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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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15/f -i have a boyfriend of 11 months i love him so much but we fight nonstop. some friends ask how i put up with it n my only reason is that i love him. i really dont ever wana loose him but im starting to question a breakup what should i do, if we did breakup itd hurt us both so much but the fightings bringing me back to insanity and i start hallucinating again. but we also have alot of magical moments where we are on top of the world n i cant imagine anything better and were so deep in love were talking about when we have kids and our future. i love him so much but i cant handle the fighting anymore, what shud i do?
i also just started likeing a friend, and i feel so bad to like someone else, but does that mean me n my boyfriend are drifting? my boyfriend makes me cry atleast daily from the fights because he is very insecure n i try my hardest to help him, hes doing bad in school and he doesnt workout or do any kind of sports but is like pro guitarist. my dream guy is a guitarist, in great shape, secure in anything, smart and he is hott. and the guy i like has all of that plus hes 18. i designed his tattoo n he got it n shows me often as he flexs his muscles n smiles. he also sometimes helps me with what to say when me and my boyfriend are fighting. but he is my bestfriends brother, altho they are veryyy close so ther more like friends then siblings n us three went out yesterday and it was pretty sweet we kept flirting but i would stop and say something about my boyfriend to remind us both, but it was an overall best n sweetest time with my bestfriends, i like him, but i love my boyfriend even tho its tearing me up. but im never going to cheat. its a bipolar relationship eh, what do i do??
Hey there, =)
okay this is a tricky situation.
so im just going to put it simply to you, constant fighting where your extremely stressed out and it makes you cry everyday,or a break up that yes im not going to lie will hurt like hell and youl feel like crap for days but you WILL get over it.
so one big hurt or a constant cycle of hurt?
your only 15,the same age as me,do you really want to be thinking about spending years with just one person constantly fighting but staying together just for those rare but special moments?
or would you rather be free to enjoy yourself and have new expieriences go out with new people
this is the time when were supposed to be enjoying ourselves and going through different relationships to help us later on in life.
I think your current boyfriend is holding you back,and deep down your not truly happy,espically since your starting to like someone else.its your heart telling you,you need to move on.
In my opinion I think its for the best but its totally up to you,do what feels right.
dont hold back and stay in the relationship because of all the good times and magical moments you are going to have soo much more of them i promise you.
sometimes its better to just let go and look back and smile when you remember those times and move on.
now on to the guy you like. okay firstly deal with your boyfriend first,if you decide to break up with him don't immidiately go for this guy.
focus more right now on devoloping a friendship with this guy and nothing more,don't have intentions of anything else happening if that makes sense just get to know him more and see if your feelings devolop deeper over time if they do then go about persuing it if that makes sense.
but are you sure youd really want to start something with your friends brother,that almost always causes problems between friends,if anything does happen make sure your friend is ok with it because its not worth loosing a friendship over.
for the meantime concentrate on having fun with your friends and just hanging out don't stress yourself out too much over relationships with guys your 15 enjoy yourself.be carefree,thats how i live life anyway =)
I hope I was of any help to you!
Let me know what you decide to do or if you have any more questions,
best of luck &&
much
(Rating: 5) thank you sooo much. ..last night he was hinting about breaking up with me as we were fighting then said he didnt wana talk to me anymore n left but now his status is i love my girl so much :) ....thanks tho!