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I'm Jack/Jamie.

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Hey, ok well this is sort of extremley embarassing and I never thought Id find myself asking this question but here goes..
Im 16/f and I noticed with my previous boyfriend whenever he em fingered me it really hurt I thought it was just him at the time being rough so I said nothing and just pretended to enjoy it,afterwards I noticed specks of blood (by the way this was the first time id been fingered by a guy) the second time was ok but still a bit uncomfortable. Anyway me and that guy split a while back.Im now with a new guy nearly 3months in a few days. So tonight was the first night we kinda messed around and it was sore again when he fingered me and yet again the specks of blood. Now Im really freaked out because I know its me..whats wrong with me? its supposed to be enjoyable I dont want to have to pretend all the time and feel discomfort but god how awkward would it be bringing it up with him? I dont want to make him feel bad and Ive noo idea how to even say it oh like btw your sort of hurting me?
Im now so worried that when I decide I want to have sex it will really hurt..well I know it does the first time but you know after that this is really getting to me and I dont know what to do I feel so stupid for asking this question but I am worried..I want it to be fun for me to and not have to dread it the whole time..is it something that will pass and Il get used to or what?
Please someone help :(
itd be much aprciated thank you
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If it's hurting you, you should tell him. It shouldn't be embarrassing, and besides, if you're going to be intimate with someone, even with just fingering, you need to be mature and talk about it with your partner. If you can't do that, then you probably shouldn't be doing this.

--Jack
(18/m)

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(Rating: 5) thanks,I know your right and I will do it I just find it hard to talk about sometimes.

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