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Okay so I want some opinion's on why guy's only respect certain girls? I'm in high school, 16 years old, and it seems that many girls do have boyfriends. I don't have one. I understand it's not the end of the world..but, it's annoying. Guy's always tell me I'm very pretty (not to sound full of myself), and I'm also smart and kind to everyone. I'm shy sometimes though. Anyway, I've had guys ask me out, but the one's who do..are the one's I don't have a thing for. I'll admit..for some reason, I always go for guy's who are pretty much "players". I don't know why..I just find them cute and stuff. So, recently I liked this guy..he acts totally different around me then he does everyone else though! He acts like a nice guy around me, but then he'll go on myspace or even at school and start calling girls sexy and hit on them and stuff. Why don't I get that? I mean, I know he's had a thing for me for a while..and I kinda like him too..obviously he finds me attractive to like me, you know? Well, I asked my friends, because this happens to me a lot,..and they said he acts different and more like a gentlemen around me because he respects me? I mean, of course having respect is wonderful..but does that HAVE to mean I don't get a boyfriend because I have there respect? Ughh. But anyway, this brings me to my main question..why do guys only respect certain girls? Anyone please give me advice. Thankyou :)

I personally try to respect ALL girls, but some are just bitches, so I just ignore them, but I'm still nice to them if I have to interact with them.

Anyway, I think the fact that he isn't calling you sexy and hitting on you means that he genuinely likes you.

I have a list of 6 things guys do when they like, or, rather, 6 ways to know if a guy likes you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.


Reread number one:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.


He calls the girls on myspace "sexy" because he doesn't want to say "beautiful", because that word means more than sexy. "Sexy" is like a get-out-of-jail-free card; there's no attachment to it. So, if a guy calls you "pretty", "beautiful", or the like, he REALLY means it.

That guy probably really likes you, and you're too worried about hating being respected. Most girls would KILL to be respected by guys like you are. So, enjoy it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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