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So, in response to what you said, he was affectionate and lovey dovey in the beginning, when we saw eachother at school and stuff and a while after that, it's just like, this past month, i don't know what's going on. He used to say the sweetest things to me on text [he doesnt have his phone this week, since he's been on vacation so we talk when he goes online, sporadically] and it's not.. lovey dovey anymore. and so, why should I be "lovey dovey" if he's not that way back ? I dont even know if he notices or not, it's really bothering me. and like, if we get in a fight, thats when hes like baby i love you i couldnt do better blah blah. and at random times he'd just be like, i love you. he doesnt do that anymore, only when he has to go off aim, he'll say i love you or love you bye. or he'll say i wanna come home, i miss you. I dont know, it just doesnt feel like hes the same person anymore. and like, i was with my friend, and we took pictures an posted them on facebook, and he only commented on one, and said, "pretty" and i was just like, "gracias :]" its like.. i dont know, I JUST DONT KNOW. and i was talking to him on aim, and there was like a pause and he was like okay ill let you go have your fun with your friend. and then he said i love you [it felt like he didnt wanna talk to me.] so i was just like okay love you bye. ad i just left.. because before that he was like i wanna come home, and i was like, ill see you in a week. and he was like, ughhh. and i was like, well weve gone this long without seeing eachother another week wont hurtt. and he was like, yeah i guess. i dont know. like he makes me angry and frustrated. i dont know what's going on with him lately. i just want to be like, "so is anything wrong, you dont seem like yourself lately?" but i really dont want to start a fight. this is so hard and no one understands i just want to cry. ugh. and the only time he really shows his emotions or how he feels is when we're in a fight and he knows he might lose me. and he doesnt write fcbk notes, ive asked him too before, and he's liek i dont do that. so whatever. i fought for him for 8 months almost, and ive known him for 12 years, so yes, i think he's worth it, you probably would too if you went through all of that too. i dont know if he can change, i shouldnt want him to change, yuh know ? and i think thats what kills me most. I know im asking alot of you haha, but can you give me some more advice or help, i truly need it. I'm gonna have a mental breakdown.. aha. thank you so much, you don't know how much you've helped me, honestly.
Hey again,
now i have totally differnt thoughts on the whole issue.
I didnt realise he was still on vacation. how long has he been on it?
have you thought all this is because hes on vacation?its hard to be affectionate through a computer and he might not feel up to it.
maybe hes having to much of a good time?and its not that he doesnt care,just that he is too preocupied?
give him a little space and see how things are when he gets back from vacation? i think maybe hes starting to feel a little pesterd just relax and stop worrying yourself.
dont be scared to say what your really feeling because your worried it will start a fight your going to get no where then by keeping it all bottled up and this will just continue to go on and youl feel even more angry and frustrated,if your both mature enough to just talk about it,it shouldnt have to turn into a fight,so i would say go ahead and say just that.
ease off a little until he gets back from vacation just have fun with friends keep your mind off it dont over annaylise as i said before and deal with it head on when he gets back.it might not be you at all as to why he suddenly seems disinterested distnat and non affectionate,something could be going on with his family or anything you just never know which is why you need to tell him to stop shutting you out. and making you feel like someone whos just there,and not a gf.
I understand 12 years is along time,and yes i probably would too given the circumstances but theres only so much a person can take.
I know nobody ever wants someone to change but how you wish he was with you again should be automatic.
guys are like that only when they think they are loosing a girl then all the emotion comes out its harder for them to express themselves.
I think the only solution to this is to just talk to him honestly. dont sit around and anger yourself by waiting for him to figure it out.
awh im glad to help anytime =) nice to know that i am helping in some way too. =]
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