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First of all I'm really sorry for everything you have to deal with, and the fact that you've been thinking for the past 3 or so years that cutting would make it better. But I'm even more sorry about your family. What your dad said was harsh and insensitive, and just downright cruel. It seems your problem isn't even so much with yourself anymore, but rather your family.
Although this wouldn't make it ok, I'm going to give your dad the benefit of the doubt and assume he said those things simply because he's never had to deal with anything like this before and has no idea what to do or say, and that he doesn't know how his words affect you. After all, we all have a tendency to talk out of our asses & say things we really don't mean when we're stressed and confused.
Again, it doesn't make it okay, and in any case, you're totally right. Your parents handled this terribly. But then again, would anyone really know what to do? They're still your parents, and although you may not want to, maybe talking to them will help them understand better, because right now all they know is that you're cutting yourself... that doesn't make you crazy or anything, but that's definitely not the most sane thing to do. Talk to them. IF they truly love you, they'll have to try to understand, and by doing so, hopefully work with you rather than against you to help you get better.
Now, if this doesn't work out, talk to the school counselor, a doctor, SOMEBODY who can actually help you. Bottomg line, you have to talk to someone about this, and i mean REALLY talk. It may not seem like the most brilliant piece of advice, but if you don't, you'll be doing the same thing you're doing now: feeling sorry for yourself and crying yourself to sleep. No one deserves that.
As for what you can do in the meantime, to help YOURSELF, be with your friends. I know, it sounds so uselessly simple, right? Something you obviously want to do without having to be told. But that's just it. If you're feeling the way you're feeling, you're not surrounding yourself with the people who make you happiest, or cutting the people who make you feel at your worst out, which is exactly what you need to do. Many people will say that's actually the key to happiness. Again, uselessly simple, but really think about it. The feeling you get when you're with those you love the most, those laughs you want to get the most out of... that's what's going to get you through the day, and the more of that you get, the happier you'll gradually feel.
But first thing's first: Please STOP cutting. You know it isn't helping anyone, and if anything, it's only making life harder for you.
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