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alright, so, My ex who lives in america, broke my heart really bad by doing numerous things, he went to a wedding and told me he saw a hot blonde who looked like me, he asked a girl what her answer would be if he was single(whilst he was with me) and numerous other things as well. I realsize now it was stupid of me to think a long distance relationship like this would actually work, he hurt me real bad

Now, a close friend of mine, who is like a sister has recently told me she has a crush on him. The guy and i broke up three weeks before she told me this. She says she likes him but wants to tell him she likes him, point is im worried that he's going to do exactly what he did to me to her. and She is much more vulnerable than me in that shes a very emotional person, also its going to upset me alot if she dates my ex. As i'll have a constant reminder of him in my life, which i really dont want.
So what im asking is what should i do to make the situation good on both parts? i dont want to loose her...but i also am really against this relationship. He doesnt like her in that way but i dont want her to be hurt becuase of him.

female 15

hey there
believe it or not i was in the exact same situation..
all you can really do is talk to your friend,give her a warning let her know your just looking out for her and make it clear its not because you have feelings for him or being selfish or anything like that its just your worried he will hurt her like he did to you.
explain to her how hes no good and she can definately do better and how you really don't want him in your life after what he did.
if she doesnt listen to you and goes ahead and does it anyway well shes going to have to learn from her own mistakes,you tried to warn her theres mot much you can do then youve done what a good friend should do all you can do then is be there for her when the same thing happens,and don't be like I told you so.
I hope I helped =]
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(Rating: 5) thank you ever so much, you really helped me to understand..and i'll try my best to warn her..thank you

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