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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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I am the girl, who you gave advice on July 27th about how my families are split and I most likey will be moving. You did a really good job on giving me advice, however I do not have to choose. I am dependent on my mom, I can tell her everything. I love my dad just as much, but since he is a guy, he can't hear my girl needs or does he want to. haha. If I move, I will go with my mom. I don't want to leave my dad, but I know that I might have to. If I do though, I don't know how to tell him that I am moving. I hate being told what to do, I am not one to rebel or talk back to my dad, my dad runs a respectable household. He has raised me very well, so has my mom, but I know that he raised to follow God and put 100% of my faith in him. I'm not afriad of the idea of leaving my high school, or moving my house. My only fear is hurting my dad. I wouldn't leave for awhile, but I know that it might hurt him knowing that only 10 miles away (distance between my mom and dad's house) packing boxes. My dad hasn't talked to me about Georgia yet, I think he knows that its a hard topic for me. Wehever it is brought up I start crying, I hate crying in front of them because I feel like I am being immature when I am. But I get so angry ( I hold back my anger) when my step sister and step mom ask me questions about me possibly moving but when I tell them the truth, they get mad and tell me that I can't leave my dad. Do they really think that I can leave my mom or are they just angry? Then yesterday at my birthday party, my step sister asked me about what would happen if my step dad accepted the job. I told her that my step dad would move there intill my house is sold then my mom and I can join him. SHe got defensive and told me that I cant leave. I asked why not. She told me because my dad lives here in Ohio. I told her that my step dad couldn't be unemplyed, and that he is doing the best he can in finding another job to stay here, he doesn't want to move either, but we have to face reality. It got quiet after my step sisters fight, and I went to the bathroom. I don't know if they know this, but when I go to the bathroom I usually cry in there. I don't know what to do about my step sister and step mom. Can you help me, again?
Hey there,
im glad I could be of some help =)
Sorry I seemed to have misunderstood a bit.
of course your going to be worried about hurting your dad,and im not going to lie and say he won't be a little upset andd hurt he will be,but he wont punish you or judge you for it.
he as your father should respect your reasons for wanting to go with your mom and not try convince you otherwise,it will be tough but over time it will get easier and things will fall into place again in no time once you all ajust to it.
if it turns out you do have to move you have to sit down and talk to your dad,is the problem that he will try and stop you?
&& that your mom and step sister are telling you to stay with your dad?
if this is the case then you need to explain to them all calmly what you want.
tell them they are being insensitive to your feelings and they should hear you out and your reasons.
your mom and step sister don;t seem to understand have you talked to her about it?tried to make her see this from your perspective,they cant make you stay.its not fair.
they should want you to be happy.
you are not being immature everyone needs a good cry once and a while and espicially in this situation.
I honestly can't understand why they say you can't leave your dad doesnt what you want matter in all of this?
have you said that to them?
honestly I think the only solution to this now is,if you find out your moving sit down and have a talk about all your options witohut it being turned into a row.
make your voice reasons and opinions heard dont let anyone make them for you okay?
I do hope It doesnt come to the stage where you have to move,and I hope I understood corectly and helped some more this time!
please dont hesitate to inbox me again if i have gotten any aspect of this wrong or you need more help ( I have the flu so Im not functioning well haha.)
anyway best of luck
much
(Rating: 5) thank you for your help. i hope you feel better. god bless.