like "oh you look extra beautiful today i just dont know what it is"...then after he said all those nice things he goes "but you really do need to loose some weight,im sure you like to eat alot,your like my little sister she loves food" i was like ok WTF.he know that i go for jogs almost everyday.i told him that i go for jogs everyday and hes like yeah but thats not enough,you should join a gym and eat less.i was speechless.
ok let me describe my body size to you.i have a large frame,im smaller from the top(size12) and bigger from the bottom (size 14)...im curvy.is this fat?do i need to loose weight?i was so hurt that i teared up.he kept apologising and didnt even understand what he did wrong.he said that where hes from its not a big deal to tell a girl to loose weight and that hes sorry etc etc.
i just dont know how to get over what he said.i know he sat there for 2hours trying to explain himself...i almost broke up with him because of this but he was determined to make everything ok.
do you think he thinks im fat because he said i need to loose weight?oh i dunno,how do i get over this???
I understand you are upset, thats a very harsh thing to suggest to someobody. I think that you should sit down and talk with him about it, ask him how he would feel if he were in your shoes, or if you said that to him. He needs to understand where you are coming from, and recognize the fact that he should like you for the person you are, no matter how skinny or how fat you are. Then ask him to look around, how many skeletons does he see walking around? Because you are obviously human.
Try not to let it effect you too much, sometimes people can say things without thinking, just try to talk it over with him first. :-) Good luck!!!!
(Rating: 5) thank you :) ill do my best