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Q: Ok well im 17 and my girlfriend was 15. She broke up with me because she's to scared to lose me. She said when were together she feels like nothing can go wrong. But we don't get to see eachother as much as we want to and she starts missing me. She thinks alot and it always ends up ending what we have (its happened before). I love her but she says she wont be able to handle it when i leave for college. Which is only a couple of miles away, but we wont be seeing eachother at school. I tried to convince her that everything would be alright but she wont trust me. She said she wants to be friends so nothing will go wrong and she wont have to worry.
We see things very differently. She wants to be close friends and i dont. I see it as im looking at someone who i care about more then a friend but cant have. And she sees it as someone that she had a good relationship with.
I dont know what we are or what we are going to be. But i want us to be together, i want her to trust me. But i dont think thats going to happen. I dont know if this would change anything but she said that she's unhappy that i dont talk to her family alot.
My question is what do you think about this? What do you recommend that i do? And how is she feeling?

Unfortunately not all girls,but quite more then a few im one of them.If a girl really,really likes a guy and theres a chance that this "good" thing might end for whatever reason the girl will break it off before she gets more involved with the guy and ends up getting her heartbroken.Since your going away to college now things might change since you experience different things and people in college.My suggestion to you is this.If about a month or 2 in college you dont find any girl that compares to your ex,then id talk to her about getting back together.It will also make her feel more comfortable in the relationship if your already in college for quite a bit of time and your still thinking of her ya know? But for right now,ids just stick with being good friends for now,and then see what the future holds for you both.

If you have anymore questions just let me know! ;)

♥ danielle


Hmm the thing is i cant tell you what your hearts feeling.You said "i cant keep going through this" so im assuming this isnt the first time youve guys broken up.If she wants to come back to you again think,is it worth going through all of this again? if thsi isnt the first time she hurt you,id guard my heart this time and be a bit more cautious.Liek i said before,wait it out.Once your in college you might find the right girl you never know.So for right now id jsut remain friends and see what happens later on if both your feelings havent changed.

Thanks for the advice. I know i said she she said she wouldnt be able to handle not seeing me if we were together while i was in college. But your right maybe after a couple of weeks or months she would be able to. I guess i have one more questions. Weve been through some stuff like this and what should i do if she wants to come back to me? I cant keep going through this... we had been saying we loved eachother for a long time and it took us a long time to say it. But the day before she broke up with me she said she didnt know what it meant... and i feel like maybe the feelings are so mutual. Even though my hearts telling me they are

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