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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

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Okay, my boyfriend of almost 3 months, he's kind of my first kiss, but not. because I don't count my first, since it was 2 seconds with my ex, I hated it, and was pretty much forced into kissing him. The first time I kissed my boyfriend, he didn't pressure me, knew about what happened with my ex and like, it was amazing. I was about to leave his house and i asked hi what he was thinking about, he said, "you." and i said, "what about me?" and he replied with, "just you." then i said, "what do you want?" and he said, "I want to kiss you." then he lifted up my chin up and kissed me. it was always how i wanted my first kiss to be :] [technical first kiss haha] then i got up and so did he and i put my arms around his shoulders to hug him and he kissed me again, then he picked me up and kissed me in the air. hahaa, it was amazing :] but anyways so we hung out again and we cuddled on his couch and just layed around. so like he kissed me again and kept kissing me, and like, I couldnt help but smile or laugh/giggle afterwards, he just makes me so happy. so he goes, "you're so weird :]" [when i was laughing after like each kiss] hahaa and i was like, you're weird too, thats why we're compatible with eachother hahaa :] and like.. we dont liek make out with tongue, i know he wants to, but im scared. but we dont just peck either, its like kissing without tongue hahaa. if you get what i mean, and when i turn my head to stop kissing, he always kisses my sheek and forehead a gazillion times :] :] so here are my questions..

1. is it bad that I laugh and smile and giggle after we kiss..?
2. uhm, i dont know what to do about the kissing, because I'm freaked out by the tongue thing, i dont think i'll know what to do, it seems scary and what if i find it gross ? hahaa.
3. when we kiss, i know im breathing, but it feels like im not ? hahaa is that weird too ?
4. how do i know if he liked the kissing ? and how do i know he's thinking about it as much as i am ? haaaha.

okay well thats about it, oh im 16/f by the way, and hes 16/m. thanks so much in advance!!

1. Not at all.
2. That's perfectly normal. Don't do it until you're ready. And, from personal experience, it's kind of gross.
3. No. Perfectly normal.
4. How do you know he liked the kissing? He keeps doing it. If he didn't like it, he wouldn't keep doing it.

Trust me, guys analyze this stuff just as much as girls do, so he probably is thinking about it as much as you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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(Rating: 5) thank you sooooo much :] !

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