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Do all girls go through this?
Ok well im 17 and my girlfriend was 15. She broke up with me because she's to scared to lose me. She said when were together she feels like nothing can go wrong. But we don't get to see eachother as much as we want to and she starts missing me. She thinks alot and it always ends up ending what we have (its happened before). I love her but she says she wont be able to handle it when i leave for college. Which is only a couple of miles away, but we wont be seeing eachother at school. I tried to convince her that everything would be alright but she wont trust me. She said she wants to be friends so nothing will go wrong and she wont have to worry.
We see things very differently. She wants to be close friends and i dont. I see it as im looking at someone who i care about more then a friend but cant have. And she sees it as someone that she had a good relationship with.
I dont know what we are or what we are going to be. But i want us to be together, i want her to trust me. But i dont think thats going to happen. I dont know if this would change anything but she said that she's unhappy that i dont talk to her family alot.
My question is what do you think about this? What do you recommend that i do? And how is she feeling?
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Unfortunately not all girls,but quite more then a few im one of them.If a girl really,really likes a guy and theres a chance that this "good" thing might end for whatever reason the girl will break it off before she gets more involved with the guy and ends up getting her heartbroken.Since your going away to college now things might change since you experience different things and people in college.My suggestion to you is this.If about a month or 2 in college you dont find any girl that compares to your ex,then id talk to her about getting back together.It will also make her feel more comfortable in the relationship if your already in college for quite a bit of time and your still thinking of her ya know? But for right now,ids just stick with being good friends for now,and then see what the future holds for you both.
If you have anymore questions just let me know! ;)
♥ danielle
Hmm the thing is i cant tell you what your hearts feeling.You said "i cant keep going through this" so im assuming this isnt the first time youve guys broken up.If she wants to come back to you again think,is it worth going through all of this again? if thsi isnt the first time she hurt you,id guard my heart this time and be a bit more cautious.Liek i said before,wait it out.Once your in college you might find the right girl you never know.So for right now id jsut remain friends and see what happens later on if both your feelings havent changed.
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Well as you pointed out she is doubting your relationship.
I think she is trying to get out of it before she is to far in, she is doing it to prevent herself from getting hurt.
She thinks that if you stay together she will start liking you more and more, so that when you leave, it will only be worse for her, and you cant blame her for thinking you will get with someone else, you have seen the movies havnt you? Girl likes boy, boy goes off to college and starts sleeping with every girl he sees, girl finds out and dumps his ass over the summer (quote from american pie beta house haha)
I hope i have made sense.. if you have any questions just ask me :)
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--- In answer to your other question that you left me, If she comes back again then she obviously feels at the time that she would rather be with you even if she doubts you, then not at all. But she cant keep doing that and walking all over you because that is not fair so you have to sort let her know that she cant keep playing you that way just because she can't make up her own mind.
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