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So, here's the thing. I'm a lesbian- 16 years old. Me and my ex were together for 11 months and 3 weeks. We were absolutely perfect together, and completely in love. She was my first like everything, and after we broke up, we were on and off or about 6 months, but now, I've noticed how much she's changed, and I realize that's she's not my type anymore. She used to be so amazing and monogamous, now she has a new girlfriend, and she likes like 10 other people as well. THAT is NOT my type. And yeah, I still cry over it at night when I think of how great everything used to be. But that was so long ago, and there's been too drastic a change for me to want to date her anymore. So, I think i'm finally getting over her.
Now, her and her new girl have been together for almost a month. And I just met her a few days ago, and I saw her again today. I think i'm crushing. Here's the weird part: The way I met my ex was because the girlfriend I had at the time (we dated for 9 months) broke up with me FOR HER. So basically I took her from my other ex. I'm such a mess, and I feel horrible, because me and my ex are supposed to be friends, but I don't know what to do. I'm thinking about messaging her on myspace and telling her to text me or something...But it just feels so wrong.
What should i do?
- TheHopelessRomantic
Hey there,
Okay what you need to do is distance yourself from them both for a while,because the way your crushing on her current girlfriend isnt good.
its just going to make things complicated and messy,and people are going to get hurt mostly you.
you don't want to become that girl known as the girlfriend stealer,theres no harm in befriending your ex's new gf without any intention of anything more but as of now it seems like you do so its not good to get involved yet like i said distance yourself for a while.
you say your ex likes 10 other people as well and she has a gf,that shows the classic signs of a relationship breakdown, honestly how can she like that many people and have a gf?it looks to me like it won't last very long anyway if thats the case,wait a while and see if things last and if they are both serious about each other,you might just be having false feelings just wait to see if they deepen or fade away if you find them deepening and they are still togethet don't go after her,like It doesnt seem likely to last,then its safe to befriend her.
I hope I helped and made some sense!
Good luck
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(Rating: 5) Hey thank you so much for the advice. I'll be sure to remember that in the future (: You remind me of godsgift2writing haha. You both give great advice ! Thanks so much !!!